We have sex alot and I like to be tied up, spanked and choked. Nothing to major. We have a safe word and he likes doing these things. I just want a little bit more, Nothing to drastic mind you.
What should I do to let my husband know that I like it rougher than we have do it?
05/24/2012
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Whenever there's ANYTHING you want in sex it's best to just talk about it. You could even write him a note if that sounds better! The thing is that if you hint at it he may not get it, or he may do too much, or he may think that you're hinting at something else. Sorry I assumed that this was a man, but no matter the gender it's common for people not to get hints the way you want them to.
05/24/2012
The best and easiest way to get want you want sexually (and in life) is to ask for it!!! Be direct, and you usually get just want you want!!!
05/24/2012
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the best way its say it front up even tho i do no not alot of ppl likes to talk about it but he may want the same thing and afraid to tell u
Originally posted by
Mistydawn
We have sex alot and I like to be tied up, spanked and choked. Nothing to major. We have a safe word and he likes doing these things. I just want a little bit more, Nothing to drastic mind you.
05/25/2012
Just tell him. Or scream it during sex.
05/25/2012
Just tell him. Tell him you'd like to trying something different, more intense and tell him you would like to show/guide him and do your thing . Communication is key.
05/25/2012
Shout it during sex
05/25/2012
I'd just tell him!
05/25/2012
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be open and honest tell him you want to have a little rougher and that you want to at least incorporate it some times you have to have open honesty in all relationships
Originally posted by
Mistydawn
We have sex alot and I like to be tied up, spanked and choked. Nothing to major. We have a safe word and he likes doing these things. I just want a little bit more, Nothing to drastic mind you.
05/25/2012
Try slapping him
05/25/2012
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Tell him and show him!
Originally posted by
Mistydawn
We have sex alot and I like to be tied up, spanked and choked. Nothing to major. We have a safe word and he likes doing these things. I just want a little bit more, Nothing to drastic mind you.
05/25/2012
Sometimes it's hard for people to understand hints. If it's you being in a submissive situation, I would talk about it beforehand. If not, I'd say it in the heat of the moment! On more than one occasion I've told my husband to do it harder/faster/slower, etc.
05/25/2012
I would definitely talk it out beforehand, especially since you said that you already do breath play.
05/25/2012
Communication is key. I've learned that if I'm craving something sexually I will tell my husband exactly what I want while we are intimate. He's made me comfortable enough to be open with him and tell him what I want no matter how fast/slow or rough/soft I want it. He loves when I tell him what I want him to do to me. It's a huge turn on for him. Just as I love when he tells me what he wants me to do to him. Just be open and honest with your man about your needs!
05/25/2012
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If you want more ask for it.
Originally posted by
Mistydawn
We have sex alot and I like to be tied up, spanked and choked. Nothing to major. We have a safe word and he likes doing these things. I just want a little bit more, Nothing to drastic mind you.
05/25/2012
That doesn't seem like something that can just be added into sex without talking about it first.
05/25/2012
I'd start out by pushing the envelope during a few sexual encounters to see if asks about it later - once he gets curious yo can start 'I'm so glad you asked...'
Good luck and enjoy the journey.
Good luck and enjoy the journey.
05/25/2012
the best way to get what you want in sex is to be direct about it and communicate your fantasies openly methinks.
05/25/2012
Guys get confused easily. The more blunt and outright you can be the better?! Good luck!
05/25/2012
deff. be up front. and usually he'll be all for it.
05/25/2012
I found saying "Harder - I'm not delicate!" really helps them understand.
05/25/2012
I flat out told my current partner and I'm glad I did. He's not very good at taking hints.
Good luck!
Good luck!
05/25/2012
Just tell him. You never know he may have been wanting to get a little rougher and worried about bringing it up as well.
05/25/2012
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just tell him if he dont understand well do to him what u want done to u
Originally posted by
Mistydawn
We have sex alot and I like to be tied up, spanked and choked. Nothing to major. We have a safe word and he likes doing these things. I just want a little bit more, Nothing to drastic mind you.
05/25/2012
Just be honest. Honesty makes the world go round.
05/25/2012
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More than choking seems drastic. lol. To each his/her own!
Originally posted by
Mistydawn
We have sex alot and I like to be tied up, spanked and choked. Nothing to major. We have a safe word and he likes doing these things. I just want a little bit more, Nothing to drastic mind you.
05/26/2012
Clear and open communication works best for everything in a relationship, in my experience. None of us really take hints all that well - men or women. And a man who loves you is just waiting for you to tell him what you like so he can do it.
Best wishes!
Best wishes!
05/26/2012
I'd say talk about it beforehand, especially since what you're doing is a bit more risky than just plain vanilla sex. Being clear and specific is good.
05/26/2012
I'll echo everybody else's advice and tell you to just be up front and tell him what you're wanting
05/26/2012
just say "harder"
06/26/2012
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