Have you had a hysterectomy?

Have you had a hysterectomy?

captainsgirl captainsgirl
Let me try and sum up a long story. I had my first child at 19, she was born 14 weeks early and passed at 2 days old. I found out while prego with my second I had a weak cervix. I had a procedure done and was able to carry her to 36 weeks. While pregnant with my 3rd, I went into labor at 31 weeks and finally gave birth at 33 weeks. She spend 2 weeks in the NICU. About a year later we started trying for number 4, during the process I started have agonizing pain. After a year of TTC and researching my pain, I was diagnosed with endometriosis. I had the option of going in and scraping away all scar tissue in uterus and tubes. However, I could not handle the pain. At the age of 27 years old I had a hysterectomy. Found out it was horrible, I also had a hole in my uterin wall and i had cysts all over my ovaries. Now over 2 years later...I am still not dealing well with not being able to have kids anymore. Every time my husband and I make love, I cry because I think of what could have been. I am thankful for my blessings, but it still sucks really bad. So I was just curious as to if there are any other younger women out there who had to have a hysterectomy?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
no-I have my uterus
ViVix , ginnyluvspotter , Raymaker , humblepie , nikki0668 , Kiss , *Camoprincess* , brevado , Real or memorex , xscorpiox , Bleu , Apirka , The Vixen , kitty1949 , Martiniman , darthkitt3n , Kirill1171 , Strider , FemmeFlo , Sera26 , Marie Hanna , sweetpea12 , EmuLove , Isola , llellsee
25  (93%)
yes -I had mine between age 20-25
js250
1  (4%)
yes-I had mine between age 26-30
captainsgirl
1  (4%)
yes-i had mine between age 31-35
yes-i had mine between age 36-40
yes-i had mine betwen age 41 and up
Total votes: 27
Poll is closed
01/23/2013
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Chilipepper Chilipepper
I'm so sorry you had to go through all that. My cousin found out six months into marriage that she had endometriosis with no chance of conceiving and it destroyed her to the point in which she and her husband divorced (she handled it worse than he did and got extremely destructive in her grief). She's counting down the days until she has to have it all taken out. She's in her mid-20's.
01/23/2013
ViVix ViVix
Quote:
Originally posted by captainsgirl
Let me try and sum up a long story. I had my first child at 19, she was born 14 weeks early and passed at 2 days old. I found out while prego with my second I had a weak cervix. I had a procedure done and was able to carry her to 36 weeks. While ...
I haven't had one, but I feel for you. If I could give you my uterus, I would!
01/23/2013
ginnyluvspotter ginnyluvspotter
I did not get a hysterectomy but when I was 22 I got my tubes tied and there are a lot of times I wish I could have another baby but I am glad that I had it done. Sorry for what has happened to you I hope you can work it out.
01/23/2013
Raymaker Raymaker
I'm sorry to hear about everything you've had to go through! I have a uterus but for gender-identity reasons I actually rather wish not to have one. It's still not something they'll just let a young person whose never had a child do though. Things often don't work out the way they should.
01/23/2013
captainsgirl captainsgirl
Quote:
Originally posted by ViVix
I haven't had one, but I feel for you. If I could give you my uterus, I would!
aww thank you. we do plan on adopting once i finish my school. But it is not the same. There is just something about losing my womb so young. Especially when I wasnt' ready.
01/23/2013
Chelynn67 Chelynn67
Quote:
Originally posted by captainsgirl
Let me try and sum up a long story. I had my first child at 19, she was born 14 weeks early and passed at 2 days old. I found out while prego with my second I had a weak cervix. I had a procedure done and was able to carry her to 36 weeks. While ...
I had mine when I was 23 yrs, it wasn't long past when I had my 2nd child, a little girl. I did lose 1 between the 2 though. I have felt both happy and sad. Before I don't think I would have said this but now, it's been a blessing.
01/23/2013
*Camoprincess* *Camoprincess*
I don't even know why they gave you the option of a hysterectomy. Personally if you wanted kids still I would have had the Endoscopy done. I have Endometriosis and went with the Endoscopy, I won't have a hysterectomy unless it is necessary. I wish you luck though on your journey. Please don't take my response the wrong way. I was 16 when I was diagnosed with it.
01/23/2013
brevado brevado
Not yet
01/23/2013
Real or memorex Real or memorex
I am so sorry to hear about it. My condolences on getting through that very invasive procedure. I don't think your life is over, though. There are many ways to have kids and you are still young with many opportunities. Good luck.
01/23/2013
xscorpiox xscorpiox
i have a uterus
01/23/2013
js250 js250
I had endometriosis and a full hysterectomy when I was 22. I remember every day, crying, looking at pregnant people and feeling empty--the feeling of being like a spayed 'cat'. I would have tried to commit suicide over the lack of "me" if I had not just been through so much and also if not for my 2 year old daughter. I would love the opportunity to help you through this situation and the emotions involved--that is a huge part of the doctors lack of knowledge, our feelings afterwards!!! Message me!!!!
01/24/2013
js250 js250
Quote:
Originally posted by *Camoprincess*
I don't even know why they gave you the option of a hysterectomy. Personally if you wanted kids still I would have had the Endoscopy done. I have Endometriosis and went with the Endoscopy, I won't have a hysterectomy unless it is necessary. I ...
I had laproscopy and a d&c and another laproscopy and another....for two years, the DR. tried to save my uterus, but it was not to be. The disease was too aggressive. I am so glad you were diagnosed young and a positive remedy!!! That gives me hope for my own daughter if, God forbid!, she inherits the disease.
01/24/2013
Bleu Bleu
I still have my uterus...I don't want kids so I feel like if there were some way to give my uterus to someone who wanted kids more than me (a way to donate) I totally would. I would rather adopt. I don't have those DNA/genetic ties to anything and don't see myself ever going "I wanted it to be MY egg that the kid comes from."

