I think anyone would have felt awful. I'm sure I would have.

That SUCKS, for her to have said that. Just INCREDIBLY tactless and idiotic. In your position, I think I would have reacted pretty much the same as you did. I sure wouldn't have known what to say. Even after thinking about it for several minutes, I can't think of an appropriate response to something so clueless.

I would have done the same thing as you....wondered what the hell she was talking about then bawled when I realized what it was!!! I wish this had not happened to you--I have seen your lingerie reviews and pictures, so do not think it is all you!!! You do not look pregnant to me, no way, no how! Take her words with a grain of salt. I have had women ask me how much milk I produce--based on my boobs....I am 43--there better not be any milk in there or I have a pituitary tumor that needs removed!!!

You know, there are many people we encounter in our lives--and most are insignificant to our actual life. Treat her as an insignificant person you would just rather forget. Remember how talented of a writer, wife, and person you are--well above getting upset by those type of remarks!! Hugs--

I probably would have made one or more smart assed remarks about her expecting some brain cells.

I would have told her to fuck off and "No, I'm not pregnant *is fixed* you're just stupid.

First off it isn't any of that woman's business if you are or not.
Secondly, she is in a customer service position, sales at that, just her mentioning that goes to show how truly unaware she is of the people she meets and how to speak with them in a polite and courteous manner. (I use the word unaware, but I mean so much worse)
Thirdly, I would never even say something to that to someone I know who I think might be, it is up to the individual to divulge that personal information, if they even want to.
You have every right to be upset with her and to cry, I would to.

I see js250 mentioning all the achievements in your life, that is what truly counts, who you are as an individual.

I agree with js250: Treat her as an insignificant person you would just rather forget.

Some people are rude. I would NEVER say anything unless the person was CLEARLY showing and in maternity clothes. I do believe that you can usually tell if someone is pregnant, larger, very overweight people, it hard to tell so I just wouldn't even go there. I'm as big as I've ever been, I have some chub on me. 5yrs ago I was working at a pharmacy and my back was killing me so I was standing there holding my back, I had on a baggy scrub top. I had a lady ask me if I've been having back pain much in my pregnancy. I thought "are you effing serious?!" I just straight looked at her and said, "I'm NOT pregnant, I'm fat and my back hurts" and she was speechless. I don't even think I was really that out of shape then to even call myself fat. I've heard it from other people too, small girls with a tiny gut on them but they clearly weren't pregnant. They didn't have that SOLID baby belly. Just ignore it. I know it's hard. I'd be offended but I'd handled it like I did- shock factor.
I think ANY woman should know better than to say that to someone unless it was clearly obvious. But, there are always ignorant people.
Like it was said above, it's not their business anyways. I've heard pregnant people get bitchy with a stranger that asked them questions. Personally, when I do become pregnant, I have no problem with someone asking me questions and don't really get why people do get upset when they are and someone asks how far or boy/girl?

Oh my gosh, I am so sorry. People just have no common sense sometimes. I would have reacted just like you.

I probably would have reacted the same way. Though while I was waiting for the screen to load so I can post I thought to myself "I bet she was glowing and that's why she said that". You were probably just particularly beautiful in an expectant mother kind of way and she took it upon herself to poke her nose where it doesn't belong.

Please don't let those two seconds of a stranger's momentary lapse of reason affect the rest of your life. Five pounds is a sneeze comparatively and there's no reason for you to carry this with you.

I weigh less than 100 lbs and I've had people ask if I was pregnant...

A smart remark back at her would have been my reaction!

My reaction would have been the same as yours. After crying, I would have just been plain mad though.

Try not to take it to heart though. The dress probably had something to do with it. If it's how I am imagining it, then the style isn't always flattering. I have dresses like that. which my boyfriend and I refer to as my "baby dresses" since they make me look pregnant.

Either way, the woman has no tact and I'm sorry you went through that.

I would have felt the same way you did, then maybe ask for a manager and tell them what happened. She was way out of line to do that and even if you were pregnant she's not even close enough to where she should feel comfortable in case that person isn't actually pregnant. Unless you know them you shouldn't just assume that they are pregnant right after looking at them. Don't worry about it too much, maybe your clothes might have been a little tight?

WOW. Now I'm not a woman, so that comment towards me would have just been absolutely silly, but what an awful rude thing to assume and SAY OUT LOUD! There's a few things you should never assume, and that's definitely one of them (along with people's orientation, gender/sex, preferences, etc.)
Never assume someone is pregnant unless they tell you, some people carry weight differently. Like your story proves, it's pretty damn upsetting to the person receiving the unnecessary comment, especially from someone working customer service, she should be written up for behavior like that.

Over these past months I've been stuck in a sassy biatch mode, so she'd have gotten an equally rude reply. Prolly something along the lines of "No I'm not pregnant, I just ate your husband, and damn was he good!"

~M

That's so mean! People shouldn't say that unless it's really painfully obvious. I would've probably been sarcastic back but, wow.

It really is heart warming to read so many supportive messages.