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Contributor: Jenn (aka kissmykitty) Jenn (aka kissmykitty)
(EdenFantasys)
The two don't go hand in hand, obviously. Since we have a three year old and a five year old, my husband and I do our best to have sex when they're asleep or at preschool. But occasionally our three year old will be napping and our five year old will be in her room playing, and we'll sneak off for a quickie. We always take precautions by locking the door, making things quick and keeping quiet, but apparently we're not quiet enough, because last week my daughter asked me, "Mommy, why do you always make weird noises when you and Daddy are napping?" After smothering a laugh, I told her I have weird dreams, lol.

Ah... kids questioning their parents on sex... so cliche, right?
04/09/2010
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Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
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Originally posted by Jenn (aka kissmykitty)
The two don't go hand in hand, obviously. Since we have a three year old and a five year old, my husband and I do our best to have sex when they're asleep or at preschool. But occasionally our three year old will be napping and our five year ... more
LOL They don't remember those odd questions rest assured. My oldest who is 13 now is delighted when I tell people about how she was all of 4 and angrier than a wet hen one morning. She stood with her hands on her hips and asked me in her most "mommy" voice why it was ok for her daddy and I to jump on the bed but she wasn't allowed to! We simply explained that we had a grownup bed and we were very careful not to fall and get hurt. She nodded approvingly and advised us to please be careful and ran off to play with her sister.

I told the story again five or six years later and she asked me who had done that! I figured she'd have remembered that for sure! Nope, as long as you are matter of fact and keep it very low key they just go on as if nothing unusual has happened. Which really is the truth, nothing unusual DID happen. It's normal for kids to question time you spend alone with their other parent...it's how they learn to form their own bonds later in life!

Sweet story! She sounds like a darling.
04/09/2010
Contributor: Victoria Victoria
I am so thankful our kids are 10 and 12, and in school all day. Although, the summer can be tough. We definitely encourage them, often, to go to the library and even give them ice cream money for on the walk home.

Timing is everything, right? We know when we have to be fast
04/09/2010
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
Mulder has kids (4 & 12), and they visit him most of the week. Since any 'alien hunting activity between Mulder and Scully' happens at his place, we both naturally fell into the rule of 'No visiting when the kids are there'. They have no idea I exist.

I have no clue if I ever questioned my parents, as my mother was very matter-of-fact (read: medically clinical) about sex and pregnancy when I was 3 and had asked where my brother came from (she said I clamped my hands over my ears for most of it). I tend to think my parents were ninja-discreet about anything that went on between them.
04/09/2010
Contributor: Sammi Sammi
Timing is definitely everything . When we've forgotten to turn the TV on loud enough, I've had my daughter ask why we were making funny noises behind the door. The worst one was my daughter, when she was 6, asking why I was screaming in the basement one night. Apparently she couldn't sleep and heard us. I told her it wasn't me, that we were watching a horror movie
04/09/2010
Contributor: Kynky Kytty Kynky Kytty
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Originally posted by Victoria
I am so thankful our kids are 10 and 12, and in school all day. Although, the summer can be tough. We definitely encourage them, often, to go to the library and even give them ice cream money for on the walk home.

Timing is everything, right? ... more
You know, I never really thought about those things, and you completely changed the way I look at my childhood now.

Ice cream money for the way home... /facepalm
04/09/2010
Contributor: Boobs and Lubes Boobs and Lubes
Kids definitely lessen the sex drive, after getting them down and having dinner a lot of the times we're just too tired. Skipping dinner helps, ours are 2 and 6. But they're worth it... I think.
04/12/2010
Contributor: Carrie Ann Carrie Ann
It was SO easy when my son was small.

At 16, he knows exactly what we're doing, even when we're quiet, have the t.v on and think he's sleeping.

It's frustrating. SO FRUSTRATING!
04/12/2010
Contributor: ss143 ss143
Our boys are 7 and 2 so we try to wait till they are in bed or occupied with an activity and have a quickie or fool around out of their sight but sex is a natural part of life so if they are of the age and ask/or happen to walk in on us we aren't going to make it awkward or shameful
07/09/2011
Contributor: AngelvMaynard AngelvMaynard
We have found that the quietest and safest place for a quickie in our house is my closet. There are 3 lockable doors between my closet and the main part of the house. Now that my boys are older and can be left in a room without the fear they will stick their finger in a light socket or something, we "rearrange" my closet quite often
07/09/2011
Contributor: usmcwife99 usmcwife99
Ive got several kids living with me, I give my oldest time to herself at night by getting the others away from her. As well as ile text her something an she gets the point to go do something with everyone else while i and my husband have fun.
07/09/2011