But I'm so sorry that happened to you. You could have my uterus if advances made it possible?
01/24/2013
Apirka Apirka
No, though sometimes I wish I didn't have one. I'm not too keen on having children to begin with.
01/24/2013
kitty1949 kitty1949
No, I still have mine... it is the ultimate last resort for my disorder (PMDD) and I'm still dabbling around with antidepressants and self help strategies to get through it. I don't think I want children, but that may change later... that's why I haven't pursued it. Well, that, on top of money, and I can't see many doctors giving an otherwise perfectly healthy 24 year old a hysterectomy because of a hormone/mental disorder. Ugh.
01/24/2013
Kirill1171 Kirill1171
no-I have my uterus
01/24/2013
butts butts
I'm sorry to hear that yours was unwanted, that's very unfortunate.

Personally, I'd do just about anything for a hysto, as a transsexual, I have NO interest in owning a uterus, honestly I'd donate mine to you if that were in any way possible.
01/24/2013
FemmeFlo FemmeFlo
I'm very sorry to hear your story. If you're still keen on having more children, perhaps you could adopt? I know it's not the same, but it might be the best you can get.
01/24/2013
captainsgirl captainsgirl
Quote:
Originally posted by *Camoprincess*
I don't even know why they gave you the option of a hysterectomy. Personally if you wanted kids still I would have had the Endoscopy done. I have Endometriosis and went with the Endoscopy, I won't have a hysterectomy unless it is necessary. I ...
They did give me the option, but mine was so bad the pain and bleeding was unbearable.
01/24/2013
captainsgirl captainsgirl
Quote:
Originally posted by js250
I had laproscopy and a d&c and another laproscopy and another....for two years, the DR. tried to save my uterus, but it was not to be. The disease was too aggressive. I am so glad you were diagnosed young and a positive remedy!!! That gives me ...
ya i went thru all that too
01/24/2013
captainsgirl captainsgirl
Quote:
Originally posted by FemmeFlo
I'm very sorry to hear your story. If you're still keen on having more children, perhaps you could adopt? I know it's not the same, but it might be the best you can get.
yes we plan on it, but it still doesnt make it any easier.
01/24/2013
sweetpea12 sweetpea12
Quote:
Originally posted by captainsgirl
Let me try and sum up a long story. I had my first child at 19, she was born 14 weeks early and passed at 2 days old. I found out while prego with my second I had a weak cervix. I had a procedure done and was able to carry her to 36 weeks. While ...
No I have mine still, but I do want to have a hysterectomy soon. I don't want my period anymore, and I don't plan on having children.
01/24/2013
EmuLove EmuLove
My mom had a hysterectomy for the same reasons. I have poly cystic ovarian syndrome and would either have an unending period or never starting period without birth control. Ovarian cysts and ovarian polyps run in my family. I am sorry you had to go through this, my mom was much older than you when she had it done and it was very hard on her. Nothing is the same as a child you created but there are always children that would love you forever that don't have families.
01/24/2013
Angelica Angelica
No but I really want one for many reasons. Too bad its not something you can elect to have. My mom had one though a few years ago.
01/24/2013
Big&Bald Big&Bald
My lady has hers.
01/24/2013
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