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Contributor: Gone (LD29) Gone (LD29)
So, we've got some issues going on with our current house (mostly financial), and there is a distinct possibility we may need to move. Nothing's definite, but we should hopefully be finding out more about our options soon. In the meantime, I was wondering what you all would do with the current set of options I've been given.

So, if you had to leave your current home, would you...
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Find a new place (probably smaller) in the same town, where you're not exceedingly happy thus far.
Mrs.Tee , Gunsmoke , Allstars316 , Geogeo , lulz , SMichelle , gsfanatic
7  (15%)
Move back to your hometown, where you have friends and a decent chance of getting a job right away with your old company, but no family support.
sexytileena / absolutely love sex , sweetpea12 , Bullfroggy and Rose , Petite Valentine , Danneh , kdlt , LavenderSkies , spiced , PeaceToTheMiddleEast , Ryuson , TheirPet , britanny0620 , Noelle , chicmichiw , Aishiteru , EmuLove
16  (35%)
Move very far away to a town you've never been to, and have to find a job from scratch, but have family who moving expenses and help out until you get on your feet.are willing to pay
quackbuster , Supervixen , - Kira - , pussy licker , Voir , Beautiful-Disaster , ginnyluvspotter , Toy Fiend , bog , GONE!
10  (22%)
Run away and join the llama circus! (a.k.a. the "other" option)
panthercat23 , Sunny Meadows , atryonix , Mwar , ElizaFetishx , Falsepast , Ex-prude , edeneve , Rossie , dv8 , Breas , Gone (LD29) , Ellenoir
13  (28%)
Total votes: 46
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Contributor: Gone (LD29) Gone (LD29)
Gah! That third option should say "Move very far away to a town you've never been to, and have to find a job from scratch, but have family who are willing to pay moving expenses and help you out until you get on your feet."

I have no idea how the order of the words got switched around! Probably bumped something I wasn't supposed to while I was typing....
11/30/2012
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
Your family is willing to pay for you to move to a new unknown place without knowing anyone there, but won't help out with moving back to the hometown? Are you moving with them, or is it just you and a spouse?
11/30/2012
Contributor: Gone (LD29) Gone (LD29)
Quote:
Originally posted by Chilipepper
Your family is willing to pay for you to move to a new unknown place without knowing anyone there, but won't help out with moving back to the hometown? Are you moving with them, or is it just you and a spouse?
Ok, I probably should have explained a little better. My parents have passed on, and my other family is a bit scattered, so we only have friends to lean on in my hometown (where my hubby an I lived together for many years.)

My inlaws live in Alaska of all places, moved there after my husband was an adult and on his own, so neither of us have actually been there before. They're willing to pay for us to move there with them, but they will be the only people we know.

It would be me, my husband, our son, and our pets making the move.

Can you tell I'm thrilled with the choices I've got. Most days I try to make the most of it, but I really wish we'd never left home to come here.
11/30/2012
Contributor: sexytileena / absolutely love sex sexytileena / absolutely love sex
I am in a similar situation. 600 miles from all my friends and family. Unsure what to do. I have a hand full of friends here but they are always busy and never have time to do anything. I just got laid off from my job until possibly spring. So what I am thinking is to break my lease and go home. Where all my friends and family are at. Post up with them until I can find a place of my own. So, I say "Move very far away to a town you've never been to, and have to find a job from scratch, but have family who are willing to pay moving expenses and help you out until you get on your feet." At least go check it out.
11/30/2012
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
Quote:
Originally posted by Gone (LD29)
Ok, I probably should have explained a little better. My parents have passed on, and my other family is a bit scattered, so we only have friends to lean on in my hometown (where my hubby an I lived together for many years.)

My inlaws live in ... more
Okay, thanks for the added info.

It sounds like either going back to the hometown or moving to Alaska are the better options (staying in a place you hate is out of the question).

