Who flippin' cares?

Who flippin' cares?

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Have you ever had a moment in your life where you have wondered if anyone honestly frickin' cares??? About you, your mental state, your issues, your life? I am going through one of those times right now and sometimes I feel like I have lost it with any and all rationality that I ever had to begin with. Please, is there anyone else that has had a pity party for themselves and was their only guest??? Sorry, I just need some reassurance that I am not alone, this could be normal and someone cares. Thank you. What did you do to help???
01/09/2012
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Jul!a Jul!a
I fully admit to doing the pity party of one thing from time to time, so you're definitely not alone. For me it's a matter of figuring out if it's something that's actually worth spending any time on (if it's not, I try to just forget about it as best I can without bringing it up to anybody else), and if it's something I just can't seem to let go I make my husband listen to me rant for a little bit, and then I'm usually ok. I know it's not quite the same thing, but my husband is usually pretty good about listening to the stuff I think nobody else cares about.
01/09/2012
Chilipepper Chilipepper
The isolation doesn't really help, as I recall. I spent plenty of times wondering if it was just my paranoia or their ingrained distrust of weirdness (turned out that I was mostly isolated). So, yeah, lots of 'woe is me' went on. Still does at times, but not as often.

No one can really relate to what you had gone through - you may look okay, and you seem to be functioning all right, but the mental damage goes deeper than what they can comprehend. Like with 'Crazy' Eddie: everyone knew him and admired his spunk and knew his history, but no one could talk to him because of whatever happened to his mind, and hardly anyone could understand him. (May he rest in peace.) I know it's not the same, so my point is at least we care for you here.
01/09/2012
Antipova Antipova
*huge hug*

This might be a good time (depending on your weather, I guess) to take a nice long walk as part of your pity party. Sometimes seeing new faces and new sights while getting some fresh air can turn what feels hopeless into a pretty good catharsis. And, if not, at least when you get home you'll enjoy your hot chocolate more.
01/09/2012
Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama
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Originally posted by js250
Have you ever had a moment in your life where you have wondered if anyone honestly frickin' cares??? About you, your mental state, your issues, your life? I am going through one of those times right now and sometimes I feel like I have lost it ...
Yes, I have been through this many times. Part of it is - I struggle with clinical depression. I have it pretty much under control now - but it can be set off if I'm not careful to take care of myself.

First of all - whether or not anyone else cares (and it is obvious people on here care about you) - you need to care about yourself. This means you need to take care of yourself - get enough sleep - drink enough fluids - eat - take vitamins, etc. You are the only one who can really do this.

What has helped me in the past is to sit down and make some lists about things in my life. What do I like? What do I not like? For instance - my house may be bugging me but my marriage relationship is going pretty good. Maybe our finances are in the pit but other things are going great - its just I can't see beyond the finances. Until I list the good and bad things in my life - I can't seem to separate the bad from the good.

Then I ask myself, "What can I do about what is really getting to me?"

Although I barely know you - other than from here on the site- I want you to know that I care and if you need to dump on someone - you can always message me. I won't have the answers but I will have a shoulder to cry on.
01/09/2012
zwee75 zwee75
*fist bump*

I'm right there with you. Wanna have a cyber-drinkfest?

All the crap I'm going through, you'd think one good friend would call and ask how I'm getting by. Not-so-much.

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01/09/2012
T&A1987 T&A1987
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Originally posted by js250
Have you ever had a moment in your life where you have wondered if anyone honestly frickin' cares??? About you, your mental state, your issues, your life? I am going through one of those times right now and sometimes I feel like I have lost it ...
I was and still like that sometimes. Try to avoid having the same arguments with yourself. At first it feels cathartic, but then I realized it was just making myself miserable. I've constantly had long ranting arguments about babies and marriage in my head, but i also feel angrier at the end than when the conversation started. it increases the pity and if you assign people you know to sides of an argument it just creates undeserved resentment. this is easier said than done of course.

In the short term, i fine music, especially powerful songs, help. "Everything louder than everything else" by Meatloaf is fantastic for this. Also, and this is just for me, but overuse of internet may have a negative affect on a person's mood and sleep cycle. These are short term suggestions of course, I cannot offer any help long term because A, I don't know what the issue is and B i don't think I'm qualified to help.
01/09/2012
Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by js250
Have you ever had a moment in your life where you have wondered if anyone honestly frickin' cares??? About you, your mental state, your issues, your life? I am going through one of those times right now and sometimes I feel like I have lost it ...
I might answer this, but I really don't care.

NO..truth be told, we all have issues and as social creatures, we SHARE. That is just universal and HUMAN. However, some folks share a bit TOO much. Others too little. Who knows what is just "okay". Guess it depends on WHO you are "dumping your woes" on, and where.
01/09/2012
GONE! GONE!
Yes, and the only thing that helped was wallowing in it a bit and listening to sad music.
01/10/2012
zwee75 zwee75
I'm trying to remember this but it's not always easy:

01/10/2012
kinky girlfriend kinky girlfriend
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Originally posted by js250
Have you ever had a moment in your life where you have wondered if anyone honestly frickin' cares??? About you, your mental state, your issues, your life? I am going through one of those times right now and sometimes I feel like I have lost it ...
ah well I just think alot in public and you have 2 care for yourself first and think most dont care much and are out there for themselves in their own little world..be in your own little world just do wat u lik. I like 2 isolate and listen 2 music all day. Its nic not saying much 2 anyone excpt the ones u know and they know are close 2 u and really care.
01/10/2012
js250 js250
Thanks so much you guys!!!! I was so depressed and full of woe that I had to get it out or explode. I try to not have pity parties, however, every now and again one sneaks up on me. This one caught me by surprise. If I can ever help cheer you up, please let me know!!
01/10/2012
PeaceToTheMiddleEast PeaceToTheMiddleEast
Just a question. How often do you feel like this? I have bi polar and go through this all the time. Have you ever considered this?
01/10/2012
El-Jaro El-Jaro
A helpful piece of advice from my late (great) Uncle Rick:
"Don't worry about the small stuff. Most of the time the big stuff will be small stuff in about 6 months."

The worst part about the pity parties is that they build on themselves.

Chin up and keep your stick on the ice!
01/10/2012
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