anyone in a relationship where u luv alot..for example I luv reliable trustworthy,honest I totaly feel comfortable around or confiding and trust..some other things that frustrate me is even with a condom he wo n't have sex with me on my monthly even putting a towel down we hardly see each other. how much of a slob he is and how he plays video games/watches shows all night sleeps all day then goes to work..won't fuck a pregnant woman so if I was prego I won't get it for 9 monthes um how little he cares for his health eating fast food almost everyday doesn't work out at all..all these thigns got me really concerned about the futre and I told him we wouldn't work well living together I'm such a light sleeper shutting a door at the other end of the house wakes me up. he said if we can't live together we would be friends with benefits. I also brought up don't worry I won't ever get pregnant anyway I dont want to. I told him I wanted to slap him he said bring it but I"ll slap u back I believe in equal rights and he also mentioned sometiems gives the illusion he is listening when a woman talks because sometimes blocks them out..I told him its not a good thing to not listen it could hurt u later then went and said when you come over again you will notice and u will get a hug kiss we'll watch a movie and youll go home when I mentioned it later he was like I won't know when its coming I said "i already told u!"
Luv one half can't stand the other half of your significant other?
11/06/2010
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It's kind of hard to understand your post...some of the sentences don't seem to really make sense and some are just run ons so it's really hard to read.
Originally posted by
kinky girlfriend
anyone in a relationship where u luv alot..for example I luv reliable trustworthy,honest I totaly feel comfortable around or confiding and trust..some other things that frustrate me is even with a condom he wo n't have sex with me on my monthly
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anyone in a relationship where u luv alot..for example I luv reliable trustworthy,honest I totaly feel comfortable around or confiding and trust..some other things that frustrate me is even with a condom he wo n't have sex with me on my monthly even putting a towel down we hardly see each other. how much of a slob he is and how he plays video games/watches shows all night sleeps all day then goes to work..won't fuck a pregnant woman so if I was prego I won't get it for 9 monthes um how little he cares for his health eating fast food almost everyday doesn't work out at all..all these thigns got me really concerned about the futre and I told him we wouldn't work well living together I'm such a light sleeper shutting a door at the other end of the house wakes me up. he said if we can't live together we would be friends with benefits. I also brought up don't worry I won't ever get pregnant anyway I dont want to. I told him I wanted to slap him he said bring it but I"ll slap u back I believe in equal rights and he also mentioned sometiems gives the illusion he is listening when a woman talks because sometimes blocks them out..I told him its not a good thing to not listen it could hurt u later then went and said when you come over again you will notice and u will get a hug kiss we'll watch a movie and youll go home when I mentioned it later he was like I won't know when its coming I said "i already told u!"
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But, from what I could read I'd say you need a new boyfriend. This guy seems like a jerk honestly.
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we don't fight often. I think there are things to be worked on. I know he cares and doesn't want to be like friends with benefits. ya I wrote the post in a hurry trying to go to bed. I'm a person who is really not compatible with others. I am very antisocial plus I can't travel because I can't even make it to work on time with my ibs...can't eat out,can't drink,very restrictive diet...Also I won't date anyone I havent known for a while or someone whose had alot of relationships. I just can't sleep with someone who had casual sex or alot of relationships for more reasons than just looking out for my health. I never find that person I'm totally comfortable around only 2 in my life so far. I don't like people I don't like hanging out I do like my wii,tv,shows and other things.
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Alicia
It's kind of hard to understand your post...some of the sentences don't seem to really make sense and some are just run ons so it's really hard to read.
But, from what I could read I'd say you need a new boyfriend. This guy ... more
But, from what I could read I'd say you need a new boyfriend. This guy ... more
It's kind of hard to understand your post...some of the sentences don't seem to really make sense and some are just run ons so it's really hard to read.
