I know someone who lets their son stay with them at age 27 and he just lays around and smokes weed and watches TV. They give him money food shelter for nothing. Now I love my two kids but really who thinks they are wrong and need a wake up call? and who thinks they should still be taking care of there 27 year old son with no issues whatsoever?
Your take on kids and what age do you think they should get the boot from mommy and daddys house.
11/09/2012
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I am in my 40's. My wife and I chose not to have any. She is from a large family so we have around 10 nieces & nephews to spoil. I see that the older ones are still hanging at their parents house. They make descent money, more than I did at their age.I just don't understand them now a days. it's like we all owe them something. I love them to death, but come one. My mother booted my ass out at 19. I lived with my wife for 3-4 years then built our house. They have no drive. I guess I might look at things different.
Originally posted by
BrittaniMaree
I know someone who lets their son stay with them at age 27 and he just lays around and smokes weed and watches TV. They give him money food shelter for nothing. Now I love my two kids but really who thinks they are wrong and need a wake up call? and
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I know someone who lets their son stay with them at age 27 and he just lays around and smokes weed and watches TV. They give him money food shelter for nothing. Now I love my two kids but really who thinks they are wrong and need a wake up call? and who thinks they should still be taking care of there 27 year old son with no issues whatsoever?
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11/09/2012
I had to move back home a couple times...believe me, it sucked!
That being said, I don't think I'd kick my kids out of the house (if/when I have any). As long as they are doing something, it'd be ok with me. They'll eventually want to move out anyway...who'd want to date someone who lives at home if they don't have to?
That being said, I don't think I'd kick my kids out of the house (if/when I have any). As long as they are doing something, it'd be ok with me. They'll eventually want to move out anyway...who'd want to date someone who lives at home if they don't have to?
11/09/2012
I think it depends on the individuals involved and the circumstances. I don't think there is one right/wrong answer.
11/09/2012
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Totally agree. My oldest son is 23, goes to school full time, works full time but still lives with his mom and I still help out financially. But if he were sitting at home, smoking weed and playing video games, he'd be out on his ass.
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Trysexual
I think it depends on the individuals involved and the circumstances. I don't think there is one right/wrong answer.
11/09/2012
Depends on the situation. If my son was in college I'd want him to focus on that, so he could stay. If he wasn't doing anything, I'd tell him to get a job and work on finding a place. lol
11/09/2012
My kids will have to move out when they are done with school. Highschool, colege; it doesnt matter. As long as they are going to school, I will help them out. When they are done, time to be adults.
11/09/2012
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Haha true.
Originally posted by
El-Jaro
I had to move back home a couple times...believe me, it sucked!
That being said, I don't think I'd kick my kids out of the house (if/when I have any). As long as they are doing something, it'd be ok with me. They'll eventually ... more
That being said, I don't think I'd kick my kids out of the house (if/when I have any). As long as they are doing something, it'd be ok with me. They'll eventually ... more
I had to move back home a couple times...believe me, it sucked!
That being said, I don't think I'd kick my kids out of the house (if/when I have any). As long as they are doing something, it'd be ok with me. They'll eventually want to move out anyway...who'd want to date someone who lives at home if they don't have to? less
That being said, I don't think I'd kick my kids out of the house (if/when I have any). As long as they are doing something, it'd be ok with me. They'll eventually want to move out anyway...who'd want to date someone who lives at home if they don't have to? less
My family actually wanted me to move back.
11/09/2012
At 18, they should be encouraged to find a career or further education. If they have to come back due to external circumstances, that's fine, but the goal is to get them to stand on their own
11/09/2012
I have a disability and home mostly 24 7 only my parents know about my disability and understand as well as my doctors of course who told me im disabled. I have had some other family members say what you are saying and that my parents should kick me out and im just lazy when they really have no idea. if he is just lazy and wants to be a bum then it is wrong and they should tell him to do something with his life or else they will no longer support him but if its more to it than please dont judge.
