Did she impart very good lessons, help you to grow up healthy and strong? Were there things she did that were not so good as a role model?
Was your mom a good role model?
05/07/2013
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With some things she was a good role model. She got me into reading a lot, make it easy to express myself, and definitely helped with my educational path. However, her relationships with both my dad and step dad showed that she is weak and cannot stand up for herself. Another issue was her view of sex as "disgusting" . How I ended up being so open-minded is not something I can explain.
I finished writing this and wanted to mention an situation recently that made me laugh. She found a cock ring in mine and my boyfriend's bedroom. She picked up and, after trying to get her to drop the subject, I told her what it was. Her response was, "Oh, that's just so nasty. You're one of those weird kinky sex people now? I'm ashamed." I'm used to this by now, so I just laughed at her instead.
I finished writing this and wanted to mention an situation recently that made me laugh. She found a cock ring in mine and my boyfriend's bedroom. She picked up and, after trying to get her to drop the subject, I told her what it was. Her response was, "Oh, that's just so nasty. You're one of those weird kinky sex people now? I'm ashamed." I'm used to this by now, so I just laughed at her instead.
05/07/2013
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My mother had to work 2 to 3 jobs for years up untill I was in middle school so my father was the one who was around. He gave very good lessons about life. To be honest, think of others first, and take responsbilty for my actions.
Originally posted by
js250
Did she impart very good lessons, help you to grow up healthy and strong? Were there things she did that were not so good as a role model?
05/07/2013
I suppose this question is directed at women - but men have a mother too, so I'll give my 2 cents.
Unfortunately my mother was not a good roll model for me - or my sister. It had nothing to do with morality. But her relationship with my father was the most unhealthy thing I've ever witnessed. It takes two to tango - and argue, so my dad get's his share of the blame.
If anything they taught me what not to do - what to avoid.
Outside of the relationship both were loving and supportive parents. I came out of the problems relatively unscathed, but my brother and sister still have problems going back to the traumas that they experienced.
Near the end my parents reconciled with one another and have now passed. Hopefully their having a better time of it in heaven
Unfortunately my mother was not a good roll model for me - or my sister. It had nothing to do with morality. But her relationship with my father was the most unhealthy thing I've ever witnessed. It takes two to tango - and argue, so my dad get's his share of the blame.
If anything they taught me what not to do - what to avoid.
Outside of the relationship both were loving and supportive parents. I came out of the problems relatively unscathed, but my brother and sister still have problems going back to the traumas that they experienced.
Near the end my parents reconciled with one another and have now passed. Hopefully their having a better time of it in heaven
05/08/2013
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My mother was not a good role model. However, because she wasn't, I did learn a lot of what -not- to do if I wanted to manage in life. She might not have been a great mother, but at least she taught me something.
Originally posted by
js250
Did she impart very good lessons, help you to grow up healthy and strong? Were there things she did that were not so good as a role model?
05/08/2013
Yes, she is. I feel I'm a better person because of her. She has always been there for me and helped guide me down the right path. I don't care to put my personal business out there, but I'm forever thankful for the person that she is and lucky to have her, though she does drive me nuts at times, but what mother doesn't do that?!
05/08/2013
My mother and i are very close and i consider her one of my role models, if not my main one. She really instilled in my a love for the arts - such as music, crafts and visual arts - reading, accepting those who may seem different (culturally, physically, mentally, etc), and caring for those in need. She turned me into a very well rounded person over all, and did such a wonderful job at raising me considering she was a single parent supporting a child who suffers from a mood disorder, on a fixed income, while dealing with her own depression.
05/08/2013
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This is not a female directed question--you are right, men have mom's too. And men are also more affected by the role of the mother in their early years than women are...seriously, I had to do a study on this in college.
Originally posted by
Gunsmoke
I suppose this question is directed at women - but men have a mother too, so I'll give my 2 cents.
Unfortunately my mother was not a good roll model for me - or my sister. It had nothing to do with morality. But her relationship with my ... more
Unfortunately my mother was not a good roll model for me - or my sister. It had nothing to do with morality. But her relationship with my ... more
I suppose this question is directed at women - but men have a mother too, so I'll give my 2 cents.
Unfortunately my mother was not a good roll model for me - or my sister. It had nothing to do with morality. But her relationship with my father was the most unhealthy thing I've ever witnessed. It takes two to tango - and argue, so my dad get's his share of the blame.
If anything they taught me what not to do - what to avoid.
Outside of the relationship both were loving and supportive parents. I came out of the problems relatively unscathed, but my brother and sister still have problems going back to the traumas that they experienced.
Near the end my parents reconciled with one another and have now passed. Hopefully their having a better time of it in heaven less
Unfortunately my mother was not a good roll model for me - or my sister. It had nothing to do with morality. But her relationship with my father was the most unhealthy thing I've ever witnessed. It takes two to tango - and argue, so my dad get's his share of the blame.
If anything they taught me what not to do - what to avoid.
Outside of the relationship both were loving and supportive parents. I came out of the problems relatively unscathed, but my brother and sister still have problems going back to the traumas that they experienced.
Near the end my parents reconciled with one another and have now passed. Hopefully their having a better time of it in heaven less
I appreciate you taking the time to answer this, also for the honesty and integrity in your answer. You said nothing to belittle your mother, but honestly stated that what you learned from her relationship with your dad was more of a 'not' impact than a positive one. So in that instance, it did have a positive impact on you as far as your future relationships.
My experience with my mother was similar--but it was her verbal and emotional abuse and habitual lying about others and how she was treated that showed me how not to live my life. When I found out I was pregnant with my daughter--I made a promise to myself NEVER to abuse her in any way, call her names or lie to her about her father--no matter what happened in the meantime. When her dad and I divorced, I would refuse to discuss anything that portrayed him negatively with her. A fact she appreciates today.
05/08/2013
Yes, she was, and I really wish she lived so I could know her as a adult. I credit her with raising me to be open-minded and respectful of others, to enjoy reading and learning, to jump in and get my hands dirty when needed, for teaching me how to love and show others I love them.
05/08/2013
She was a positive role model in many ways. She had a great work ethic and loved fiercely,and would nurture people who needed it. Unfortunately she was a functioning alcoholic and at night she could be emotionally abusive,manipulative and occasionally physically aggressive. I have PTSD and will never be at peace with her memory.
One great piece of advice she did gave me was no matter how established I may be in a relationship, have a career with income that will support me and any dependents completely, so I won't be trapped in a bad relationship or destitute if something happens to my husband.
One great piece of advice she did gave me was no matter how established I may be in a relationship, have a career with income that will support me and any dependents completely, so I won't be trapped in a bad relationship or destitute if something happens to my husband.
05/09/2013
Me and my mom are polar opposites.Even though I know for sure that she is a much better person than I am I could never follow her example, we are just too different.
05/09/2013
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