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What methods of discipline did you receive growing up?

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Contributor: K101 K101
Thinking about how much has changed since even I was a kid, I figure all of us here are old enough that when we were kids, discipline was more... hands-on that what's allowed today, so I wanted to ask others what methods of discipline did your own parents use? Which were effective?

I don't remember a lot of physical disclipline growing up, but my sister got that a lot more than I ever did. I remember twice getting a belt, but I don't remember much other physical punishment besides little discreet pinches to the arm when my mom wanted me to be quiet in public or something, but not painful ones. I also remember my mom making us look up new words in a dictionary once or twice when we used the word "duh!" Lol.

I don't remember getting time outs myself and definitely no hickories or tree limbs or other objects like fly swats for spanking. Ouch! I did see my cousin get the fly swat once when we were kids. The majority of my punishments were groundings. You?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
"Go pick me a hickory, youg man/lady!" (meaning a tree limb for spanking)
11
Belt for spanking.
19
Time outs/standing in corner.
25
Pop or spanking from a hand to the legs or bum.
35
Pop to the mouth.
10
Grounded!
27
Sentences? From a parent, not teacher.
8
Paddle!
7
Labor/work for punishment.
11
None of these.
3
Other.
12
Fly Swat!
1
Total votes: 169 (58 voters)
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Contributor: 783883877299373783 783883877299373783
My mum used to tell us off, ground us, take things away. Her final resort would be a light smack to the bum or thighs. We would instantly stop. Never really hurt and I would do the same to my children.
03/02/2013
Contributor: FLIPxMODE FLIPxMODE
none
03/02/2013
Contributor: leanright69 leanright69
Swat on the butt, finger waggling in the face, a stern talking to.
03/02/2013
Contributor: Lickable Lollie Lickable Lollie
There was only ONE time my mom ever slapped me in the face...then she kicked me out of the car and told me to walk home. I was like...11. A terrifying moment for an 11 year old. She only got about 2 blocks away before she turned around and picked me up again. That's what happens when your mom is undiagnosed with bipolar disorder...
03/02/2013
Contributor: Mwar Mwar
We got our asses kicked. Sometimes we deserved it, sometimes we didn't. My mom would have the "guilty until proven innocent," philosophy, and it sucked.

I do think some kids need a swift kick in the ass now and then though.
03/02/2013
Contributor: Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
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Originally posted by Mwar
We got our asses kicked. Sometimes we deserved it, sometimes we didn't. My mom would have the "guilty until proven innocent," philosophy, and it sucked.

I do think some kids need a swift kick in the ass now and then though.
There are some kids I'D like to give a swift kick in the ass!
03/02/2013
Contributor: laflauta laflauta
When I was really young, my punishment was a time out. My real punishment was that my mom had a way of making me feel really guilty about doing anything wrong, usually without having to say a word. That is the lesson that has really stuck with me.
03/02/2013
Contributor: Stagger13 Stagger13
Quote:
Originally posted by K101
Thinking about how much has changed since even I was a kid, I figure all of us here are old enough that when we were kids, discipline was more... hands-on that what's allowed today, so I wanted to ask others what methods of discipline did your ... more
Grounded mostly.
03/02/2013
Contributor: sillylilkitten sillylilkitten
It was usually just time out, or for longer punishment, no tv or no desert for a day/week. My mom spanked me once and felt awful about it. Violence is no way to raise children.
03/02/2013
Contributor: Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
We got a spanking when little, but we figured it out really quickly, so I only got spanked twice. I got my mouth washed out with soap at 4, for swearing. I was just repeating something I heard, but I was doing it in anger when something wasn't going my way & I repeated it when asked, "What did you say?". I also was slapped in the face by my mom once in high school for a "smart mouth", but in no way deserved it. I was never grounded.

None of these were necessary. It's better to find ways to correct behavior without getting physical.
03/02/2013
Contributor: js250 js250
We got serious spankings, face swats..etc.

