If it were me, I would let my daughter do a few streaks of a fun colour as long as it wasn't a permanent dye. You don't want to have to deal with roots or upkeep at that age. I wasn't allowed to dye my hair til I got to highschool, but I don't think 11 is too young to experiment with it a little.
My 11 year old want's to dye her hair.
11/13/2010
I pretty much agree with the majority that there's nothing wrong with it. I personally wouldn't let my child do anything too far from their natural hair color (unless it was temporary like Chilipepper was talking about) when they're that young. (I'd say 15+ is when I'd give them more freedom in that realm since they'd be close to adulthood and it'd be a taste of that freedom/responsibility coin.) But only because I wouldn't want it to be reinforcement of social pressures. I never dyed my hair as a kid and there was a lot of presure to do so around 12-14 years old to start doing that stuff. It also started some of my friends to become hyper-conscious about their appearance and status. They began putting on make-up at school (and I mean a LOT), wearing adult perfume, high heels, push up bras, etc. It's disturbing now to think about the 12 years doing that...
But every family, child, and school is different so that might not happen to her at all. Which reminds me, it matters what the school's position on hair color is too. I went to magnet schools (public, but voluntary and not districted) and you hair had to be a natural color and consistent. So you could be blond, but not blond with the black underneath it. So they really limited what kids could do.
But every family, child, and school is different so that might not happen to her at all. Which reminds me, it matters what the school's position on hair color is too. I went to magnet schools (public, but voluntary and not districted) and you hair had to be a natural color and consistent. So you could be blond, but not blond with the black underneath it. So they really limited what kids could do.
11/13/2010
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Yes to all you said. Complete ditto.
Originally posted by
kck
I think it's also worth mentioning that her natural hair color will affect her ability to get any color from dye. If she has dark hair, neither permanent nor temporary hair coloring will really show if she doesn't first bleach her hair. The
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I think it's also worth mentioning that her natural hair color will affect her ability to get any color from dye. If she has dark hair, neither permanent nor temporary hair coloring will really show if she doesn't first bleach her hair. The color won't be very noticeable and will fade rather quickly. I really recommend not letting her bleach her hair--bleaching is very harsh on skin and hair, has to be redone often, and can do permanent damage.
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11/13/2010
Thanks so much for all the good opinions! I knew that this community would help us make this decision. Lots of hug's and cookies.
I have talked with the wife about everybody's reason for or against, condensed them together and presented them to my daughter. We told her to think on it for awhile and let us know.
I will post back with our decision.
Please feel free to add more to the discussion, others may face the same situation.
I have talked with the wife about everybody's reason for or against, condensed them together and presented them to my daughter. We told her to think on it for awhile and let us know.
I will post back with our decision.
Please feel free to add more to the discussion, others may face the same situation.
11/13/2010
I don't think a few streaks will hurt, and red always looks funky with dark hair. I was using temporary dyes for a while around her age and have always wanted red streaks.
So long as you or your wife supervise to make sure it doesn't turn out a mess, I say go for it.
So long as you or your wife supervise to make sure it doesn't turn out a mess, I say go for it.
11/13/2010
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Ooooo colorful donuts... Makes me want a donut, which is funny cause I don't really like them.
Originally posted by
ToyTimeTim
Thanks so much for all the good opinions! I knew that this community would help us make this decision. Lots of hug's and cookies.
I have talked with the wife about everybody's reason for or against, condensed them together and ... more
I have talked with the wife about everybody's reason for or against, condensed them together and ... more
Thanks so much for all the good opinions! I knew that this community would help us make this decision. Lots of hug's and cookies.
I have talked with the wife about everybody's reason for or against, condensed them together and presented them to my daughter. We told her to think on it for awhile and let us know.
I will post back with our decision.
Please feel free to add more to the discussion, others may face the same situation. less
I have talked with the wife about everybody's reason for or against, condensed them together and presented them to my daughter. We told her to think on it for awhile and let us know.
I will post back with our decision.
