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Contributor: wetone123 wetone123
Are These Evolution’s Future Sluts?

Violet Blue, erotica author and sex educator, explains why the new SlutWalk protests are “a significant tipping point in cultural evolution” — and she’s serious. “Yes: I think scantily clad girls marching in the streets around the world are agents of change for our species.”

It started in April when a Toronto cop said that to stay safe from rape, women “should avoid dressing like sluts”. Soon “my clothes are not my consent” protests erupted, and the event “had an international identity within a few months,” representing “a huge reclamation and restatement about boundaries and women’s bodies.”

Now sex workers, young exhibitionists, high-heel feminists and random pissed-off women are marching “for the right to dress as they like while having their boundaries respected,” and Violet calls them the true punk rockers — the disruptors. “They’re the ones with the brass ovaries enough to dress like sluts and tell the world to STFU about what they should, or shouldn’t do, with their sexiness.”

“Maybe that’s why its critics are panicking and handwringing as if Invaders From Mars have come out of a time machine from the future in heels and hose, reminding everyone that their face is up here!”

Do you think it was right of that cop in Toronto to blame rape on women dressing like sluts?

What are your views on the Slutwalk? Would you or did you slutwalk?

What do you do with your sexiness? Cover it up or flaunt it?
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Contributor: Errant Venture Errant Venture
Sorry, I know I shouldn't laugh at this sort of thing, but in my defence it was humorously worded, wetone.

I doubt it's as big a 'significant tipping point in cultural evolution', but I do think women have a right to dress as they want - but within reason, based on if there's an offensive slogan or pictograph on their clothing. Or if they're at a family adventure park, then it might not be all that smart to have a shirt with a picture of a vagina, or dress 'slutty'. Though I am a fan of women who do that, for obvious reasons.

One thing I do find a little annoying, though, is the belief in the correlation between the way women dress, and rape. I knew one woman who wore a full hijab - covered head to toe in black cloth - who was raped. I feel that, if a rapist is intent on committing the act, then it doesn't matter what you wear.

On another note, I'd never heard of this 'Slutwalk' until just now, so can't further comment until further research and reading of the comments on here.
08/16/2011
Contributor: averageguyextrodinarypleasure averageguyextrodinarypleasure
I think it all comes down to the message you send by how you dress. Buyer because you want to be respected fdoesnt mean you can dress however you want and think everyone is going to see things your way. There's a lot of weirdos out their and dressing like that I think invites them. I don't think it's the whole reason but I think it does help so I guess I agree with what the cop said but it sounds like this lady is taking it the wrong way
08/16/2011
Contributor: wetone123 wetone123
@Errant Venture, I agree with you, it is humourous! Also I agree that if a rapist wants to rape they will no matter how the victim is dressed. Slutwalk, based in Canada, was a protest which happened in April following the sexist remark of a policeman in Toronto. It was so successful that it will be an annual event.
08/16/2011
Contributor: Yaoi Pervette (deleted) Yaoi Pervette (deleted)
When a cop says that women should dress a certain way to avoid being rape, it's like saying that anyone who dresses in this manner is asking for it. When it comes to rape, it seems like society has a legacy of blaming the victim. This is why so many women don't even report it when they are raped.
08/16/2011
Contributor: wetone123 wetone123
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Originally posted by Yaoi Pervette (deleted)
When a cop says that women should dress a certain way to avoid being rape, it's like saying that anyone who dresses in this manner is asking for it. When it comes to rape, it seems like society has a legacy of blaming the victim. This is why so ... more
This is alas sad but true. The justice system rapes the victim again. Anything and everything is used against the victim from their lifestyle to the way they dress. It is not only unfair, but prejudiced against women. I blame the lawyers involved in defending the rapists for this. No one wants to be subjected to rape! Men who rape are sick and if intent on rape will rape no matter how the victim is dressed as Errent Venture has stated. That is why this protest was started. To be able to dress the way you like while having your bounderies respected. While Slutwalk will not change the decades old stigma of the way victims of rape are treated and looked at like circus animals, at least there are women brave enough to stand up and say ENOUGH!
08/16/2011
Contributor: Errant Venture Errant Venture
And not just the justice system: a school, too, had dismissed a girl's claim of her being raped and even forced her to apologise, in person, to her rapist, expelled for the rest of the school year, and then raped again by the same boy. Even when he was found guilty, the school still didn't apologise, or admit failing the girl.

On another matter, I like and respect how Slutwalk is to be turned into an annual event. As long as it stays respectful - which, I am confidant, it will, then it could garner its own respectability, and potentially lead to a positive (from my perspective) change.
08/17/2011