Personally, I should say that sex is somewhat of a secret part of my life. My partner knows about MOST of my "obsession" lol. I wouldn't call it an obsession actually, just something I like. It's perfectly normal. He knows about my toys, and he even has toys himself. But he doesn't know that sometimes I enjoy erotic stories. I have a book collection, but they all have covers so they look a lot like my school books. It's not so much a secret, as if he would get mad. I just don't find it important to talk about. We both agreed way back when that porn wasn't something we wanted in our love life, so we both cut it out. I didn't watch it too much to begin with, so it isn't an issue for me. But he always said that erotic stories were fine. I actually write them sometimes for fun.

Back when I was younger, sexuality is something I had to hide from my family, and I still do. They don't really know that my fiance and I sleep together. They have no idea that I own toys or use them regularly. They definitely don't approve of toys or erotic stories, so my entire sexual life is private from them.