Yes, everyone has a first love and sometimes it works into their lifelong love. I am so sorry you lost your first love, but you never know what the future holds. I lost a few loves before I found my soulmate, we have been together 16 years and while it isn't always perfect, it is real and lasting. I am thankful for the paths that brought us together. less

I think "first love" can be broken down into so many different things.

For me, my first boyfriend was just a boy I shared my lunchables with and we shoved each other a lot on the playground and held hands and said "this is my boyfriend".

The first "love" was my ex husband, who I was with for 6 years, but I don't think I really loved him, at least not in the way I love my current hubby. I thought I did, but looking back, I never got that sick to my stomach butterflies, fiery passion, even a second away from you is agony type thing. I have that now, so comparing the two, I consider my current partner my "first love", even if he wasn't my first boyfriend.

As for your loss, I am so sorry to hear that! I hope this wasn't recent, and if so I hope you find healing and discover so much more love along the way! less

Aw, I'm sorry to hear that.

I believe you learn with each partner what love really means. Your definition evolves with time, experience, and variety.

I had a first love, and we parted ways, but once I found the true love of my life, I look back and wonder just what part of love I thought I was in with the first guy.

Love is a verb. Which means it has a past, present and future tense. It's always up to you to decide what that verb means to you, and what changes it makes as it transitions between tenses. less

I'm not so sure where I stand on "falling in love" being a uniform kind of feeling. I'd say I'm in love right now, and he makes me happy, but I don't get "crush-y" feelings over him anymore. I don't blush around him, but he's my best friend. I don't wonder what I should wear in front of him, but I feel more comfortable around him than I do around anyone else. I've had plenty of crushes before (and even had a crush on my boyfriend early on), but those sorts of feelings have faded for him. But I like what we have now even more. It's deeper, more intense in its own way. I don't know what I'd do if I lost him. And, yes, he's the first person I've ever been in love with. I realized I was in love with him when I was 14, and we've been together since then - he's just turned 19, and I'll be 20 soon.

In considering your situation, I guess I'm considering my own. I'm sorry you've lost your love. If I lost mine, I'd be...I don't know. It'd be hard. But I guess eventually I'd move on. It's too hard for me to fathom, honestly. I'm sorry for your situation. I hope everything gets better for you soon. less

Thats how I stand with my current relationship. I lost most of my feelings of compassion towards him and I get irritated of having him around most of the time, Couples should not spend much time together because it ruins a relationship, but he never wants to take a break. Aww thank you for your kind words less

How long have you been with your partner?

I think every couple goes through a phase like this. It's like when people tell you the first year you are married is the hardest. Well, that is because usually you weren't living with the person and now you are. So, moving in with them you learn all the things that they do. But it works all the same if you are spending every bit of time together. It's not going to be all sunshine and rainbows because everyone is annoying with something they do.

If you feel that spending too much time with him has caused you to feel less for him take some time apart. Just say you are going to your parents or something. And see if you actually miss them. If you do, then you know what you are feeling is just from being annoyed because your space isn't just your space anymore. less

Thats how I stand with my current relationship. I lost most of my feelings of compassion towards him and I get irritated of having him around most of the time, Couples should not spend much time together because it ruins a relationship, but he never wants to take a break. Aww thank you for your kind words less