I have health issues that affect my daily life AND I have a child. It was a decision I didn't take lightly, but the decision I made. I would be pissed as all hell if someone took my right to that decision away.

I do not plan on having another child because I couldn't handle more than one with my health. I didn't get my tubes tied after birth because I don't like making permanent life altering decisions, no matter how strongly I feel about something. I use Implanon, which is hassle free on my end and works for three years. At the end of the three years, we will be revisiting a vasectomy for my husband, at his request, not mine. less

What about using condoms? That someone doesn't need to do anything, let the guy take on the responsibility. If that someone who doesn't like doctors/surgery get her tubes tied and regret it later, she'll have to do a Reverse Tubal Ligation surgery, that means more visits to the doctors and spending lots of unnecessary money - is it worth it? less

I love spending time with my husband. I actually don't like kids in general, but I love MY son.

For me, my son gives me a reason to keep going. I know he needs me in his life, being the best I can be. So I try harder to stay healthy for him. I do what I can, but I am not as involved of a mom as those without illness. There are times I have to have my mom watch him for short periods of time while my husband cares for me and works. I feel terrible when this happens, but that's part of my life. What I know is that NO ONE could love him like I do. I know that having a child changed my life for the better, and even though there are days it is HARD, I would not have it any other way.

Is that something that can be said for everyone? Nope. Having a child needs to be a personal decision, not one folks on the internet make for you. less

If you have "things [you] want to do" and feel you will not be able to put these things aside for your child, don't have a child. That matters more than any illness. It is selfless giving that makes a great parent, not health. I do not do even half the activities I once did. While there I days I miss my quiet time and even more so my party time, I would not trade for my son. He is everything to me. If you can't give up things for a child, then do not have a child. less

if someone has health issues that affect daily life everyday and its quite bad should they get their tubes tied?

If they got pregnant right after birth should they do the tube thing?

Someone who doesnt like birth control pills or objects inserted as birth control and also really doesnt like doctors/surgery...

What would be best bet? less

I agree, you shouldn't consider even having 'one' kid if the child will create so many issues for you (at least for the time-being), and it's not fair to the child. Although you don't want to get pregnant, you're also plain rejecting any birth control method other people are suggesting. If you really want to tie your tubes, no one can stop you, but you might regret the decision a few years later when your health and everything else have improved. less

I agree, you shouldn't consider even having 'one' kid if the child will create so many issues for you (at least for the time-being), and it's not fair to the child. Although you don't want to get pregnant, you're also plain rejecting any birth control method other people are suggesting. If you really want to tie your tubes, no one can stop you, but you might regret the decision a few years later when your health and everything else have improved. less

I agree, you shouldn't consider even having 'one' kid if the child will create so many issues for you (at least for the time-being), and it's not fair to the child. Although you don't want to get pregnant, you're also plain rejecting any birth control method other people are suggesting. If you really want to tie your tubes, no one can stop you, but you might regret the decision a few years later when your health and everything else have improved. less

what if someone wants 1 kid but they think having one is best because of several factors,cost,time,illn ess,complications/illn ess,pregnancy hard on body.

The birth control thing maybe someone just wants 1 considering everything but what if they were afraid of the tubal option because they don't want plastic or metal permanently stuck in their body? What if

I think the femcap is less invasive however can you do it without applying the chemical spermicide gel stuff?

If you can get the tubal thing without plastic or any metal inserted or any cutting/lazering would be nice. less

Bottom line - you need to make a decision about children on your own. Not based off what random strangers on the internet say.

As for doing a tube tie without cutting, I don't know how that would be possible. Maybe get your significant other to have a vasectomy if you don't want to go through surgery yourself.

The Implanon (what I have) comes out after three years. It's not permanently in your body. less

if someone has health issues that affect daily life everyday and its quite bad should they get their tubes tied?

If they got pregnant right after birth should they do the tube thing?

Someone who doesnt like birth control pills or objects inserted as birth control and also really doesnt like doctors/surgery...

What would be best bet? less