But, from what I could read I'd say you need a new boyfriend. This guy seems like a jerk honestly. less
But, from what I could read I'd say you need a new boyfriend. This guy seems like a jerk honestly. less
11/06/2010
A relationship requires effort on both sides. There's nothing harder then working together to ensure happiness, love and a future. If both parties aren't giving then it'll only please one and devastate the other. Love is just one aspect there needs to be so much more to a solid relationship. Respect for one another, being physically compatible, care for the others wants and needs, compassion for feelings and common goals are just a few that should be present to make a relationship work. I've been with hubby for 22 years and there's nothing harder then maintaining our family within our means and without losing our prospective. Being in a solid relationship is a wonderful thing but like everything else its never easy and you can't do it alone. I wish you the best of luck.
11/06/2010
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I think what gets me is that he has said he's not listening to you and that he said "when a woman talks" as if women in general aren't worth listening to. That seems like a really jerk thing to say. And from my experience if someone doesn't find what you say worth listening to they also won't respect other things you do/want. I'm also remembering past posts that you've written about him, so I guess that sways my judgement.
Originally posted by
kinky girlfriend
we don't fight often. I think there are things to be worked on. I know he cares and doesn't want to be like friends with benefits. ya I wrote the post in a hurry trying to go to bed. I'm a person who is really not compatible with others.
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we don't fight often. I think there are things to be worked on. I know he cares and doesn't want to be like friends with benefits. ya I wrote the post in a hurry trying to go to bed. I'm a person who is really not compatible with others. I am very antisocial plus I can't travel because I can't even make it to work on time with my ibs...can't eat out,can't drink,very restrictive diet...Also I won't date anyone I havent known for a while or someone whose had alot of relationships. I just can't sleep with someone who had casual sex or alot of relationships for more reasons than just looking out for my health. I never find that person I'm totally comfortable around only 2 in my life so far. I don't like people I don't like hanging out I do like my wii,tv,shows and other things.
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The idea about not having sex with a pregnant woman well, that can change with time. Sometimes the idea freaks people out until they're in that situation.
There are ways to work things out living together even if one person is a light sleeper. But if his oly solution is "well then we'll just be friends with benefits" it doesn't sound like he really wants to make it work.
SexyTabby is right, it takes effort on both sides. It also takes good communication. But you also can't change people. If he likes to eat bad food and doesn't like to work out, there's not much you can do to change that if he's not willing to. At that point you need to decide if it's something you can deal with.
Don't feel like you have to settle though because you think you won't find someone else. Settling is never a good thing, it's better to be happy...even if it takes a while to find that person.
11/06/2010
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I never found anyone I really liked until him and i was 19! he said sometimes he blocks out someone idk I can talk to him more about it maybe if someone is going on and on about somethin or maybe women problems or maybe their doing pointless talking just bla bla to talk? No he doesn't want to be friends with benefits he was sayin if we can't even live together in our life we're just friends with benfits or somethin. IF I wasn't with him I'd stay alone and rely on sex toys. I'd never have just a friend with benefits. some people it works they don't want to get married they had it with guys and need a F buddy...but I never would no matter if I was single for years or if I found someon very attractive like I want to F them lol. But I just want to sit down and talk to him. WOrk and things are gettin in the way so bad by next tuesday it will be 2 weeks since I saw him outside of work.
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Alicia
I think what gets me is that he has said he's not listening to you and that he said "when a woman talks" as if women in general aren't worth listening to. That seems like a really jerk thing to say. And from my experience if
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I think what gets me is that he has said he's not listening to you and that he said "when a woman talks" as if women in general aren't worth listening to. That seems like a really jerk thing to say. And from my experience if someone doesn't find what you say worth listening to they also won't respect other things you do/want. I'm also remembering past posts that you've written about him, so I guess that sways my judgement.
The idea about not having sex with a pregnant woman well, that can change with time. Sometimes the idea freaks people out until they're in that situation.
There are ways to work things out living together even if one person is a light sleeper. But if his oly solution is "well then we'll just be friends with benefits" it doesn't sound like he really wants to make it work.
SexyTabby is right, it takes effort on both sides. It also takes good communication. But you also can't change people. If he likes to eat bad food and doesn't like to work out, there's not much you can do to change that if he's not willing to. At that point you need to decide if it's something you can deal with.
