Your personal values vs. your partner's....

Contributor: js250 js250
--Do you and your partner have similar personal values?
--Which ones are the same?
--Which ones are different?
--Any differences that cause issues in the relationship?
--How have you dealt with them?
08/12/2013
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Contributor: lalalalove lalalalove
Quote:
Originally posted by js250
--Do you and your partner have similar personal values?
--Which ones are the same?
--Which ones are different?
--Any differences that cause issues in the relationship?
--How have you dealt with them?
Pretty much all of our values/views are the same. Anything we disagree on is usually minor and doesn't cause issues with out relationship.
08/12/2013
Contributor: Stilinski-Hale Stilinski-Hale
My ex and I had/have different values which in end didn't work out, clearly.

While family is important to the both of us, our views on how to raise children and the importance of education and service based activities were vastly different. I am glad that is something we talked about before getting married or else things could have gotten messy. I come from a family where my parents hadn't talked about these things before have children on top of the fact that they both come from vastly different cultural backgrounds - needless to say there was always conflict and my parents rarely saw eye to eye. As such I firmly believe that your views with your partner on children/family should be similar or that reasonable compromises need to be made before hand. But alas my ex and I were on completely different ends of the spectrum on how to keep a household and even trying to find a compromise was hard.

Also politically and morally we were different. I overlooked this many times during our relationship. However, now that we have parted ways I do not think that I can honestly be in a relationship with someone who has different political and/or moral views than my own... Politically I think I can be swayed on, that is if the person is informed and keeps up with national and local politics. I think debate and disagreement on things can be good in a relationship but my ex didn't follow politics yet had plenty of opinions. Morally however, I will not compromise on again. Ever.

Don't misunderstand, I did love him and he is good person, but in the end it wouldn't have worked out. Some people manage to handle relationships where their partner and them have vastly different values/views and more power to them, it is just not something that I can do.
08/12/2013
Contributor: js250 js250
Since I tend to break the values into categories, I will also answer as such. It may be easier to read as well.

--Morally: We have almost all the same morals. Personally and for others we associate with. My hubby has a lower tolerance for people with lower moral standards but I am the one that will NEVER forgive after three strikes.

--Family/friends: I am very much family and friend oriented!!! NO ONE is allowed to mess with them and live unscathed! I will take a lot personally though before I hit the end of the line. My hubby, definitely not friend or family oriented. He is very much a him/me oriented person and everyone else interferes.....

--Social/business: I have much higher standards for how I and others need to conduct themselves in a social or business setting. Since I own a couple businesses, I know exactly how the actions of others reflect on them.
08/14/2013