When [parenting my own child, she got two spankings--these were for extremely serious offenses--playing in the highway and getting in the gun cabinet in my room. Otherwise, it was time out and taking away cherished items or events for a specific time period. Mostly, she was very good, rarely needed discipline and 'the look' would suffice, lol!! (Had her fooled!!!)
03/02/2013
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by K101
Thinking about how much has changed since even I was a kid, I figure all of us here are old enough that when we were kids, discipline was more... hands-on that what's allowed today, so I wanted to ask others what methods of discipline did your ... more
I only got time outs as a kid.
03/02/2013
Contributor: purpledesert purpledesert
Time outs, maybe. Once I got banned from TV for a week.
03/02/2013
Contributor: Falsepast Falsepast
Spanking by hand and belt and grounded
03/02/2013
Contributor: deltalima deltalima
Quote:
Originally posted by K101
Thinking about how much has changed since even I was a kid, I figure all of us here are old enough that when we were kids, discipline was more... hands-on that what's allowed today, so I wanted to ask others what methods of discipline did your ... more
Mostly raps with a ruler.
03/02/2013
Contributor: ViVix ViVix
Quote:
Originally posted by K101
Thinking about how much has changed since even I was a kid, I figure all of us here are old enough that when we were kids, discipline was more... hands-on that what's allowed today, so I wanted to ask others what methods of discipline did your ... more
I was only spanked once, but I remember putting my nose in the corner and being grounded. I also remember my mother trying to squeeze my cheeks so they would touch in the middle!
03/02/2013
Contributor: Cinnyree Cinnyree
i was terrified of both my parents so I tried to not do anything bad. Plus i'm the baby so i got away with more stuff
03/02/2013
Contributor: rihanne rihanne
Quote:
Originally posted by K101
Thinking about how much has changed since even I was a kid, I figure all of us here are old enough that when we were kids, discipline was more... hands-on that what's allowed today, so I wanted to ask others what methods of discipline did your ... more
haha time outs? never got that. i got spankings.
03/02/2013
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
We got grounded.
03/02/2013
Contributor: sexynola sexynola
Quote:
Originally posted by K101
Thinking about how much has changed since even I was a kid, I figure all of us here are old enough that when we were kids, discipline was more... hands-on that what's allowed today, so I wanted to ask others what methods of discipline did your ... more
time outs from when i was little but spankings and grounded as i grew older.
03/02/2013
Contributor: Aubrey M Aubrey M
Quote:
Originally posted by K101
Thinking about how much has changed since even I was a kid, I figure all of us here are old enough that when we were kids, discipline was more... hands-on that what's allowed today, so I wanted to ask others what methods of discipline did your ... more
Hmm...I was never grounded or spanked, really. Mostly, my parents would talk with me about what happened, and what the problem was.
03/02/2013
Contributor: BlooJay BlooJay
Spankings and groundings
03/02/2013
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
My mom and older sister spanks me, but my dad never does anything at all, and my grandparents spoils me rotten.
03/02/2013
Contributor: TJtheMadHatter TJtheMadHatter
I was spanked...a lot, mainly with a belt. I never listened. Time outs were frequent (I hated it when they would bust out a penny to hold to the wall with my nose), things taken away, soap in the mouth, grounded, chores. Mainly spankings though. My mom had less patience than my dad. Eventually my dad promised to never spank me again, and he held to his word. Mom on the other hand was and is a bit of a loose cannon. My dad would try and talk to me. I'd still act out, only not as much.
03/02/2013
Contributor: PassionateLover2 PassionateLover2
Quote:
Originally posted by BlooJay
Spankings and groundings
Mostly spankings; but grounded as I got older!
03/03/2013
Contributor: twelve13 twelve13
a lot of time outs
03/03/2013
Contributor: Silverwinds Silverwinds
My two brothers and I got ALL the spankings lol. Usually with the hand, but sometimes with the belt. When we got older, Dad switched to sentences. Oh god the sentences! I think the most I ever had to write was 500 3-line sentences, but my brother had to do 2000 once.
03/03/2013
Contributor: Allstars316 Allstars316
Send us to are rooms to think about what we did.
03/03/2013
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Old school - we we're spanked with the occasional 'kick in the butt'. Nothing damaging emotionally or physically.
03/03/2013