Please feel free to add more to the discussion, others may face the same situation. less
And I think presenting your daughter with the arguments for and against is an awesome idea!!! It's like a peek into adulthood and how something as simple as what you do with your hair affects a whole lot of things. No matter what she or yall decide, it's definitely a good lesson.
11/13/2010
My mom started dying my hair with streaks when I was 5! She's a hairdresser though so I am sort of biased.
I did get blond bangs when I was 12 and it was permanent in the sense that my color was bleached out. I got them pink when I was 14ish and then I got all my hair bleached blond around 15-16.
So I guess it depends what she wants to get done. I agree with others it would be nice if she got something semi-permanent that washes away slowly.
I did get blond bangs when I was 12 and it was permanent in the sense that my color was bleached out. I got them pink when I was 14ish and then I got all my hair bleached blond around 15-16.
So I guess it depends what she wants to get done. I agree with others it would be nice if she got something semi-permanent that washes away slowly.
11/14/2010
I didn't try dying my hair until I was 15, I tried blue streaks which ended up really really bad and with me missing a day of school to try to fix it in a salon. I'd say as long as you do it on a Friday where there won't be school the next day then do it, just make sure to wait until then just in case she decides she hates it and wants a fix up while refusing to go to school until then.
11/14/2010
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One thing I stressed to her was that she had to live with the results at least till the next weekend, just for that reason.
Originally posted by
Kimbertrees
I didn't try dying my hair until I was 15, I tried blue streaks which ended up really really bad and with me missing a day of school to try to fix it in a salon. I'd say as long as you do it on a Friday where there won't be school the
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I didn't try dying my hair until I was 15, I tried blue streaks which ended up really really bad and with me missing a day of school to try to fix it in a salon. I'd say as long as you do it on a Friday where there won't be school the next day then do it, just make sure to wait until then just in case she decides she hates it and wants a fix up while refusing to go to school until then.
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11/14/2010
I'd say go ahead and let her do whatever with her hair. Let her be a kid and do fun/crazy things, adults don't get to do it that much.
11/14/2010
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We agree, a long as grades are good and behave they get a lot of free reign.
Originally posted by
El-Jaro
I'd say go ahead and let her do whatever with her hair. Let her be a kid and do fun/crazy things, adults don't get to do it that much.
11/14/2010
Have you looked at Sally's beauty supply or online for clip in extensions? They look very real, can be changed as often as desired, and are not at all permanent.
11/14/2010
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No, but that is a good idea. Might be cheaper in the long run too.
Originally posted by
Pleasure Piratess
Have you looked at Sally's beauty supply or online for clip in extensions? They look very real, can be changed as often as desired, and are not at all permanent.
Thanks.
11/14/2010
Sally's does carry a lot of temporary dye colors. As some others said, go in and talk to someone "in the know" there and get recommendations.
Oh and just an FYI, even if it says temporary dye, black colors will not wash out. We went through that with my youngest in her teens. She had to grow it out completely.
Oh and just an FYI, even if it says temporary dye, black colors will not wash out. We went through that with my youngest in her teens. She had to grow it out completely.
11/14/2010
It's fine if you use a safe/natural/homemade product.
11/14/2010
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Do you mean like Koolaid. I think someone mentioned that. If not enlighten me.
Originally posted by
PuplePleasures
It's fine if you use a safe/natural/homemade product.
11/14/2010
I have an 11 year old also so I know your pain.
My punk has watched me dye my hair for years. A couple years back she asked if she could have some. I gave her a small streak under her crown. It was not very noticeable but for her it was the coolest thing ever.
My punk has watched me dye my hair for years. A couple years back she asked if she could have some. I gave her a small streak under her crown. It was not very noticeable but for her it was the coolest thing ever.
11/14/2010
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haha, 11 turning 16. That's just like the first time mom let her paint her nails herself, did not stop talking about it for days.
Originally posted by
Jobthingy
I have an 11 year old also so I know your pain.
My punk has watched me dye my hair for years. A couple years back she asked if she could have some. I gave her a small streak under her crown. It was not very noticeable but for her it was the ... more
My punk has watched me dye my hair for years. A couple years back she asked if she could have some. I gave her a small streak under her crown. It was not very noticeable but for her it was the ... more
I have an 11 year old also so I know your pain.
