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Contributor: KyotoAngel KyotoAngel
If your child(ren) signed you up for a dating site in hopes of helping you find love?
(This is assuming, theoretically anyway, that you were single and wanting to find that special someone.)

Would you consider it a step too far, even if your child(ren) were genuinely concerned about your past choices in partners because you always wound up hurt?
Again, this is all in theory, and in this scenario you would have had pretty much nothing but bad/abusive relationships.
04/01/2013
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Contributor: *Camoprincess* *Camoprincess*
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Originally posted by KyotoAngel
If your child(ren) signed you up for a dating site in hopes of helping you find love?
(This is assuming, theoretically anyway, that you were single and wanting to find that special someone.)

Would you consider it a step too far, even if ... more
I don't think it is the child's place to sign a parent up for a dating site especially with the parent having no knowledge. Bad relationships or not think of how you would feel if you parent signed you up for a dating site without your knowledge?
04/01/2013
Contributor: Martiniman Martiniman
I'd be happy that they cared enough to take the time and effort, but I'd appreciate more if they consulted with me first then helped me set up a profile. However, I don't think I'd be upset, they cared enough to step in and being my children, they would know me well enough to know when to speak up and act.
04/01/2013
Contributor: KyotoAngel KyotoAngel
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Originally posted by *Camoprincess*
I don't think it is the child's place to sign a parent up for a dating site especially with the parent having no knowledge. Bad relationships or not think of how you would feel if you parent signed you up for a dating site without your knowledge?
Honestly, I'd trust her to know what sorts of guys would be good for me, considering she knows me better than everyone except myself.

But you do make a good point there.

Mostly asked because I saw an article on buzzfeed and it mentioned a dating site where the kids sign up their parents. Seemed kind of like it would be good for shy parents.
04/01/2013
Contributor: KyotoAngel KyotoAngel
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Originally posted by Martiniman
I'd be happy that they cared enough to take the time and effort, but I'd appreciate more if they consulted with me first then helped me set up a profile. However, I don't think I'd be upset, they cared enough to step in and being my ... more
...that's roughly the same way I think my mom would react.
She's known for weeks that I want to sign her up for this one site where the kids make the profiles and offer the potential dates their take on their parent but she's not really leaning strongly one way or the other.

Suppose the good thing about any dating site is the ability to delete your profile any time you want. ^_^
04/01/2013
Contributor: GONE! GONE!
I would be pissed off unless they asked me first I think.
04/01/2013
Contributor: Zombirella Zombirella
I don't think it's appropriate to do without asking. I'd probably be mad and demand it shut down.
04/01/2013
Contributor: captainsgirl captainsgirl
Quote:
Originally posted by KyotoAngel
If your child(ren) signed you up for a dating site in hopes of helping you find love?
(This is assuming, theoretically anyway, that you were single and wanting to find that special someone.)

Would you consider it a step too far, even if ... more
i would be fine wiht it as long as they were safe.
04/01/2013
Contributor: KinkyKatieJames KinkyKatieJames
I actually did this for my mom years back. I did have her permission though.

Anyway, the reason was she was with my dad, who was physically abusive and them my drug-addicted stepfather who was emotionally abusive (sometimes physical as well). My mom was turning 40 at the time and didn't know how she could meet another man who has similar interests (she's not into the bar scene, likes to go out but also enjoys quiet evenings, etc.). So, I made her a dating profile online to help her out.

She enjoyed it and met some nice people. She ended up getting serious with a guy who seemed great in the beginning. He turned out to be a controlling creep. After that, she decided to take a step back from the dating world.
04/01/2013
Contributor: Living Doll Living Doll
I'd think it's inappropriate to do that without discussing it first.
04/01/2013
Contributor: PeaceToTheMiddleEast PeaceToTheMiddleEast
I would want my child to talk to me about it first. I am not one for being on certain sites unless I choose so.
04/01/2013
Contributor: K101 K101
Quote:
Originally posted by KyotoAngel
If your child(ren) signed you up for a dating site in hopes of helping you find love?
(This is assuming, theoretically anyway, that you were single and wanting to find that special someone.)

Would you consider it a step too far, even if ... more
As long as the parent was willing and knew about their adult kid signing them up,I don't see a thing wrong with it.
04/01/2013
Contributor: AmethystQueen AmethystQueen
I'd think it was cute only because I love filling stuff out and seeing who matches me.
04/01/2013
Contributor: KyotoAngel KyotoAngel
Pretty mixed responses, but overall it's seeming like it'd be alright as long as the child were to ask first at least.

Sort of glad I told her first now, though she's not the sort to get angry easily anyway.
04/02/2013
Contributor: Real or memorex Real or memorex
I don't have children, but if I did and this happened it would be a situation for punishments/consequenc es and a very serious talk.

It's crossing a boundary for anyone to do, and is especially inappropriate given a history of bad relationships. No one should be pushing a person with a background of abuse into a date.

Wait, I just finished reading the responses and realized this question is about adult children. I agree with the general consensus of asking first. (I would say no, though.)
04/03/2013