Would you want to know the truth of your significant others infidelity if..

Contributor: xOhxSoxScandalousx xOhxSoxScandalousx
If your significant other cheated on you once before and it was guaranteed that he/she would never cheat again, would you want to know or continue not knowing because what you don't know won't kill you?
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Of course I wanna know!
Stinkytofu10 , indiglo , Beck , Missmarc , MK434 , PeaceToTheMiddleEast , MissCandyland , michael scofield , wdanas , Kitka , dionysus lux , Hallmar82 , CaliGirl , js250 , Phosphorous Tick , rockblenny , SneakersAndPearls , wwwww , SecretKinksters , Terri69 , Dnice , beautifulbombshellVI , BoobCopter , Noelle , sexxxkitten , vanilla&chocolate , authorzero , Princess Zelda , StayceeO , Peggi , J5ive , Undecided , Kinsey , Martiniman , dontbackdown02 , Boyfriend , amandaco2011 , elli , dv8 , damnbul12
40  (89%)
No, what you don't know won't kill you!
Incendiaire , Geogeo , Dixiemomma
3  (7%)
Other?
Airen Wolf , solitudinarian
2  (4%)
Total votes: 45
Poll is closed
07/13/2012
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Contributor: Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
Quote:
Originally posted by xOhxSoxScandalousx
If your significant other cheated on you once before and it was guaranteed that he/she would never cheat again, would you want to know or continue not knowing because what you don't know won't kill you?
I want to know for safety reasons, so I can get checked for STDs.
07/13/2012
Contributor: Incendiaire Incendiaire
If it was just a mistake that isn't going to happen again, then I'd rather not know and avoid all the grief that it would entail.
07/13/2012
Contributor: Beck Beck
Yes, I want to know exactly what happened and exactly who it was. I wouldn't want to dwell on thinking who it was, where it happened, what happened, and so on. I would go get screened for diseases and so would my partner and we would talk about fixing our relationship. But honestly, cheating is a HUGE NO in my relationship. I'm open to allowing my partner to sleep with others, so if he cheated; that would mean our relationship isn't as good as I thought it was.
07/13/2012
Contributor: MK434 MK434
Yes I would want to konw and even if I knew for sure it would never happed again I would still divorce him.
07/13/2012
Contributor: MissCandyland MissCandyland
I would want to know if the person I was in love with betrayed me.
07/13/2012
Contributor: michael scofield michael scofield
i would want to know if they betrayed me i would leave
07/13/2012
Contributor: dionysus lux dionysus lux
Of course, I would want to know for the sake of the reason why, and so I can get checked for STDs
07/13/2012
Contributor: Hallmar82 Hallmar82
It's better to know because their may be significant problems besides sex. No one (almost no one) will have sex with someone else without a reason.
07/13/2012
Contributor: js250 js250
Definitely. There are health reasons and also a breach of trust that will never be returned. (He may want to be in another state when I am informed-for his own safety.)
07/13/2012
Contributor: Phosphorous Tick Phosphorous Tick
i say yes only because of safety reasons.
My partner is poly and we had an agreement that she would let me know who she was with if anyone; my stipulation was so that I could make sure she didn't get hurt
I'd hate to have anything happen or someone stalking her or things like that
07/13/2012
Contributor: wwwww wwwww
Yes, I would want to know. They could have contracted an std from the previous affair. Plus I would want to know the reasons why they cheated to see if whatever caused it can be resolved so it doesn't happen again.
07/13/2012
Contributor: Geogeo Geogeo
I wouldn't want to know.
07/13/2012
Contributor: Terri69 Terri69
I'd want to know, but I'm sure I would regret it as soon as I knew.
07/13/2012
Contributor: Dnice Dnice
Yes I would.
07/13/2012
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by xOhxSoxScandalousx
If your significant other cheated on you once before and it was guaranteed that he/she would never cheat again, would you want to know or continue not knowing because what you don't know won't kill you?
I had this happen to me and I'll be honest. Knowing what your partner is doing every minute of the day doesn't make you feel better. It doesn't make you feel secure and it makes your partner feel like a child. This doesn't resolve the issues that lead to the cheating in the first place.
Trust is built over time and has to regrow...checking in over and over doesn't build trust it destroys it. It seems counter intuitive but I know it is true.
07/13/2012
Contributor: Noelle Noelle
I would want to know everything, but mostly why he did it? Then I'd leave his sorry ass.
07/13/2012
Contributor: sexxxkitten sexxxkitten
For health reasons, I would definitely want to know. And also for honesty reasons.
07/13/2012
Contributor: Princess Zelda Princess Zelda
I would want to know... it would break my heart but I would want to know.
07/13/2012
Contributor: authorzero authorzero
I'm all about openness and honesty. Just tell me.
07/13/2012
Contributor: Dixiemomma Dixiemomma
if it was guaranteed that he'd never do it again then no i wouldnt rather not know honestly.... i want him to tell me truth about everything but if i knew it would create doubt and i wouldnt be able to trust him again
07/13/2012
Contributor: StayceeO StayceeO
Quote:
Originally posted by xOhxSoxScandalousx
If your significant other cheated on you once before and it was guaranteed that he/she would never cheat again, would you want to know or continue not knowing because what you don't know won't kill you?
I would definitely want to know and if I were the one that cheated I would tell him, b/c I wouldn't want him or myself to have to hear it somewhere else.
07/13/2012
Contributor: J5ive J5ive
Yes I would want to know
07/13/2012
Contributor: Martiniman Martiniman
I think it could be summed up easily by the old adage...knowledge is power. You can take that anyway you like, but for me, I'll always choose knowledge.
07/13/2012
Contributor: solitudinarian solitudinarian
I'm not sure if I'd want to know. I doubt I would break up with him - shit happens. I would probably be more pissed if he didn't use a condom.
07/14/2012
Contributor: amandaco2011 amandaco2011
All about the communication.
07/14/2012
Contributor: SoloJoe SoloJoe
i would want to know
07/14/2012
Contributor: damnbul12 damnbul12
I wanna know!
08/17/2012