My punk has watched me dye my hair for years. A couple years back she asked if she could have some. I gave her a small streak under her crown. It was not very noticeable but for her it was the coolest thing ever. less
My punk has watched me dye my hair for years. A couple years back she asked if she could have some. I gave her a small streak under her crown. It was not very noticeable but for her it was the coolest thing ever. less
11/14/2010
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Dyes are relatively safe these days, hell you can dye your hair when you are pergnant so it shouldn't hurt her. Having wild hair is such a small ego boost for a kid especially if Mom approves and helps with it. My kids are about the same age as your daughter DWTim and I offered but they actully like their hair color as it is. There are things I won't do like body piercing (except ears if my wusses would allow it LOL) or tattoos. We've done henna tattoos and body painting but nothing permanent.
Originally posted by
Kindred
I wouldn't have a problem if she were my child and wanted to dye her hair. I grew up pretty open minded and did my own thing as a teen as well. My only concern would be how safe the procedure would be. Dyeing can involve harsh chemicals. Are
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I wouldn't have a problem if she were my child and wanted to dye her hair. I grew up pretty open minded and did my own thing as a teen as well. My only concern would be how safe the procedure would be. Dyeing can involve harsh chemicals. Are there any potential dangers for a young child being exposed to them? Also, any potential long term damage to her hair since a child's hair is different than an adults?
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Sexualized clothing and heavy make-up are a no go in our house but hair color is negotiable.
11/18/2010
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If you go to JCPenneys salons they will be able to recommend a safe mild hair dye and they sell the professional stuff as well as the shampoo/conditioner to care for it. They can also offer suggestions as to how to put it in!
Originally posted by
Selective Sensualist
I personally really like the L'Oreal products if you are buying over-the-counter. I don't have much experience with any other over-the-counter brands than L'Oreal since I have had friends with cosmetician licenses who were able to buy
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I personally really like the L'Oreal products if you are buying over-the-counter. I don't have much experience with any other over-the-counter brands than L'Oreal since I have had friends with cosmetician licenses who were able to buy professional products for me. Do you have any friends like that who could help you out?
As far as great over-the-counter products, is there anybody else out there in EF land who can recommend a specific high-quality wash out dye that leaves the hair glossy, conditioned, and lustrous? less
As far as great over-the-counter products, is there anybody else out there in EF land who can recommend a specific high-quality wash out dye that leaves the hair glossy, conditioned, and lustrous? less
11/18/2010
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Mine asked about tattoos, after I told them how it was done they decided they are "Never going to get one" haha
Originally posted by
Airen Wolf
Dyes are relatively safe these days, hell you can dye your hair when you are pergnant so it shouldn't hurt her. Having wild hair is such a small ego boost for a kid especially if Mom approves and helps with it. My kids are about the same age as
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Dyes are relatively safe these days, hell you can dye your hair when you are pergnant so it shouldn't hurt her. Having wild hair is such a small ego boost for a kid especially if Mom approves and helps with it. My kids are about the same age as your daughter DWTim and I offered but they actully like their hair color as it is. There are things I won't do like body piercing (except ears if my wusses would allow it LOL) or tattoos. We've done henna tattoos and body painting but nothing permanent.
Sexualized clothing and heavy make-up are a no go in our house but hair color is negotiable. less
Sexualized clothing and heavy make-up are a no go in our house but hair color is negotiable. less
Yup our house is the same as yours.
11/18/2010
Someone on Twitter mentioned that she had heard that Beyond the Zone Color Bombz temporary hair color had good reviews for those with darker hair and she was asking whether or not anyone had any personal recommendations/experi ences with it. I don't know anything about it personally.
You might look into that brand.
You might look into that brand.
11/19/2010
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Thanks SS.
