Partner's reading your emails

Contributor: Rod Ronald Rod Ronald
I have a few friends who have either had problems in the past with partners raiding there accounts to read there emails or facebook messages, but what I can't understand is people allowing there partners to see what they have sent or recieved.
I can understand being open and all that, but whats the point of proving your not a lying ahole every minute.
Would you allow your partner to read every little thing that comes your way?
10/23/2012
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Contributor: Ansley Ansley
I do, I hand him my phone when my phone goes off unexpectedly or if I get an email that's interesting. I show him the stuff I write on Eden and he shows/tells me the convos he's had throughout the day. We consider that a part of our routine and there are reasons we do this. In the beginning we weren't exactly shining examples of the perfect relationship.

We were in a triad, there was a lot of lying, a lot of backstabbing and a lot of drama on both of our parts. Sometimes, when I'm feeling insecure I check in and I ask what's going on in the part of his world that I'm not physically present in - yes, it's codependent, yes it's exemplary of trust issues, but we make do.
10/23/2012
Contributor: SneakersAndPearls SneakersAndPearls
He checks my facebook all the time because he doesn't have his own account and uses it to catch up on family news. I really couldn't care less.
10/23/2012
Contributor: Ryuson Ryuson
We know eachothers passwords and such, but we really don't check eachothers e-mails. Sometimes we'll jokingly check eachothers texts and such, but it's not commonplace.
10/23/2012
Contributor: - Kira - - Kira -
He doesn't check mine because he pretty much has no interest in my stuff, but I'd be more than happy to let him look if he wanted. He knows all my passwords and stuff anyhow.
10/23/2012
Contributor: Geogeo Geogeo
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Originally posted by Rod Ronald
I have a few friends who have either had problems in the past with partners raiding there accounts to read there emails or facebook messages, but what I can't understand is people allowing there partners to see what they have sent or ... more
No I wouldn't. I'm protective of my privacy
10/23/2012
Contributor: BrittaniMaree BrittaniMaree
my Husband goes through my facebook stuff and I swe ar god forbid I get a poke on Facebook they get deleted if I do it happen to me few times a week, the deleting friends does I try to erase them and move on my day just so theres no BS dont poke back because god forbid they might poke me back
10/23/2012
Contributor: Dixiemomma Dixiemomma
i have absolutely nothing to hide so i dont see it as being a problem if he wanted to look around... he's never really asked to tho.
10/23/2012
Contributor: Jesyra Jesyra
I have his passwords and he has mine, not that he ever remembers them, but my email and facebook are set to auto login, so if he wanted access to my stuff he has it.

That said, he trusts me and I trust him. We don't check up on each other, but we do share pretty much everything of interest. When his college sweetheart emailed him after 6 years, before he even knew what the email said, he was calling me in to see it. Likewise, I share the things of interest to me with him, regardless of who or what it is. When my ex reconnected with me after years of no contact, he was the first to know.

We don't keep secrets. He is my other half, if I can't share something with him than that alone tells me I shouldn't be doing it. It's not about proving honesty, it's simply about being one cohesive unit. I can have all the privacy I want, as can he, but neither of us has any from the other by choice.
10/23/2012
Contributor: js250 js250
My husband has a jealous streak a mile wide. I have nothing to hide but have found it easier for the relationship to just keep my mouth shut about my friends and family if it is something that he could misconstrue.

For example: I had an EF friend email me her review and my hubby thought she was hitting on me. Ummmm.....I am STRAIGHT, married and a mentor on the site. Excuse me??!!

I do not care about his emails, texts or phone calls.
10/23/2012
Contributor: XxFallenAngelxX XxFallenAngelxX
As with Steff, I have one who is jealous of me. It's more of him being afraid that someone is going to steal me away from him. We don't make a habit of checking in on emails but there is nothing to hide, so he grabs my phone at times when I'm not near it and he yells and tells me who called or texted.

I check his every now and then when someone calls from my family and I grab it.

I can check the accounts easily and see who he has called and texted but I trust him enough to not have to do that.
10/23/2012
Contributor: Sundae Sparkles Sundae Sparkles
I see this from both sides
10/23/2012
Contributor: Alan & Michele Alan & Michele
Well, we share an eMail account as "A.andM." and haven't had any problems. And yes, I've seen letters from women who are very explicit about what they would do to Alan if they could (and more than a few panty or titty pictures), and his return flirting. It doesn't bother me, and I don't care if he wants to read what I get or say either. Then again, neither of us are the jealous types. We know it's not the "norm" for most people though.
10/23/2012
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
He knows the passwords to all my social accounts, but he doesn't go through them.
10/23/2012
Contributor: Cat E. Cat E.
I absolutely would NOT allow a partner to snoop into any of my stuff and I wouldn't snoop into his stuff. I would never ever give out any of my passwords.
10/24/2012
Contributor: ShadowedSeductress ShadowedSeductress
We have each others passwords to everything and when driving we will had our phones over if we get a text or a call.

Just because we have each others passwords doesn't mean we go through the stuff though.
10/24/2012
Contributor: travelnurse travelnurse
My husband never gets on the internet due to lack of sight but I tell him about my emails and such.
10/24/2012
Contributor: KyotoAngel KyotoAngel
If he were here and wanted to, I wouldn't mind if he read things like that.
He already knows I'm a little bit of a flirt (but nothing more than harmless flirting) with my really close male friends from time to time and knows I'd never cheat so I don't have anything to hide really.
10/24/2012
Contributor: Noelle Noelle
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Originally posted by Rod Ronald
I have a few friends who have either had problems in the past with partners raiding there accounts to read there emails or facebook messages, but what I can't understand is people allowing there partners to see what they have sent or ... more
He doesn't read my emails, but I have nothing to hide. I really only email my family. I don't have a Facebook, and neither does he. We don't read each others texts either. I know I could if I wanted to, but we don't trip on things like that.
10/24/2012
Contributor: Rod Ronald Rod Ronald
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Originally posted by BrittaniMaree
my Husband goes through my facebook stuff and I swe ar god forbid I get a poke on Facebook they get deleted if I do it happen to me few times a week, the deleting friends does I try to erase them and move on my day just so theres no BS dont poke back ... more
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA! What the hell is the fucking "poke" button anyways! Thats the stupidest thing I have ever seen in my life. It's like they put that in there just to weed out the annoying pricks on FB. I do the same thing, you poke me, your gone. End of story!
10/25/2012