I'm fairly pierced up - 13 piercings (only 10 of which have hardware in them) - and the past year I've wanted a snakebite. Financial issues kept me from getting the piercings but I now have the money...but I also have a problem. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 7 months and he's not so keen on the idea of me getting more piercings.
I'm the kind of person that loves piercings - I have 13 extra holes in my body for a reason. I LIKE THEM.
Part of the situation is that he's 21 years older than me. The other part of it is that I'm a boot-clad, black-wearing, underground music freak who's been on the fringe her whole life - and he's the kind of guy that wears polo shirts and golfs - he's also a counselor. It's like we're from different planets.
Anyway, his perception of piercings is different than mine. He sees piercings and thinks "what did your daddy do to you?" and I see piercings and think "Is that stainless steel or titanium? what gauge is that? would that go well with my industrials? I wonder if they listen to Imminent Starvation?" lol
He's fine with the piercings I already have but doesn't want me to get more. I wonder if he's just gotten used to my appearance, it's become his new normal but is uncomfortable with change. But I also wonder if his discomfort with the idea of additional piercings stems from the fact that he's sensitive about, or uncomfortable with, the big cultural divide between us and additional piercings makes it harder to ignore. I don't think that we have a problem in our relationship, we have a really strong connection, but this is an issue for me and I know we need to talk about it more (he's at work right now, otherwise, we'd be talking right now!)
Has anybody else had a similar situation? I suppose I'm just fishing for thoughts on the topic.
I'm the kind of person that loves piercings - I have 13 extra holes in my body for a reason. I LIKE THEM.
Part of the situation is that he's 21 years older than me. The other part of it is that I'm a boot-clad, black-wearing, underground music freak who's been on the fringe her whole life - and he's the kind of guy that wears polo shirts and golfs - he's also a counselor. It's like we're from different planets.
Anyway, his perception of piercings is different than mine. He sees piercings and thinks "what did your daddy do to you?" and I see piercings and think "Is that stainless steel or titanium? what gauge is that? would that go well with my industrials? I wonder if they listen to Imminent Starvation?" lol
He's fine with the piercings I already have but doesn't want me to get more. I wonder if he's just gotten used to my appearance, it's become his new normal but is uncomfortable with change. But I also wonder if his discomfort with the idea of additional piercings stems from the fact that he's sensitive about, or uncomfortable with, the big cultural divide between us and additional piercings makes it harder to ignore. I don't think that we have a problem in our relationship, we have a really strong connection, but this is an issue for me and I know we need to talk about it more (he's at work right now, otherwise, we'd be talking right now!)
Has anybody else had a similar situation? I suppose I'm just fishing for thoughts on the topic.
