Basically, ours did last year when he was 12. I've been really firm with making it clear that you respect people's privacy, and ours do big time. Our oldest -- 15 would never go through my things. However, my nephew who we care for will not listen! He's almost a teenager now & will pick up shit from all over my bedroom.

I've explained this privacy thing to them all. All the kids, our kids and my neices and nephews who we keep. The 3 year old came across one when she was 1 because it was bright pink and showing through a box. She just asked to have it and we told her no. Didn't have to explain to a 1 year old that it was a massager! LOL

Now as for the others, I've lied and said all sorts of things like "that's a stress reliever you squeeze." LOL. Or a head massager! Ha Ha.

But when it comes to the one, he will not damn listen and I'm so fed up with it. Just last night he starts digging through my things. I've told him a billion times that you don't go through a girl's things. My partner and I have both gone over how rude and disrespectful it is and he doesn't care. When he stays with his mom on the weekends, I guess she doesn't make him follow rules or have any respect because when he comes back, he does this kind of thing. Anyways, I finally told him that if he continues to go through my things, he's going to come across something disturbing and something he doesn't want to see eventually. Seems that didn't even work. It's better when he's not been away for a long time.

So I really don't know what I'll say when he does come across one again. He's a teen now, so I can't exactly get him to believe anything. The last incident was a brand new glass dildo that had just came in the mail as he come home from school. I tossed the package under the bed & left the dildo (doesn't look like a dildo, but a decoration piece anyway) standing up behind the TV in hopes he wouldn't spot it. He did. And said "omg! EW! What is that?" I said "a decoration. What the hell do you think and why are you saying ew? What is wrong with you?" Then he just thought he had the dirty mind and left it at that. Ha Ha. Pisses me off though.

I guess maybe it'll take him actually knowing what it is when he decides to go through my personal drawers, and maybe it'll gross him out enough to stop. I don't know. I'm at my very wits end with it and in my personal bedroom, I should not have to get creative enough to cut a hole in the damn wall just for some privacy. He'll go through my closet, drawers, anything. Mine stay in a lovely trunk I decorated in sparkles under the bed for now. A lockable case would be a good idea, but I don't want to have to spend $ on that just to keep one person from being disrespectful.

Anyways, I have seen my "explanations" change drastically over the years with the kids. The 3 year old (who found one when she was only one) still wouldn't know, so I'm safe for a good few years. I'm glad you guys aren't too freaked over your grown daughter knowing. That's a nice thing to be that comfy between parents and kids. My twin sister found a vibrator of my mom's years ago (funny enough, EF sells it!) and laughed and made jokes, and even hollered for me to come here. I did and she showed me. She then made a joke about it to my mom who was a little embarrassed, but laughed. Then during a party (we were teens about 14/15) at our house, she went into my mom's room to get the vibe and show it to our company! My MOM'S company! I was angry at her for it, but my mom stopped her and just laughed about it. I just thought it was mean. But this is how my sister plays, and these days we talk and share all kinds of vibrator info with each other

I wasn't grossed out or anything when I seen my mom's. Basically, I've always just seen her as any normal horny person and oh well if she has toys. I do! I just see it as I'm glad she is comfortable enough to enjoy herself and toys. So it's nice when there's a good relationship like ya'll's where you guys aren't too freaked over your grown daughter knowing. I'm glad my mom isn't either. I think it actually may have even impacted me some, in a good way. Maybe it helped me to grow up to be comfortable with my sexuality and all. Just my thoughts.

But I don't like my not-grown kids going through my things and I find that so disrespectful. I hate that we have trouble with this in my house. No matter what we tell him, he still thinks it's 'cute' I guess. He's pretty innocent and not a bad kid. Very loving and respectful in most other ways, but he refuses to keep his damn hands off my things and he touches everything! I'm sitting here saying "get out of my drawers before you come across something real scary," and it's like his curiousity will not subside.

For the younger kids, I'd definitely lie and not say something like "well, there's these items called sex toys..." I'm not going to tell them that. They're too young anyways. But I'll either lie and quickly hide it, telling them not to touch things that don't belong to them or if they ask what it is, say "it's a neck massager." That has been my lie most of the time, but the younger kids don't ask. My oldest nephew who began staying with his father part time actually does know about sex toys. He's the 15 year old, so he knows now & since we're so close in age and have a very close relationship since we basically grew up together. We've made jokes about toys and he's asked me what anal toys are (I don't own any, but he heard about them from a friend at school) I told him. I won't lie to him since he's curious and already knows, so it's best coming from me. I wouldn't go showing him my stash, but we talk comfortably about all things sex, even toys when he has questions.

no kids so this is something that i dont have too worry about but i couldnt even imagine something like this