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Yeah, my parents are still supporting me a lot due to my own disability though I don't live at home and people's judgements suck big time. In this economy, it's hard enough to support yourself even when able-bodied!
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I have a disability and home mostly 24 7 only my parents know about my disability and understand as well as my doctors of course who told me im disabled. I have had some other family members say what you are saying and that my parents should kick me
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I have a disability and home mostly 24 7 only my parents know about my disability and understand as well as my doctors of course who told me im disabled. I have had some other family members say what you are saying and that my parents should kick me out and im just lazy when they really have no idea. if he is just lazy and wants to be a bum then it is wrong and they should tell him to do something with his life or else they will no longer support him but if its more to it than please dont judge.
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11/10/2012
This is one of those questions that just doesn't have a black and white answer. I know for me and my oldest, he left home when he was ready. He was 21. I did start making things more uncomfortable for him. I said as a fellow adult I have more expectations from you for helping around the house and you will have to start contributing as though you were a roomate and not a child. He decided to go. I would be okay with still at home. He knows he could come back if he needs to, but my expectations would be that he help out in some way.
11/10/2012
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Every situation is unique and as such requires different response(s).
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Gracie
This is one of those questions that just doesn't have a black and white answer. I know for me and my oldest, he left home when he was ready. He was 21. I did start making things more uncomfortable for him. I said as a fellow adult I have more
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This is one of those questions that just doesn't have a black and white answer. I know for me and my oldest, he left home when he was ready. He was 21. I did start making things more uncomfortable for him. I said as a fellow adult I have more expectations from you for helping around the house and you will have to start contributing as though you were a roomate and not a child. He decided to go. I would be okay with still at home. He knows he could come back if he needs to, but my expectations would be that he help out in some way.
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Will I actually ever get to the point of kicking my son out... maybe.
Right now, no. Is his inability to live up to my expectations causing problems between me and my GF, yes.
There are no magic words or easy answer.
Others who say "well, you should just..." they may be well meaning but are absolutely full of shit.
(yes, I've often told them that, too)
11/10/2012
I don't understand these people who can just stay at home without responsibility all day. I'd go crazy from being bored.
I lived in my college dorm for 3 years, but when I was a senior that's when I got my own apartment and was pretty much fully moved out of my parent's house at 20. At that point they weren't even paying for my cell phone. I was still getting some mail at the parents' and spent holidays there, but I was on my own and taking care of myself.
What could be more awesome for a young 20-something than doing their own thing when they want, how they want, without asking for permission or a hand-out of cash?
Maybe we need to spread the word to these people that having your own place is pretty nice.
I lived in my college dorm for 3 years, but when I was a senior that's when I got my own apartment and was pretty much fully moved out of my parent's house at 20. At that point they weren't even paying for my cell phone. I was still getting some mail at the parents' and spent holidays there, but I was on my own and taking care of myself.
What could be more awesome for a young 20-something than doing their own thing when they want, how they want, without asking for permission or a hand-out of cash?
Maybe we need to spread the word to these people that having your own place is pretty nice.
11/10/2012
I think past 22 your ass should be out. My brother in law is f'n 30 and he's a bum! No job, no home, no nothing! He needs a swift kick in the ass! Man, I'm going off on the inlaws today! Whats my biz?!
11/10/2012
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thats a hard one. i have a son n not sure wat id do when it comes to that point
Originally posted by
BrittaniMaree
I know someone who lets their son stay with them at age 27 and he just lays around and smokes weed and watches TV. They give him money food shelter for nothing. Now I love my two kids but really who thinks they are wrong and need a wake up call? and
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I know someone who lets their son stay with them at age 27 and he just lays around and smokes weed and watches TV. They give him money food shelter for nothing. Now I love my two kids but really who thinks they are wrong and need a wake up call? and who thinks they should still be taking care of there 27 year old son with no issues whatsoever?
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