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Is it really so darn hard to tell me your name? (micro-rant)

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Contributor: Rin (aka Nire) Rin (aka Nire)
I don't get asked out often, but it seems like any time I do, the guy in question always asks me out/for my number without even telling me his dang name first!

Seriously, that's the most basic of courtesies! And the only reason I excuse them for not asking for mine is because this always happens when I'm at work (and thus have a name tag on). Why does no one at least tell me their name before asking me out?

Am I the only one who runs into this? It's a real pet peeve of mine and makes me very uneasy.
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Contributor: js250 js250
That used to happen to me as well--back in the old single days. I was a bartender and so most of the customers would know my name but I would only know them as rum-n-coke, Coors Light, etc.

After the frustration of being asked out and not ever getting a name, I started telling them-with a sweet smile, of course--that I have a personal rule against going out with people before I know who they are. Introductions rapidly happened.

If I was in a bad mood, I would say in a nice and polite voice that I would consider going out with them, thanks for asking, Coors Light. They figured that one out after a couple of seconds.

For someone I might want to go out with, I held out my hand for a handshake and said, Hi, I am Steff, and you are....

Don't take it personally, I find myself talking to people my hubby does not know and just because I know who they are, he must, too.
08/06/2012
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
I've never had that happen; nobody wanted to ask me out. It doesn't sound like a good thing.

Although some people just honestly forget - after interacting on such a regular basis, it's sort of assumed that names were exchanged at some point.
08/06/2012
Contributor: Rin (aka Nire) Rin (aka Nire)
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Originally posted by Chilipepper
I've never had that happen; nobody wanted to ask me out. It doesn't sound like a good thing.

Although some people just honestly forget - after interacting on such a regular basis, it's sort of assumed that names were exchanged at some point.
That would make sense, except that this is usually dudes who have just seen me for the first time and have only known me for a maximum of five to ten minutes. I wouldn't be so annoyed if they were regular customers.
08/06/2012
Contributor: WhoopieDoo WhoopieDoo
I get asked out....practically never. I'd say the three or four times it's happened, I've already known the guy or he gave me his name first.
08/06/2012
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
I've never gotten asked out in that manner. I've been off the market for almost as long as I can remember. I couldn't date until I was 16, had a boy waiting until I was 16 and we dated until I was a month shy of 18, broke up and then started dating my husband.
08/06/2012