Originally posted by
Selective Sensualist
Someone on Twitter mentioned that she had heard that Beyond the Zone Color Bombz temporary hair color had good reviews for those with darker hair and she was asking whether or not anyone had any personal recommendations/experi ences with it. I
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Someone on Twitter mentioned that she had heard that Beyond the Zone Color Bombz temporary hair color had good reviews for those with darker hair and she was asking whether or not anyone had any personal recommendations/experi ences with it. I don't know anything about it personally.
You might look into that brand. less
You might look into that brand. less
11/19/2010
I am a licensed cosmetologist so I have a few bits of information to give, and if you have any questions about products or anything please feel free to message me.
The first thing I am going to say is, if you are going to do a highlight please make sure you use a cap or foil. The kits that you buy where you just brush lines of color are... less than desirable as far as how even the highlights will look.
That being said, many salons like Regis in the mall have a deal where you get 7 foils for $25. So you can get her a few professional highlights is the color you want for not much more than the price of buying the product yourself. It's a great option. If you don't have a regis, you might be able to find a local salon willing to give you a similar deal.
My daughter is only 2 1/2 but I know, with me being a stylist that she is going to ask sooner than most, but at 11 I think a few subtle highlights would be alright. When I was in cosmetology school one of my instructors had a daughter who was about 10ish and she got a few light highlights every couple of months if her grades were good. After the report card came out, if she did well then she got to come in and get highlights, a shampoo, cut and style. It was her own little treat for doing well in school.
Red always fades. Always. It also fades faster than any other color. I would be careful what red you use. Wanting red is just fine, I love it myself, I am almost always a redhead... but you want to choose a color that fades nicely. The color that I am using now fades from a nice vibrant red to warm auburn. Many of the fantasy colors don't fade as nicely.
I hope that helps... and like I said let me know if you have any questions.
The first thing I am going to say is, if you are going to do a highlight please make sure you use a cap or foil. The kits that you buy where you just brush lines of color are... less than desirable as far as how even the highlights will look.
That being said, many salons like Regis in the mall have a deal where you get 7 foils for $25. So you can get her a few professional highlights is the color you want for not much more than the price of buying the product yourself. It's a great option. If you don't have a regis, you might be able to find a local salon willing to give you a similar deal.
My daughter is only 2 1/2 but I know, with me being a stylist that she is going to ask sooner than most, but at 11 I think a few subtle highlights would be alright. When I was in cosmetology school one of my instructors had a daughter who was about 10ish and she got a few light highlights every couple of months if her grades were good. After the report card came out, if she did well then she got to come in and get highlights, a shampoo, cut and style. It was her own little treat for doing well in school.
Red always fades. Always. It also fades faster than any other color. I would be careful what red you use. Wanting red is just fine, I love it myself, I am almost always a redhead... but you want to choose a color that fades nicely. The color that I am using now fades from a nice vibrant red to warm auburn. Many of the fantasy colors don't fade as nicely.
I hope that helps... and like I said let me know if you have any questions.
11/19/2010
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Thanks so much for that info and invitation. She is still pondering the highlights, we think she only wanted to do it cuz a friend at school had hers done. I kind of hope she does go through with it, the wife's turned out very nice and I would love to see them as twin's.
Originally posted by
SydVicious
I am a licensed cosmetologist so I have a few bits of information to give, and if you have any questions about products or anything please feel free to message me.
The first thing I am going to say is, if you are going to do a highlight ... more
The first thing I am going to say is, if you are going to do a highlight ... more
I am a licensed cosmetologist so I have a few bits of information to give, and if you have any questions about products or anything please feel free to message me.
The first thing I am going to say is, if you are going to do a highlight please make sure you use a cap or foil. The kits that you buy where you just brush lines of color are... less than desirable as far as how even the highlights will look.
That being said, many salons like Regis in the mall have a deal where you get 7 foils for $25. So you can get her a few professional highlights is the color you want for not much more than the price of buying the product yourself. It's a great option. If you don't have a regis, you might be able to find a local salon willing to give you a similar deal.
My daughter is only 2 1/2 but I know, with me being a stylist that she is going to ask sooner than most, but at 11 I think a few subtle highlights would be alright. When I was in cosmetology school one of my instructors had a daughter who was about 10ish and she got a few light highlights every couple of months if her grades were good. After the report card came out, if she did well then she got to come in and get highlights, a shampoo, cut and style. It was her own little treat for doing well in school.
