I would say it's not cheating, but maybe I don't understand the entire context.

I don't see how it's cheating if you're not committed. There's not much to cheat "on" if you're single - that's why some people take breaks in relationships just to see other people.

I don't think so. If you're split up, then there's no boundaries being crossed. You can't dictate what someone else does when they aren't in a relationship with you. However, it does show a lack of respect IF the two of you were talking about getting back together or working on your issues to get back together.

Not cheating since you were broken up.

I agree if you have mutually split then he has every right to be with someone else. Only cheating when there's a relationship of some sort.

maybe I didn't make the question clear.

he is in love w/ you.

he has made the choice to pull away while you haven't agreed to a mutual split.

if someone is in love w/ you, is it cheating if he fucks other people. is a commitment the only thing that qualifies this situation as cheating? what is to be said about him being in love w/ you?

Hubby and I had been together (not married yet) for almost a year. We broke up for three months. I had a relationship with a man during that time. I realized that this relationship was purely a physical thing, ended it and went back to my future husband. I/we don't consider those three months as cheating, as we were broke up. Neither was his "playing". That was over eight years ago. Now it would be cheating to do something like that and neither of us would ever consider it!