How do you feel about adult porn sites?

How do you feel about adult porn sites?

♥ Amanda ♥ ♥ Amanda ♥
Women and Men-
How do you feel about your partner watching porn sites or live web cams. Not just around you, but in their own private time. Possibly while you are at work or asleep? If they don't, how would you feel if they did?
07/15/2010
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Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
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Originally posted by ♥ Amanda ♥
Women and Men-
How do you feel about your partner watching porn sites or live web cams. Not just around you, but in their own private time. Possibly while you are at work or asleep? If they don't, how would you feel if they did?
I know that my man doesn't do this - not because he has no desire to, but because he is about as computer literate as a toothbrush. He does however watch porn on DVD, sometimes with me and sometimes alone. I honestly have absolutely no problem with it, not only because I want him to enjoy himself, but because I probably watch more than he does, whether it be on DVD or internet. He is aware of this and is doesn't mind at all.

In my mind it's simply enjoyable adult entertainment, although I know some people have other issues with it like that they feel it is degrading or just wrong or dirty. I simply don't see it that way for myself or my partner.
07/15/2010
~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
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Originally posted by Tori Rebel
I know that my man doesn't do this - not because he has no desire to, but because he is about as computer literate as a toothbrush. He does however watch porn on DVD, sometimes with me and sometimes alone. I honestly have absolutely no problem ...
We talked about this recently. It turned out that we both masturbated and watched porn while the other was asleep (different times during the day) on a day we got in a spat and we taking time alone. It bothered both of us that we didn't know even though we both did it. It was one of those things where you don't think anything of it until someone does it to you.

So...we both agreed that we have absolutely no problem with it as long as we are honest about it and don't hide it. I would not be okay with a porn networking site or live cams. I consider this cheating. Anything live interactive is cheating to me and my partner knows how I feel about this. He feels the same way.

Other than hiding it, the only time I'd have a problem with it is if we COULD have sex and don't and then one of us goes off on their own to watch porn. Like no ones mad, no ones sick, no one is out of town...that sort of thing. This has never happened but if it were to I wouldn't want to continue a relationship where the other person preferred their solo time over time with me. I don't know how people stay in relationships like that.

We watch porn together more than we watch it separate and when we masturbate separate we do it to pictures of each other or films we have made. We don't have a huge need for porn anyways.
07/15/2010
Alicia Alicia
Well, neither of us really watch much porn alone. He'll sometimes watch snippets if he heard something really cool happened in it or something like that. He usually masturbates in the shower since it's the easiest for both privacy and clean up, so not really the option of porn there unless we get a tv in the bathroom. There might be the rare occasion that he watches something on his computer alone, but I doubt it. If it turns out he does, I don't really care unless he was doing that instead of being with me. But I know that if we're not fighting and I'm not sick or something he'd much rather be with me than watch porn alone.

I personally read erotica and visit literotica rather than watch porn. Sometimes if he's out I'll put on cinemax porn that we have on the DVR or something, but I don't really get into it on the computer. I'm like him where I might watch a snippet but it's not for the purpose of masturbation. Porn really only does it for me if we watch it together for some reason. If I watch it alone I just kind of sit and watch it..
07/15/2010
P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by ♥ Amanda ♥
Women and Men-
How do you feel about your partner watching porn sites or live web cams. Not just around you, but in their own private time. Possibly while you are at work or asleep? If they don't, how would you feel if they did?
As far as I know, I have never visited a porn site in my sleep.

Awake? Hell, yeah. But, not while sleeping. At work? I'd have to be crazy.

I don't like live web cams. I am not really all the fond of "Amateur Porn" I like either Vintage stuff from the 70s and 80s, when I am in the mood once in a while. We have a collection of DVDs and My Man has an OLD collection of VHS tapes, and we visit sites once in a while, but it seems to go in spurts. I may not view any for months and then for a while can't get enough, and then basically forget about it for a while.

I like to read erotica at times, but that goes in spurts, too. I am waiting for Alison Tyler's new one to come back in stock at Amazon, so it's on order. I think it's called Slave to Love.
07/15/2010
sweet sally sweet sally
With my current bf, our saying pretty much is, "it's yours you can touch it if you want to". If that happens to include porn, well whatever. BUT..we have an awesome, healthy sex life and are completely open about everything.

However, my ex and I had issues with this. He would masturbate ALOT to internet porn and dvd. But, could not perform with me. This is where the problems come to be. When someone actually starts preferring fantasy over their partner.

As for live web cams, I don't think either of us would be okay with that unless the other person is present. I really don't have to worry about that because he barely knows how to turn a computer on. lol
07/15/2010
Gary Gary
Porn is great. Eventually it will all be online or just on the computer... and I guess there will be porn on the phone too.
07/15/2010
00 00
We (myself and hubby) both watch porn from time to time..sometimes alone, often when we are together. No problem with it as it often leads to us engaging each other in a deeper intimacy and communication not to mention sex. Although we communicate daily on our web-cams with each other, and have often used it in mutual masturbation when we had to be away from each other due to work, we do not watch others who use webcam for exhibitionism whether it is for money or personal kink.
07/15/2010
Lady Venus Lady Venus
I guess I would be the porn watcher in the house! LOL Im usually the one trying to get him to watch it with me. Hubby doesn't mind me watching porn or going on live cam sites.
07/16/2010
TitsMcScandal TitsMcScandal
I watch way more porn than he does. We are both fine with it. It was never really expressly talked about in the beginning [considering we met on a forum at a porn site we figured we both looked at it]. We rarely watch it together, but when we do it is fun. I have no problem with him watching porn as long as it doesn't cut into our sex life. If he's jacking off and then doesn't have a desire to fuck, I'd be pissed. However he usually uses it as a measure of foreplay for himself or to get ideas for new sexy fun times [he mostly watches bdsm porn so he can get some fun new ideas often].