Don't feel like you have to settle though because you think you won't find someone else. Settling is never a good thing, it's better to be happy...even if it takes a while to find that person. less
The idea about not having sex with a pregnant woman well, that can change with time. Sometimes the idea freaks people out until they're in that situation.
There are ways to work things out living together even if one person is a light sleeper. But if his oly solution is "well then we'll just be friends with benefits" it doesn't sound like he really wants to make it work.
SexyTabby is right, it takes effort on both sides. It also takes good communication. But you also can't change people. If he likes to eat bad food and doesn't like to work out, there's not much you can do to change that if he's not willing to. At that point you need to decide if it's something you can deal with.
Don't feel like you have to settle though because you think you won't find someone else. Settling is never a good thing, it's better to be happy...even if it takes a while to find that person. less
11/06/2010
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Yea, I think it'd be good to have communication with him so that you know what he's talking about when he says these things. Otherwise if you're not getting clarification it can lead to problems.
Originally posted by
kinky girlfriend
I never found anyone I really liked until him and i was 19! he said sometimes he blocks out someone idk I can talk to him more about it maybe if someone is going on and on about somethin or maybe women problems or maybe their doing pointless talking
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I never found anyone I really liked until him and i was 19! he said sometimes he blocks out someone idk I can talk to him more about it maybe if someone is going on and on about somethin or maybe women problems or maybe their doing pointless talking just bla bla to talk? No he doesn't want to be friends with benefits he was sayin if we can't even live together in our life we're just friends with benfits or somethin. IF I wasn't with him I'd stay alone and rely on sex toys. I'd never have just a friend with benefits. some people it works they don't want to get married they had it with guys and need a F buddy...but I never would no matter if I was single for years or if I found someon very attractive like I want to F them lol. But I just want to sit down and talk to him. WOrk and things are gettin in the way so bad by next tuesday it will be 2 weeks since I saw him outside of work.
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In any relationship though it's all give and take. Each partner needs to give 100% into the relationship for it to work out. So, while it's important to make sure that you're giving 100%...it's also important to make sure that you're getting that back in return.
11/06/2010
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Ime sorry if this sounds a little b*tchy but I cant think of any other way to say it
Originally posted by
kinky girlfriend
anyone in a relationship where u luv alot..for example I luv reliable trustworthy,honest I totaly feel comfortable around or confiding and trust..some other things that frustrate me is even with a condom he wo n't have sex with me on my monthly
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anyone in a relationship where u luv alot..for example I luv reliable trustworthy,honest I totaly feel comfortable around or confiding and trust..some other things that frustrate me is even with a condom he wo n't have sex with me on my monthly even putting a towel down we hardly see each other. how much of a slob he is and how he plays video games/watches shows all night sleeps all day then goes to work..won't fuck a pregnant woman so if I was prego I won't get it for 9 monthes um how little he cares for his health eating fast food almost everyday doesn't work out at all..all these thigns got me really concerned about the futre and I told him we wouldn't work well living together I'm such a light sleeper shutting a door at the other end of the house wakes me up. he said if we can't live together we would be friends with benefits. I also brought up don't worry I won't ever get pregnant anyway I dont want to. I told him I wanted to slap him he said bring it but I"ll slap u back I believe in equal rights and he also mentioned sometiems gives the illusion he is listening when a woman talks because sometimes blocks them out..I told him its not a good thing to not listen it could hurt u later then went and said when you come over again you will notice and u will get a hug kiss we'll watch a movie and youll go home when I mentioned it later he was like I won't know when its coming I said "i already told u!"
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If ive learned anything from military life its that you love your partner for good and bad. You choose him for his good qualities and bad. Its part of life, even then half of what you think is bad isnt really bad. So what he wont have sex with you one week a month big deal, at least hes there to comfort you at night and lay in bed with you. Sometimes you have to think it could be worse. Alot of time I may get irritated with my husband but I think back to moments were I or him was was oversees and well ive seem some shit and know he did to.........no thought is worse then wondering what if and then you think so what hes being annoying rightnow hes here safe.
11/07/2010
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