Ok, so you make a good point, although really, when you pick someone up at a club, it's much more likely to be a one night thing.

But I can't even get the "Hey, let's hang out again, here's my number." I'm at a total loss....

You don't have to be aggressive, Em, it wouldn't hurt but you certainly don't have to be. If you routinely get shot down, try a subtle approach that lets people know you're interested. Openly flirt, compliment them, rub your breasts against them if you're shifting in your chair or trying to inspect a beautiful necklace, earrings, or bracelet they're wearing. In your car as you drive them home, graze your hand against their thigh (even put cd's under their seat that you're reaching for so you have an excuse if you want one).. sometimes though, no matter how we give off the vibe that we want someone they still don't get it. You can try other things like when you're dancing, put your hands on her body firmly, or if you're talking brush her hair out of her face with your hand. Give her every opportunity to kiss you, get as close as you can while still feeling comfortable. I always kept myself from giving the 'friend' or 'let's hang out like we're pals vibe' because it wasn't what I wanted. You need to do whatever it takes to people know what exactly it is you're interested in.

It might be easier for you to make the first move than you think. I've never been the first move kind of person - but when I first met my boyfriend, there was something about him and I have had no trouble at all. I ended up giving him my number without even thinking about it, I was just like "Hey, let me give you my number so we can go out to lunch sometime!" and that was it.

They might even like that they are being persued! I think that helped in the case of my boyfriend, he was being persued instead of him doing the persuing.

Just take control of the situation. go for what you want.