Ask LOTS of questions about that place in Alaska - jobs, community, population, exact weather, schools, etc. Only then can you really start comparing the pros and cons of there and the hometown.
11/30/2012
Contributor: panthercat23 panthercat23
We are looking at moving but we are moving closer to where my bf works. We will still be far away from family and friends and have no support from anyone of them.
11/30/2012
Contributor: sweetpea12 sweetpea12
Quote:
Originally posted by Gone (LD29)
So, we've got some issues going on with our current house (mostly financial), and there is a distinct possibility we may need to move. Nothing's definite, but we should hopefully be finding out more about our options soon. In the meantime, ... more
I would move back where i know I can be successful
11/30/2012
Contributor: Bullfroggy and Rose Bullfroggy and Rose
I'd stick with what I know
11/30/2012
Contributor: Petite Valentine Petite Valentine
I'd move to wherever the best chance of being employed was. That said, I think I'd like to try living in Alaska at least once.
11/30/2012
Contributor: Danneh Danneh
Follow the job.
11/30/2012
Contributor: Sunny Meadows Sunny Meadows
we are not being forced out of our home. But it has been close a couple of times. First you have to know your family. If there is drama and more drama no job is worth it. I wouldn't move back home for a job if it meant being with my family. the crap is stacked to high there. Now my husband family is something all together. Right now he has a job over 900 miles away. we are trying to sale our home to move. We are taking a huge hit on the sale of this home and believe me it is not a lot to being with. If you have a chance to start over. Look at where you think you and your family will be happy. Then look at the states and work force in that area. Starting over is hard but it will be hard anywhere. We did and now we are moving to the gulf for a better job. good luck!
11/30/2012
Contributor: atryonix atryonix
The circus sounds like fun
11/30/2012
Contributor: Mrs.Tee Mrs.Tee
Quote:
Originally posted by Gone (LD29)
So, we've got some issues going on with our current house (mostly financial), and there is a distinct possibility we may need to move. Nothing's definite, but we should hopefully be finding out more about our options soon. In the meantime, ... more
That would be a tough one, it all depends on what you really want to do and how you all feel about it
11/30/2012
Contributor: Supervixen Supervixen
I'm in favor of starting over from scratch, but that's not always for everyone.
11/30/2012
Contributor: - Kira - - Kira -
I rely on my family A LOT, so I'd go where they are, even if it was far from my friends. In fact, in two years the family I have here are all moving (us included) to where the rest of our family lives.

That said, I see you mention Alaska. I think I might try to bear it on my own rather than go there. X.x
11/30/2012
Contributor: Mwar Mwar
My partner and I have no attachments really, so when we feel life dragging on us we joke that we're going to run away and become traveling hobos in New Zealand.
11/30/2012
Contributor: pussy licker pussy licker
I would move far away to a town i didnt know and have my family as support
11/30/2012
Contributor: Kissy Kissy
Move away, with family or in an affordable home.
11/30/2012
Contributor: ElizaFetishx ElizaFetishx
I'm not particularly fond of my apartment or the town I've lived in, so I'd probably just look for something affordable closer to my campus.
11/30/2012
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by Gone (LD29)
So, we've got some issues going on with our current house (mostly financial), and there is a distinct possibility we may need to move. Nothing's definite, but we should hopefully be finding out more about our options soon. In the meantime, ... more
Hometown, or very far away!
12/01/2012
Contributor: Falsepast Falsepast
I wanna leave everyone and thing behind.
12/01/2012
Contributor: Gone (LD29) Gone (LD29)
Thanks to everyone for your input!

I've got a friend back home who might be willing to put us up while we get back on our feet, so that's helping that option a little. Well, when I say "might be willing" I mean she offered this afternoon but I'm not sure how much she's discussed it with her girlfriend yet. I'll pursue it further when we find out what's up with our current house.

It's just nice to know that we've got options, even if none of them are 100% ideal.
12/01/2012
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
We love where we are - even though it's 2.5k miles from the main family. We will likely downsize soon because the kids are grown.
12/01/2012
Contributor: Allstars316 Allstars316
Just move for me. Since I still live in my hometown
12/01/2012
Contributor: Ex-prude Ex-prude
I'm in college, so I'd have to find another apartment!
12/01/2012
Contributor: edeneve edeneve
hell no - I just moved in 3 days ago getting away from a situation from hell.
12/01/2012
Contributor: Geogeo Geogeo
Quote:
Originally posted by Gone (LD29)
So, we've got some issues going on with our current house (mostly financial), and there is a distinct possibility we may need to move. Nothing's definite, but we should hopefully be finding out more about our options soon. In the meantime, ... more
I'd get another apartment
12/01/2012
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
We're the impulsive and independent type. We sold our house in California and moved to Oregon about nine years ago, just because we liked what we saw during leisure travel. We do not know a single soul in Oregon, and we are doing fine.

Where in Alaska do your in-laws live? Is it a large city like Anchorage? Is it easy to find jobs there? How's the living condition there? Hope it's not some place where people liked to live off the land!
12/01/2012
Contributor: Voir Voir
Change yo.
If going back to the old didn't work before it's not likely to work again so why waste time somewhere you don't want to be? Besides, if moving far away falls through - then you call fall back to safer options rather than playing safe and potentially missing an opportunity.
12/01/2012