Have you ever met a stranger for sex?

Contributor: SMichelle SMichelle
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Originally posted by spiceboy
Oh there are definitely major creeps at bars! But even if someone follows you home, they wouldn't have the same access to information about you that someone meeting you online would have. That's why I said the risks are different.
Perhaps.

It's tough to decide which is riskier.. There are different risks to each, but I don't think that one is really worse than the other, when you get right down to it. There are just creeps everywhere. I guess surely everyone you meet in chatrooms isn't a creep/murderer/kidnapp er -- in fact, the chances are, that they're not (statistically speaking, anyway), just as every person in the bar is probably not a creep/murderer/kidnapp er.
12/27/2011
Contributor: Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
hm... I don't understand why you posted your friend's situation to a public forum. It seems a little rude and disrespectful, but whatever. Also, there are those on Eden that do meet strangers in bars and online and wherever else, and your poll seems biased and uncomfortably worded against them.

Anyway, yes, you can meet creepers online, but fun fact: an individual is more likely to be assaulted by someone they actually know on a close level, like a family member, than a random stranger. The whole "stranger danger" mentality is actually incredibly inaccurate and has led a false sense of security with close friends and family and an unfair assumption that all strangers are out to rape us or harm us. The Washington Post actually released an article about this a few weeks ago; I highly recommend you check it out.

As for your friend's situation... I've never met a complete stranger for sex, but I wouldn't judge someone if they did. I try to at least know someone's name before I have sex with them. However, there are people that actually get off on having sex with strangers and it's nice to be considerate of that.

Anyway, your friend is an adult and yes, she will be having sex with a stranger, but her best bet is to keep alcohol out of the equation as much as possible and set guidelines for both of them. Other than that, there's not much she or you can do.
12/27/2011
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
i would never. simply too dangerous. you could easily be sexually/intellectuall y/romantically incompatible, even if he wasn't a psycho killer.

i'm pretty picky about who i spend my time with. i can't see this going well, not for about a powerball's chance in hell.
12/28/2011
Contributor: Love Perpetua Love Perpetua
Not sure about that. I've always heard that you should meet in a public place before going somewhere private. At the very least she should tell someone she trusts exactly where she is going to be and who she is meeting.
12/28/2011
Contributor: Illumin8 Illumin8
Would never do this.
12/28/2011
Contributor: SMichelle SMichelle
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Originally posted by Ms. Spice
hm... I don't understand why you posted your friend's situation to a public forum. It seems a little rude and disrespectful, but whatever. Also, there are those on Eden that do meet strangers in bars and online and wherever else, and your ... more
I didn't name names, and she's aware that I posted it. I posted the situation because both she and I wanted outside opinions on it. But, thanks for the judgment.
12/28/2011
Contributor: Eva Schwaltz Eva Schwaltz
I haven't, and I won't.
12/28/2011
Contributor: averageguyextrodinarypleasure averageguyextrodinarypleasure
I'm too chicken I would say no
12/28/2011
Contributor: CreamySweet CreamySweet
Quote:
Originally posted by SMichelle
A friend of mine has been talking to a man for a few months online, and wants to meet him purely for sex. She would be traveling to meet him, due to the fact that he lives in an area that she's always wanted to visit. Her plan is to meet him in a ... more
Warning - the vid link attached is not work safe and x-rated so please be aware of that if curiosity gets the better of you and you decide to click it. Yes it's really of this even below.

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LOL And to answer your question, yes. It was a real random hook up. My husband put an add on Ashley Madison for me - to find me a play date. This guy responded to the add and asked if we could meet for coffee. Hubby and I both went and met him at a local coffee place but hubby stayed back and we came in separately. He was super cool, very hot, and he had an office in the town we live in that he comes to a couple days a week. So a few days went by and he had been sending me emails asking if I wanted to get together for some fun. I said I would be down but where did he want to meet? I didn't want to bring him back to our house especially with my husband gone at work. He said why don't you come to my office? He had already told me that he works by himself so having company at his work was not an issue. I called my husband who said of course to go for it. I decided I would dress in nothing but my shaved pussy and big titties, covered with a knee length wool trench coat and some cum-fuck-me heels. A little perfume and some earrings and make up and I was on the way. I did bring other clothes in a bag but was otherwise totally naked under my coat. I get there and guess what? Three story office building with an office receptionist for the entire building. Here I am looking like a blow up fuck doll and smelling of perfume and probably pussy because I was reallllllllly wet in anticipation. "Hi! I'm..... her to see (Mr. smith)" LOL. "Oh take a seat. Is he expecting you? I will call up?" Fortunately I made it about five feet before she said he said to "Come on up" and I was directed towards the elevator. I was in the door for about ten seconds before the coat was off and the BJ started about a minute after that. He fucked me on the desk, on his chair, used a 8" Doc Johnson dildo on me and then doubled me with it and him... In addition to the blow job and eating me out. Now if you can tell from the video...(Yes I brought my video camera and he filmed us) I'm not always super quiet... And my heels I am sure sounded like Santa and the Reindeer tap dancing on the ceiling of the office below from his second floor office. So anyway... There is not a way in hell the receptionist didn't know what was up! In fact she asked him later if I was his wife. He said no that I was just a client. She said oh ok, I thought your wife was taller and had blonde hair. She then mentioned about the building isn't super well insulated to him- I.E. He was caught dead to rights from my loud orgasmic mouth. We hooked up one time since and got driven all over the place in my excursion while he did me in the back which was also very cool. He want's to do another office hook-up but this time wear a mask and do a full on porno out of it. He He Good for me. But I'm not sure yet if I am going to go for it or not. he has sort of been replaced by a 23 year old fitness instructor from my gym who I have been wrecking who has the biggest cock I have ever seen in person.
12/28/2011
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by SMichelle
What happened to my forth option?? I did have a choice there that said "I would NEVER do that" but for some reason it didn't show up.
I was wondering where that NO WAY option went!!!????
12/28/2011
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
It is pretty obvious the NO WAY crowd here has said it very clearly. I join my voice to theirs. There is NOTHING about this that sounds like a good idea. You just do NOT know the "real" person till you have spent some face time together. Anything less then time getting to know each other puts you at RISK. Also, understand that meeting someone from out of town like this tells you NOTHING about the "real" them. You don't know who really has a wife and kids, or is a convicted child molester with signs all over their yard..etc. FIRST do some SERIOUS homework on who this person REALLY is...not what you HOPE they are. Be safe.
12/28/2011
Contributor: SMichelle SMichelle
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Originally posted by Bignuf
I was wondering where that NO WAY option went!!!????
I keep wondering the same thing.. LOL Wish it would let me edit it to add that option.
12/28/2011
Contributor: mistressg mistressg
Never have, don't think I ever could.
12/28/2011
Contributor: PeaceToTheMiddleEast PeaceToTheMiddleEast
Would never do that.
12/28/2011
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by SMichelle
A friend of mine has been talking to a man for a few months online, and wants to meet him purely for sex. She would be traveling to meet him, due to the fact that he lives in an area that she's always wanted to visit. Her plan is to meet him in a ... more
I did and it went so well I kept him...lol
12/28/2011
Contributor: Curiouscat Curiouscat
I have not, and would never meet a stranger for sex. It's not safe in any way. You don't know what diseases they might have, the stranger might even have some STD they don't even know about, especially if they meet people for sex.
Secondly they could turn out to be a creepy stalker or murderer or something.
You don't know anything about stranger even if she's been talking to him for a while because maybe he hasn’t told her something or is hiding something or is flat out lying to her.