As for me, I just have a high sex drive and need to get off more often than he does. He understands that and has no problem with me watching porn to facilitate my solo times.
07/16/2010
Red Vinyl Kitty Red Vinyl Kitty
I am a web cam girl, and have been ever since I turned 18. My husband knows this, encourages it, loves it! He often likes to hear me tell him about the things I did on camera. We don't consider it cheating because I never ever meet the people in real life. Plus, my husband and me have sort of an open relationship, so I guess he doesn't get jealous about those sorts of things easily.

As far as him watching porn, I have no problem with that. In fact, I encourage it! I love porn as well, so we often enjoy it together.
07/16/2010
SexyySarah SexyySarah
We are both very open about the fact of porn. I don't care if he watches it and he doesn't either, I love watching it together though, it's much better. But if I'm not in the mood or he's not, it's a good release! NOW, it can get out of hand, but hasn't yet here! I think because we are so open about it!
07/16/2010
Jul!a Jul!a
I think the only time I'd have a problem with it is if he chose porn over me, but there have been times where I just haven't been in the mood but I've still enjoyed watching him while he watches his porn. We both have such crazy schedules that we don't have much free time together so neither of us really has a problem with the other watching porn while the one is at work. Your mood strikes at different times, there's not much that can be done about it.
07/16/2010
sexysweetieshan sexysweetieshan
Hubby and I don't watch porn alone, unless we talk about it first and know we are going to. Porn is something we use to get ready for each other, together. We watch porn together mostly.
07/26/2010
♥ Amanda ♥ ♥ Amanda ♥
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Originally posted by P'Gell
As far as I know, I have never visited a porn site in my sleep.

Awake? Hell, yeah. But, not while sleeping. At work? I'd have to be crazy.

I don't like live web cams. I am not really all the fond of "Amateur Porn" I ...
I didn't mean you watch it while you are asleep, I was talking about your partner. What if you were sleeping, and he/she went off and was watching live cam sites... how would you feel?
07/27/2010
♥ Amanda ♥ ♥ Amanda ♥
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Originally posted by Gary
Porn is great. Eventually it will all be online or just on the computer... and I guess there will be porn on the phone too.
There is already phone porn. Heheheh
07/27/2010
Blinker Blinker
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Originally posted by ~LaUr3n~
We talked about this recently. It turned out that we both masturbated and watched porn while the other was asleep (different times during the day) on a day we got in a spat and we taking time alone. It bothered both of us that we didn't know even ...
What Lauren said goes for me to. She stole my words, dammit
07/27/2010
Annemarie Annemarie
Quote:
Originally posted by ♥ Amanda ♥
Women and Men-
How do you feel about your partner watching porn sites or live web cams. Not just around you, but in their own private time. Possibly while you are at work or asleep? If they don't, how would you feel if they did?
My partner actually doesn't like porn at all, so no issue there.

We really haven't talked about it, but I think that he wouldn't have any issue with me watching porn, whether he was there or not.
07/27/2010
P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by ♥ Amanda ♥
I didn't mean you watch it while you are asleep, I was talking about your partner. What if you were sleeping, and he/she went off and was watching live cam sites... how would you feel?
I know, I was teasing about watching in my sleep.

He has looked at porn, either DVDs, VHS and online, both with me, and while I was asleep. I've done the same, with him and without him (My taste in porn is a little spicier than his.) We've decided not to do the live web cam thing, both agreeing it doesn't mesh with our relationship.

If he WANTED to watch them? We'd have to discuss it, I guess. We're pretty open with each other, been together for more than 20 years, it's pretty hard to keep secrets, and you get to the point where you just don't feel the need to keep any secrets, for most important things.

If he LIED, well yeah, I'd be upset. But, he doesn't. But, then ANY lying is in the same category, sexual or not.
07/27/2010
oohlookasquirrel oohlookasquirrel
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Originally posted by ♥ Amanda ♥
Women and Men-
How do you feel about your partner watching porn sites or live web cams. Not just around you, but in their own private time. Possibly while you are at work or asleep? If they don't, how would you feel if they did?
My boyfriend of 8 years or so and I both watch porn separately. Sometimes our relationship is long-distance, and sometimes one or both of us is so busy that our schedules don't really allow for the great, time-consuming sex we like to have. I think it's important that we both have something to help us get off when one of us is horny and the other is unavailable for sex. I wouldn't mind if he watched live webcams or chatted with someone online for sex, as long as I was always informed if some sort of repeated relationship was forming and as long as his relationship with the porn does not take precedence over his relationship with me. As long as he shows me that I am his primary partner, I don't mind if he has a secondary sexual outlet.

We don't consume it together during sex, but occasionally one of us will call the other into the room or pass on a link that was noteworthy. I'll loan him DVDs I buy or receive as bonuses with sex toy orders. We can talk about the porn we like together and use it as inspiration for new things to try. I frequently stumble upon a picture that really pushes my buttons unexpectedly, and I try to figure out what's so hot about it and try to add an element of that into my own sex life. I might not know that I was into submission if I hadn't been looking at porn, because my partners have always been so eager to please and low pressure in bed, with no dominance at all (until I started asking for it!). Thanks, porn!

I don't see why him watching porn should be any different than me having a box full of sex toys that he knows about and approves of. If I started spending thousands of dollars on sex toys, hiding them from him, and preferring my sex toys over sex with him, then we'd have a problem. But as long as we're both open and honest about our solo fantasy lives and they come second to our relationship, no harm done.
07/27/2010
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