I am the mother of two boys and I do hear this. While I might want to have a daughter...I've decided I don't want to start over again. I don't want to go through 10 months of pregnancy, 12+ months of breastfeeding, and 2+ years of diaper changing. I have a one year old and a three year old. And that will be plenty, because it is already! I thought I wanted another one, but I really don't! I'm completely happy with what I have. We've decided to get hubby snipped.

I wish people would mind their own business. Especially about things like this.

I get a few people who bug me about me needing to have a little girl. I keep telling them, I have 2 kids I dont want and cant afford another. I am happy with the two healthy happy kids I have.

Correct me if I'm wrong (I'm not all too familiar with things that affect pregnancy) but outside of artificial insemination, and other types of artificial interference, you can't really do anything to influence which sex your child becomes. While you could try some old wives' tales, you can't really 'try for the opposite'.

I used to get that had 3 boys, boys run rampant in my husband's family, while my side is all girls. We did end up having a girl, was on the pill, and it failed. While we wouldn't trade her for anything she wasn't planned and we were not planning to have another child just to see if we could get a girl.

No way do I want another kid lol sorry this one was a handfull even before he was born! Love him to death but he was kinda a nightmare kid.

yes answer them

No, I don't even have kids, but I think it's probably equally annoying to be told ALL THE TIME that I'll "change my mind" about wanting kids....as if I'm required to want children.

Thanks for all of your input I do agree what one chooses to or chooses not to do regarding their family planning is up to that person not others I guess that's one of the reasons I get so annoyed

I get told all the time that I'm being selfish and unfair to my son that I'm not planning to give him any brothers or sisters, and that I really need to "fix" the situation before he gets too old.

My husband and I are both only children, and know from experience that there is nothing wrong with being an only child. It was never my life's ambition to have kids, but it happened and I love my son dearly. That doesn't mean I need to resign myself to having any more.

My husband and I have three girls. No boys. We're finished having babies, yet people always ask us, "When are you going to try for a boy?" It pisses me off. I say, "This is my body. Not the Lottery!"

I love my girls. We don't have any boys. So? I'm finally getting my career reinvigorated, and my kids are getting older and I really don't want any more children. Also, my husband is in his 50s and he wants to see all his children into adult hood and feels he is too old for more kids. We have reasons for not having any more kids including 5 VERY high risk pregnancies, two pregnancy losses and also not be financially set up for more babies. Not to mention wanting to be done with my own babies and work on my older kids and on my career and my happily improving sex life.

I'm not going to go through a pregnancy I don't want just to "maybe get a boy." I'd love if I had had a boy, but I had all girls. I'm glad they are relatively healthy and safe.

As for people who push others who don't want kids with "When you hold that baby in your arms, you'll change your mind" I say, "Bullshit!" I'm a Maternal Infant Nurse. I work with post partum women and their babies. I SEE women who didn't want kids and bought the "when you hold that baby" bull and HAD the baby they didn't want... and "held that baby in their arms" and STILL didn't want or love the baby. Nothing is much more of a disaster than this scenario. I see it at least once a month and it breaks my heart. Most of the time the mother tells me, "I never even wanted kids. Everybody told me I'd fall in love with the baby as soon as I held it. I didn't." OR they don't say ANYTHING, and it's obvious they don't want the child. It's freakin' heartbreaking. Not to mention awfully damaging to that unwanted child. Imagine not being wanted by your mother? Sad as hell.

IMO, if you don't want kids don't have kids. It's simple. YOU know what you want. Don't believe the hype that you will "hold that baby in your arms and change your mind." It rarely happens.

As for people who have one child. So? If you only want one child, only have ONE child. It's fine. (I was an only child until my mom got remarried. I was an adult then. Nothing wrong with having one kid.)

People KNOW what they want and what they are capable of. People should trust them. Also, I hate being pressured to have "one more try" as if my family doesn't count because I haven't produced male spawn. Fuck that. I LOVE my girls. I'm happy to have them and they are all I'm going to have.