Red always fades. Always. It also fades faster than any other color. I would be careful what red you use. Wanting red is just fine, I love it myself, I am almost always a redhead... but you want to choose a color that fades nicely. The color that I am using now fades from a nice vibrant red to warm auburn. Many of the fantasy colors don't fade as nicely.
I hope that helps... and like I said let me know if you have any questions. less
The first thing I am going to say is, if you are going to do a highlight please make sure you use a cap or foil. The kits that you buy where you just brush lines of color are... less than desirable as far as how even the highlights will look.
That being said, many salons like Regis in the mall have a deal where you get 7 foils for $25. So you can get her a few professional highlights is the color you want for not much more than the price of buying the product yourself. It's a great option. If you don't have a regis, you might be able to find a local salon willing to give you a similar deal.
My daughter is only 2 1/2 but I know, with me being a stylist that she is going to ask sooner than most, but at 11 I think a few subtle highlights would be alright. When I was in cosmetology school one of my instructors had a daughter who was about 10ish and she got a few light highlights every couple of months if her grades were good. After the report card came out, if she did well then she got to come in and get highlights, a shampoo, cut and style. It was her own little treat for doing well in school.
Red always fades. Always. It also fades faster than any other color. I would be careful what red you use. Wanting red is just fine, I love it myself, I am almost always a redhead... but you want to choose a color that fades nicely. The color that I am using now fades from a nice vibrant red to warm auburn. Many of the fantasy colors don't fade as nicely.
I hope that helps... and like I said let me know if you have any questions. less
As a side note, my son know wants hit tail dyed too. Ah the joys of kids.
11/19/2010
My boys have been asking for dye, and if it was completely up to me I would say yes but their Dad is 100% against it and stuck in his ways. My daughter is only 6, but my hair is purple and she wants to be like Mom! I said no, maybe when she is older, but I do let her wear my pink extensions on the weekends.
11/19/2010
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Hell no. Not at that age. For a Libby Lu b-day party where they spray your hair and it washes out...I'd let my kid do that but not what you are describing. You said punk days so I am guessing the red is vibrant and that would be a for sure no if it was a wild color. No hesitation. A single stripe? or natural colors -At an older age, like 14.
Originally posted by
ToyTimeTim
So my wife bought some hair dye that comes with a red highlight dye and my daughter asked if she could have some of the red as highlights. Both the wife and I had our "punk" day's so we really do not care, but we were 16-17 years old
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So my wife bought some hair dye that comes with a red highlight dye and my daughter asked if she could have some of the red as highlights. Both the wife and I had our "punk" day's so we really do not care, but we were 16-17 years old too.
So I thought I would get everyone in Eden-land to chime in and tell me what you think. She has medium dark strait long hair. less
So I thought I would get everyone in Eden-land to chime in and tell me what you think. She has medium dark strait long hair. less
It's not even allowed at my H.S. anymore. It's considered a distraction. You can get detentions or more.
11/19/2010
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No problems with the school for us and I get what you are saying. The punk days reference was just saying the wife and I went through that so we are not totally opposed to the idea.
Originally posted by
~LaUr3n~
Hell no. Not at that age. For a Libby Lu b-day party where they spray your hair and it washes out...I'd let my kid do that but not what you are describing. You said punk days so I am guessing the red is vibrant and that would be a for sure no if
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Hell no. Not at that age. For a Libby Lu b-day party where they spray your hair and it washes out...I'd let my kid do that but not what you are describing. You said punk days so I am guessing the red is vibrant and that would be a for sure no if it was a wild color. No hesitation. A single stripe? or natural colors -At an older age, like 14.
It's not even allowed at my H.S. anymore. It's considered a distraction. You can get detentions or more. less
It's not even allowed at my H.S. anymore. It's considered a distraction. You can get detentions or more. less
She wants a light red/auburn color and we decided, if she does it, that there will only be three or four highlights. Her hair is a medium brown so it will not jump out like a bright red would. I like the idea of a temp color the most and she agrees.
