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Contributor: Blakiepoo Blakiepoo
Shoot someone beat me to the 1000th discussion in this category.

yes, I know it's a taboo to talk about death, but it's something I keep thinking about as I shop for toys. A friend died this year, and everything he had went to me. So I had to look through everything and decide what to do with it all.

When I die, my family will be the ones going through all of my stuff, and it's mortifying (pun intended) thinking about them finding a stash of dicks & lube. Not to mention the porn on the computer, but there is encryption software for that.

What does everyone else think of this and who will find your stuff?
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Contributor: Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
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Originally posted by Blakiepoo
Shoot someone beat me to the 1000th discussion in this category.

yes, I know it's a taboo to talk about death, but it's something I keep thinking about as I shop for toys. A friend died this year, and everything he had went to me. So ... more
Funny you should ask. A friend of mine told me long ago that if she dies I have to get to the box in her closet before her mother does! No one in my family would be surprised and if they were, I hope they would get some naughty ideas of their own to try! I'd be dead so I wouldn't care!
12/23/2010
Contributor: gone77 gone77
I have no idea who will find my toys. Honestly, I don't really care. I'll be dead, so what's the point in worrying?
12/23/2010
Contributor: hive83 hive83
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Originally posted by Blakiepoo
Shoot someone beat me to the 1000th discussion in this category.

yes, I know it's a taboo to talk about death, but it's something I keep thinking about as I shop for toys. A friend died this year, and everything he had went to me. So ... more
If we were to die together our two sons i guess. sure would like to be there to see there faces.
12/23/2010
Contributor: TitsMcScandal TitsMcScandal
Ha! Like Kristi, who cares. But I'm sure some of my friends will be fighting each other to get to my door and get the toys I have. A lot of my stuff is steralizeable. I know there was already an argument over who would get my pure wand. LOL. (PS- totally know what I'm getting a few friends for birthday presents because of that tiff though!)
12/23/2010
Contributor: married with children married with children
i hope i am along way from dying. but if that day comes anytime soon, it will be who ever breaks into my safe.
12/24/2010
Contributor: Beaners Beaners
Hah, my parents would find it if I died RIGHT.NOW. A few weeks from now I'm going to be moving in with my boyfriend, and then they'd just go to him. Haha!
12/24/2010
Contributor: ToyGeek ToyGeek
My parents. I would be so grounded.
12/24/2010
Contributor: Selective Sensualist Selective Sensualist
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Originally posted by ToyGeek
My parents. I would be so grounded.
Ha ha! I appreciate your pun.

This is something I have considered before at great length and shudder to imagine my family discovering our toys in case we both died in an accident together. And I don't have a friend here that I could ever consider asking whether s/he could remove a few things before my family went through our stuff. (I don't even know how s/he could get in to remove anything anyways as my husband would never be okay with someone having a key to our place.)

But what I worry about most is what will happen to my cat who has been raised her entire life indoors, is declawed, and would require a home where she would be kept safely indoors and pampered.
12/24/2010
Contributor: VanillaFreeSex VanillaFreeSex
it's one of the things to prepare for. there is the friend or family member that you let know where to find you financial info, will, etc. Then there is the person that you let know what to get out of the house before all start snooping.

but really....i don't care
12/25/2010
Contributor: BadassFatass BadassFatass
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Originally posted by Blakiepoo
Shoot someone beat me to the 1000th discussion in this category.

yes, I know it's a taboo to talk about death, but it's something I keep thinking about as I shop for toys. A friend died this year, and everything he had went to me. So ... more
Probably my mother...and she knows I'm a little "different" but she has no idea the full spectrum of toys I have. I think the things she couldn't identify would really freak her out.
01/05/2011
Contributor: Crystal1 Crystal1
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Originally posted by Redboxbaby
Funny you should ask. A friend of mine told me long ago that if she dies I have to get to the box in her closet before her mother does! No one in my family would be surprised and if they were, I hope they would get some naughty ideas of their own ... more
My best friend has also informed me that should she die, I am supposed to go straight to her bedroom to remove the box from under the bed!
01/05/2011
Contributor: hornypoet69 hornypoet69
I love this topic. I feel like I should find someone to deal with this for me, should I happen to randomly die.
01/05/2011
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
My mum will have to deal with all mine. But she already knows I own them.
01/07/2011
Contributor: sexyscreenname sexyscreenname
I knew I wasn't the first person to think about this on here. I am really hoping it will create a lot of laughs and no shame!
05/27/2013
Contributor: Kitt Katt Kitt Katt
Whoever finds our toy collection will be shocked....and they are going to need a truck!
05/27/2013
Contributor: Pumpk1nPatch Pumpk1nPatch
I think about this all the time. If I die first, I wouldn't be concerned because my S/O will take care of them. But, if it's just me left, I'd be totally okay if my mother finds them because she already knows everything. If my S/O's mother came to my house after I died and found my collection, I'd die again.
05/28/2013
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
My partner I hope, but he already knows about everything!
05/28/2013
Contributor: TJtheMadHatter TJtheMadHatter
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Originally posted by Blakiepoo
Shoot someone beat me to the 1000th discussion in this category.

yes, I know it's a taboo to talk about death, but it's something I keep thinking about as I shop for toys. A friend died this year, and everything he had went to me. So ... more
I suppose my husband? I'm pretty open about my toy use. My mom knows that I have them. Just last week I showed her my Vixen Creations Vixskin Maverick (she was thoroughly impressed). I wouldn't be all that afraid of someone having to "deal" with my toy collection. I would just see it as a waste if they threw out my completely sterilizable dildos. lol Can't help it. You pay big bucks and someone who isn't interested in toys has to deal with them. They'll probably get tossed. Whatever, what's to worry about? I'll be dead.
05/28/2013
Contributor: SMichelle SMichelle
Oh, this is something I was thinking about recently. My parents would find my (extremely large) sex toy collection, and I think they'd be shocked.
05/28/2013
Contributor: Pete's Princess Pete's Princess
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Originally posted by gone77
I have no idea who will find my toys. Honestly, I don't really care. I'll be dead, so what's the point in worrying?
I couldn't agree with you more.
05/28/2013
Contributor: edeneve edeneve
oh ,oh.....
05/28/2013
Contributor: sunflower sunflower
I need to like write a part in my living will to donate them to someone. Or 'bury me next to my dildos'.

I live alone but I guess my parents will go through my stuff. I don't really care because I will probably be too dead to feel embarrassed.
05/29/2013