A young guy in my office is VERY conservative. His dress, speech, politics,religion..eve rything is VERY conservative. Think "handsome young preacher" from a movie.
So, he is at a Zoomba class and meets a very nice, attractive young lady..and they go to lunch. She, apparently, is like minded and very conservative about most things.
They hit it off and start dating. All is roses.
Then...after THREE MONTHS of seeing each other, almost daily, they end up in bed (yes, three months). She (according to him) is a wild tiger there. He expected a virgin or maybe (being a realist), someone who had slept with someone (they are in their late 20's), but pretty "inexperienced like me", he said.
After a while, he had to ask and now, he wishes he had not. Seems that she had spent a year working in a legal brothel, and before that, a couple years as a street walker (good neighborhoods only, she claims) of a BIG city. She put herself through school...moved FAR away from that life and here they are, NOW.
He is freaked out totally (immediately went to get checked for STD's, AIDS...everything, even though she said it was well over 8 years before and she was totally clean and "had not even slept with anyone in two or three years").
She has called and texted him a few times. He really is confused. He likes who she is NOW, but he just cannot get his brain around what she WAS "in the past".
Some guys in our office think he hit the "jackpot". Other people we work with say "if you cannot deal with the emotional baggage, don't lead HER on".
What to do, what to do????? Any advice from the great EF family I can pass along???
OH...FYI, she did NOT (she claims), come from abusive family, history of drugs...NOTHING like that. She just had a GF turn her on to making "LOTS OF MONEY" in the sex trade, and she figured if she could do that, "on weekends" and make good money and save for school...why not? (Her logic). She now feels her choices were dangerous and not the best....but "the past is the past". Her parents (normal folks) NEVER had a clue, she says.
What say you, EF family????
So, he is at a Zoomba class and meets a very nice, attractive young lady..and they go to lunch. She, apparently, is like minded and very conservative about most things.
They hit it off and start dating. All is roses.
Then...after THREE MONTHS of seeing each other, almost daily, they end up in bed (yes, three months). She (according to him) is a wild tiger there. He expected a virgin or maybe (being a realist), someone who had slept with someone (they are in their late 20's), but pretty "inexperienced like me", he said.
After a while, he had to ask and now, he wishes he had not. Seems that she had spent a year working in a legal brothel, and before that, a couple years as a street walker (good neighborhoods only, she claims) of a BIG city. She put herself through school...moved FAR away from that life and here they are, NOW.
He is freaked out totally (immediately went to get checked for STD's, AIDS...everything, even though she said it was well over 8 years before and she was totally clean and "had not even slept with anyone in two or three years").
She has called and texted him a few times. He really is confused. He likes who she is NOW, but he just cannot get his brain around what she WAS "in the past".
Some guys in our office think he hit the "jackpot". Other people we work with say "if you cannot deal with the emotional baggage, don't lead HER on".
What to do, what to do????? Any advice from the great EF family I can pass along???
OH...FYI, she did NOT (she claims), come from abusive family, history of drugs...NOTHING like that. She just had a GF turn her on to making "LOTS OF MONEY" in the sex trade, and she figured if she could do that, "on weekends" and make good money and save for school...why not? (Her logic). She now feels her choices were dangerous and not the best....but "the past is the past". Her parents (normal folks) NEVER had a clue, she says.
What say you, EF family????