11/19/2010
Do it! My mother was a hair dresser and I started playing with my hair color when I was around that age. I experimented a lot as a teen, got bored, and now I just have my natural hair color which is as close to black in color as natural hair gets. I did all kinds of color, although it might be fun for her to start out with henna dyes first? Henna washes out and it works even on darker colored hair. She can see if she is ready for the commitment of dying this way first?
All this nonsense about "virgin" hair...bah! It's not like a tattoo that never comes off, it's hair...and it grows back! She can always let it grow out and cut the dye out if she doesn't like it. I say have some fun. At that age kids are trying on identities and trying to figure themselves out, and I think it's really healthy for them to have (within reason) enough space to experiment and discover who they are. Hair dying is a harmless way to express yourself and it's a good chance for you to bond with her, too!
If you have a Sally's near you then you'll need a bleach kit (if her hair is dark) and Manic Panic or something like that, which they sell there. If the idea of bleaching her hair freaks you out, think of maybe just bleaching the very tips of her hair? That way if it doesn't turn out well, you can just chop off an inch and her hair will still be the same.
All this nonsense about "virgin" hair...bah! It's not like a tattoo that never comes off, it's hair...and it grows back! She can always let it grow out and cut the dye out if she doesn't like it. I say have some fun. At that age kids are trying on identities and trying to figure themselves out, and I think it's really healthy for them to have (within reason) enough space to experiment and discover who they are. Hair dying is a harmless way to express yourself and it's a good chance for you to bond with her, too!
If you have a Sally's near you then you'll need a bleach kit (if her hair is dark) and Manic Panic or something like that, which they sell there. If the idea of bleaching her hair freaks you out, think of maybe just bleaching the very tips of her hair? That way if it doesn't turn out well, you can just chop off an inch and her hair will still be the same.
11/19/2010
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WOW Is that you S&L?
Originally posted by
Owl Identified
Do it! My mother was a hair dresser and I started playing with my hair color when I was around that age. I experimented a lot as a teen, got bored, and now I just have my natural hair color which is as close to black in color as natural hair gets. I
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Do it! My mother was a hair dresser and I started playing with my hair color when I was around that age. I experimented a lot as a teen, got bored, and now I just have my natural hair color which is as close to black in color as natural hair gets. I did all kinds of color, although it might be fun for her to start out with henna dyes first? Henna washes out and it works even on darker colored hair. She can see if she is ready for the commitment of dying this way first?
All this nonsense about "virgin" hair...bah! It's not like a tattoo that never comes off, it's hair...and it grows back! She can always let it grow out and cut the dye out if she doesn't like it. I say have some fun. At that age kids are trying on identities and trying to figure themselves out, and I think it's really healthy for them to have (within reason) enough space to experiment and discover who they are. Hair dying is a harmless way to express yourself and it's a good chance for you to bond with her, too!
If you have a Sally's near you then you'll need a bleach kit (if her hair is dark) and Manic Panic or something like that, which they sell there. If the idea of bleaching her hair freaks you out, think of maybe just bleaching the very tips of her hair? That way if it doesn't turn out well, you can just chop off an inch and her hair will still be the same. less
All this nonsense about "virgin" hair...bah! It's not like a tattoo that never comes off, it's hair...and it grows back! She can always let it grow out and cut the dye out if she doesn't like it. I say have some fun. At that age kids are trying on identities and trying to figure themselves out, and I think it's really healthy for them to have (within reason) enough space to experiment and discover who they are. Hair dying is a harmless way to express yourself and it's a good chance for you to bond with her, too!
If you have a Sally's near you then you'll need a bleach kit (if her hair is dark) and Manic Panic or something like that, which they sell there. If the idea of bleaching her hair freaks you out, think of maybe just bleaching the very tips of her hair? That way if it doesn't turn out well, you can just chop off an inch and her hair will still be the same. less
I really like the look of that. I will show her when she gets home. Maybe she would like a bit of color like that.
11/19/2010