Does not sound safe at all. All it takes is one mistake in life to ruin your whole life. I would never risk mine like this.
12/28/2011
Contributor: True Pleasures True Pleasures
I haven't, and I definitely wouldn't. She should at least have someone to check in on her, and give all her info to, in case something goes wrong.
12/28/2011
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
No, I haven't. I like to know I can trust someone before I give them something like that! I'm also looking for respect, not hollow sex.
12/28/2011
Contributor: married with children married with children
I pick have not and dont want to.
12/28/2011
Contributor: CreamySweet CreamySweet
Quote:
Originally posted by SMichelle
A friend of mine has been talking to a man for a few months online, and wants to meet him purely for sex. She would be traveling to meet him, due to the fact that he lives in an area that she's always wanted to visit. Her plan is to meet him in a ... more
I read most of the posts after mine and totally agree to the validity of your points. Being more the odd girl out I would also bring up this perspective.

How many of you have been married and got divorced because the person you trusted and married turned out to not be who or what you thought they were? How many of you were cheated on by spouses or significant others that have potentially exposed you to risks from who they slept with when you assumed you were safe sleeping with the person you trusted? How many husbands and wives, girlfriends and boyfriends are beaten by the person they have trusted and been with? How many spouses have been murdered, raped or abdu ted by their significant other? How many children are beaten or kidnaped or worse by parents or family that youknew and trusted? The truth is no matter who it is there is a possible unknown. I choose to live the way I choose knowing and calculating the choices and decisions I make and take.
12/29/2011
Contributor: RonLee RonLee
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Originally posted by CreamySweet
I read most of the posts after mine and totally agree to the validity of your points. Being more the odd girl out I would also bring up this perspective.

How many of you have been married and got divorced because the person you trusted and ... more
Not only well said, I agree.
12/29/2011
Contributor: switzerland switzerland
i have never. not sure if i could. there always has to be an emotional aspect of sex for me. it's a personal thing for me... but to each their own! i've always wished i could do something like that. it would be very exciting!
12/29/2011
Contributor: Missmarc Missmarc
Quote:
Originally posted by SMichelle
A friend of mine has been talking to a man for a few months online, and wants to meet him purely for sex. She would be traveling to meet him, due to the fact that he lives in an area that she's always wanted to visit. Her plan is to meet him in a ... more
Nope, I have not. I have considered it.
01/05/2012
Contributor: Modern^Spank^Anthem Modern^Spank^Anthem
an entire week...sounds like a lot of time for someone to go missing unless she knows him spending that much time is dangerous
01/05/2012
Contributor: SMichelle SMichelle
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Originally posted by Modern^Spank^Anthem
an entire week...sounds like a lot of time for someone to go missing unless she knows him spending that much time is dangerous
how is spending a week with someone any more dangerous than spending a night? I mean, if he did have negative intentions and was a danger.
01/05/2012
Contributor: PeaceToTheMiddleEast PeaceToTheMiddleEast
Is there a option for no? LOL.
01/05/2012
Contributor: Katelyn Katelyn
I think the meeting in public place idea is great but I also think that this is way less risky than meeting someone in a bar. Great discussion : )
01/05/2012
Contributor: SMichelle SMichelle
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Originally posted by PeaceToTheMiddleEast
Is there a option for no? LOL.
LOL there was! -- but it didn't show up.
01/05/2012
Contributor: Cherry21 Cherry21
Quote:
Originally posted by SMichelle
I didn't name names, and she's aware that I posted it. I posted the situation because both she and I wanted outside opinions on it. But, thanks for the judgment.
bahaha
01/05/2012
Contributor: DreamWolf DreamWolf
Used to do it regularly for a while, years and years ago... Some went well, some were awful, oh well, the nature of such activities... ^^
01/30/2012