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Contributor: spicywife spicywife
When you began using sex toys and exploring your sexuality more, did you notice any changes occurring in other aspects of your life?

For example, the way you dress, etc.
08/31/2009
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Contributor: Maiden Maiden
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Originally posted by spicywife
When you began using sex toys and exploring your sexuality more, did you notice any changes occurring in other aspects of your life?

For example, the way you dress, etc.
I've always been someone who has struggled with self esteem issues. A lot of it has to do with my difficult childhood and feeling like I was never in control of any aspect of my life. Exploring my sexuality has been a long and bumpy road, but it's always something that made me feel in control. I called the shots! Ironically, it was learning to trust enough to give someone ELSE control and be submissive, that made me feel better about myself.
Now I can comfortably blend control in other areas of my life and submissiveness in the bedroom, and it works for me. Sounds a little contradictory, I know. It's a little confusing, but I'm the happiest I've ever been. Also, even though I just had a baby and my body looks "worse" than it's ever been, I have more confidence now and feel more comfortable in my own skin than I ever have. I'm sure that some of this due to my wonderful partner and the change that occurs in a woman mentally after having a child, but my journey started before he was even in the picture. It began before the ending of my longest relationship...one which was virtually sexless, during the dawn of new relationship that took place before I met my fiance. Another irony... that relationship was with a quadriplegic, some one who couldn't dominate me in any way, save mentally and emotionally.
08/31/2009
Contributor: spicywife spicywife
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Originally posted by Maiden
I've always been someone who has struggled with self esteem issues. A lot of it has to do with my difficult childhood and feeling like I was never in control of any aspect of my life. Exploring my sexuality has been a long and bumpy road, but ... more
That makes a lot of sense. A good sex life boosts self-esteem outside of the bedroom and can lead to positive change. Thanks for sharing!
08/31/2009
Contributor: spicywife spicywife
For me, I've noticed it has giving more ..spunk? to make some changes that I've been wanting to make in my wardrobe and other aspects as well. My "style" has been pretty bland and I've always imagined the way I would dress but I'm not sure why I never did. I wore a belt today with studs that I purchased recently hand had someone say "huh... that doesn't really look like you"

But little do they know what I'm like behind closed doors, wielding a paddle on my partner and wearing fishnet thigh highs
08/31/2009
Contributor: Maiden Maiden
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Originally posted by spicywife
For me, I've noticed it has giving more ..spunk? to make some changes that I've been wanting to make in my wardrobe and other aspects as well. My "style" has been pretty bland and I've always imagined the way I would dress but ... more
lol... Love it!

At the risk of sounding cheesy... "You go girl!"
08/31/2009
Contributor: Darling Dove Darling Dove
I noticed a lot more self confidence, knowing myself better, feeling overall better. I never had true sexual satisfaction until I learned to love myself and pursuit of better alone time certainly was a great motivator, but by far not the only one.
08/31/2009