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hell no. that's really low IMO. when you're married, you don't do camming. if she wants a job, then there's retail or whatever else job. i would NEVER help my husband and then again he'd never even consider this type of work and neither would I.
Well mama2007, I should probably add that it was for a foot fetish photo pack-the guy simply wanted photos of my feet LOL. Its not "low" when I had discussed it with Jmex before we had started this up again, and he wasn't weird-ed out by it because he is uncomfortable by me camming, he's uncomfortable with the fact that because he views himself as the "bread winner" and he feels that I shouldn't have to work period. It is a pride thing for him. I don't much care for the camming idea either-but in our situation, I feel that its better than having to live off the state until he is able to get a better job. Beings that he met me through this line of work to begin with, he is very familiar with my past and history with it. He trusts me, as I do him. He knows that Im not crazy about doing it, but he also knows that our children are in need of things and we are hoping to save up for a house of our own so that we can own instead of rent by years end.
I can respect your opinions, but we have a very open and trusting relationship, so we do not view me working as a cam model as any type of threat to our love or relationship. I would go out and get a "real job", but with my disabilities and having a new born daughter at home, that simply isn't a choice that I have to fall back on. It would be wonderful if I was able to, but not everyone has that luxury. For some, having a job is a luxury lol. We work with one vehicle, no babysitters or family/friends to watch our baby girl and to get a low paying, minimum wage job at some retail shop around here-It would be enough to cover my gas and day care. I wouldn't trade raising my daughter (instead of strangers) for a minimum wage job that wouldn't even be enough to pay the bills. Thats silly in my opinion.
I would also like to add to this thread, that I am uncomfortable working while he is home because, in the back of mind, I don't feel totally right about being on cam doing what I do or taking photos/videos etc because we are married. Im the same way as most of you. I feel that being married, there is a certain level of privacy and boundaries that should not be crossed. However, he has seen how much money it brings into the home, and with his job being unstable at the moment, and our other situations surrounding the whole "real job" thing-well, its one of those "We can fall back on this until our situation improves". (by the way, neither of us have ANY issues when it comes to seeing how much money it DOES bring in lol).
I would also like to say that its somewhat offensive to say "get a real job". I get paid and pay in taxes just like everyone else that has a normal job. I provide a service to those that would otherwise not be able to have their needs met. There is no emotion in doing such things and he knows that when I go to "work" it stays as "just work". I do not form bonds or emotional attachments. I provide my services and leave it at that. I am VERY open and honest with my clients. They know why I do the camming and what its all about. "Keep it real and call it what it is" is my motto. So, for those of you that have said negative remarks in regards to me as a wife, I would like you to take this into consideration and understand that when things got tight financially, I went to my husband and offered to help financially in the only way that I could see beneficial. He agreed. It was fully discussed. So, before judging someone with how they live their life or make a living, please understand that most of those words come from ignorance of the situation or the occupation and you should choose words a little more carefully.