If you don't understand how reproduction works, you shouldn't be having kids.. - Created by Kayla&JJ ♥ on Jun 24, 2012: EdenFantasys Forum

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Originally posted by Princess-Kayla ♥

I grew up in a very southern hillbilly town, and almost everyone in my graduating class last year is having babies, and there are several people even younger than that. I realized though that looking through some of people's facebook comments, ... more

Babies havin' babies. Sounds EXACTLY like my town! I'm from Georgia, and love it here, but suddenly when I got into high school all of my friends decided their only desire for life was giving birth before they graduated. Ugh. I'm 22 now. I lost both of my children, but we have our lovely non-biological children who matter just the same. However, we switch out with their biological parents throughough the year. I would've never chosen to have children in high school. I went to college first. People think my partner and I are screwed up because we haven't actually kept trying to have our own babies. I wish they'd leave it alone. I lost both of mine and don't want to try again. I'm happy with the kids we have and at their ages, I can still work and have a good career and children. Women think I'm less than because I haven't given up on my dream and career to have babies. I hear it ALL the time.

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06/24/2012

Chilipepper

My ex-husband's two nieces (who live in Arkansas) started having kids their senior years in high school. Both still haven't reached their mid-20's and they have six kids between them now - and one of them is pregnant again. They both had to give up college scholarships (all expenses paid, no less!) because they got pregnant.

If I were still married to their uncle, I would have every right to scream "HAVEN'T YOU LITTLE TRAMPS HEARD OF BIRTH CONTROL???" It pisses me off that - in this day and age - there is an outright refusal to take reproductive responsibility.

Honestly - not being sarcastic - I do hope my ex is happy being the Family Babysitter. He's always wanted kids, but we never had our own. (Mr. No-Libido was under the impression that we'd have an Immaculate Conception. *facepalm*)(I'm glad I left that family.)

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06/24/2012

cryinglightning86

This sounds a bit like a lot of the girls from home - I'm from a relatively small town in Georgia. I reckon it isn't their fault. It's a shame that we're raised in a culture that demonizes sex in all of its forms, even talking about it. Or at least not having any substantial conversation about it. These girls aren't stupid. They're misinformed and misguided. It's really sad. It scares me to think that if I didn't have a mother like the one I had (that answered all of my questions about sex, no matter how cringe-worthy), I might have ended up like one of those girls.

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06/24/2012

P'Gell

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Originally posted by cryinglightning86

This sounds a bit like a lot of the girls from home - I'm from a relatively small town in Georgia. I reckon it isn't their fault. It's a shame that we're raised in a culture that demonizes sex in all of its forms, even talking about ... more

Why isn't it "their fault?" Do these "small towns" not have libraries or internet connections?

I learned everything I knew about birth control from my library encyclopedias! My parents were Catholic and didn't know anything about birth control themselves (God did them a favor by invoking secondary infertility, if you saw the marriage when it dissolved... imploded) so I didn't "know" about birth control.

I knew I would be having sex soon (I was dating,) so I went to the library, got out the encyclopedias, in "S" and "C." Sex for "Sex" and C for "Contraception." I read, learned and even Xeroxed some pages to take home. Then I bought some spermicidal foam and after a pregnancy scare after the first month, got my teenage ass to Planned Parenthood.

Anyone could do the same. I think one should be an adult or at least act like one to have children. If you have them young, at least LEARN what is going to happen, what to expect and what you NEED to know to be a good parent.

With books and the internet, there is NO reason to be ignorant. (And, when I started having sex there wasn't easily accessible internet, so I had to rely on a library.)

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06/24/2012

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I think a lot of this stems from the fact that many Bible-belt schools don't teach any form of birth control and instead resort to abstinence as the only way.
It is a shame that in these areas the parents fail to teach their kids about basic human reproduction and then refuse to allow the schools to fill in the gap. Often harassing and demanding the resignation of anyone who would try to help these kids.I find that with many parents there is the misconception that if the kids don't know anything then they won't have sex, but in reality you simply end up with more unwanted pregnancies.

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06/24/2012

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Originally posted by P'Gell

Why isn't it "their fault?" Do these "small towns" not have libraries or internet connections?

I learned everything I knew about birth control from my library encyclopedias! My parents were Catholic and didn't know ... more

I honestly don't think that many of these kids have the forethought to think of doing the research for themselves.
Also, I grew up in a small southern town and the "good hearted" school librarian went through all of the encyclopedias with a sharpie and blacked out anything "ungodly" and all the Internet was heavily filtered.
While it would be nice if kids acted more like intellectual little adults, the truth is most of them are thoughtless little fleshbags of hormones. The true fault lies with their life teachers, whether it be a parents/guardian, their school teachers or an adult family friend. It is these kids elders who need to be stepping up to the plate.

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06/24/2012