Do men look on a woman owning sex toys badly in a relationship situation?

Do men look on a woman owning sex toys badly in a relationship situation?

Callisto Callisto
Is that just from guy-to-guy? I just wonder if a guy found out I own toys if he'll kinda get turned off or turned on. I'm sure it varies but should I hide that fact about me?
07/30/2011
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Ghost Ghost
All men are different, but it's my opinion that "honesty is the best policy". If it's important to you, why hide it just so it doesn't offend some dude? There are other dudes out there, you know, who are just as interested in toys as yourself.
07/30/2011
Coralbell Coralbell
Obviously all men have different opinions. My boyfriend doesn't have any problem with my toys, but isn't really into them either. I wouldn't hide it. I wouldn't want to have to hide anything from someone I'm in a relationship with.
07/30/2011
MusMusculus MusMusculus
I agree with the "all men are different" comment.
For example i love toys, and majority of my guy friends say that they use toys in their relationships with their girls.
BUT i also know guys (and girls) who look down upon toys, they look at it as if the people who use them are unable to be fully satisfied with their partner.
So in short, wait and see what your guy thinks about the toys, and if you will be showing him your collection do it slowly, so you don't overwhelm him
Hope this helped!
07/30/2011
Callisto Callisto
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Originally posted by MusMusculus
I agree with the "all men are different" comment.
For example i love toys, and majority of my guy friends say that they use toys in their relationships with their girls.
BUT i also know guys (and girls) who look down upon toys, they ...
Thanks so much! All your comments helped a lot
07/30/2011
EJ EJ
I think it really depends on the guy. There are some guys out there who like toys, and some who just don't. But there are also guys who don't have experience with toys but have a negative preconceived notion about them because they think that "women only use toys if their man isn't able to satisfy them", in which case the toys are viewed as a serious insult.

Luckily, that's just a myth; if you're dealing with someone who has decent self-esteem and good reasoning abilities, then a myth can usually be logically discussed and set aside. And if he can't get past the perceived threat, is he someone that you would still want to be with? Are you WILLING to give up the toys?

I wouldn't hide the fact that I like toys. If he knows right off that you like them, then (if he's at all logical) he'll know that it has nothing to do with any lack on his part. After all, you were using them before he ever came into the picture.

If you don't tell him early on, and then start pulling out the toys later on down the road, he may think it's because he's no longer able to satisfy you. And even if you never pull them out, but he finds them someday, he may think you've been hiding them for the same reason.
07/30/2011
MaryExy MaryExy
My guy laughs at my collection, but he's fine with it. I think that's partially because we're long-distance, but meh. I think most guys would rather you tell them than hide it until the last possible moment. Still not something I'd blurt out on the first date, though.
07/30/2011
Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
all men are different. a lot of the men i know think it's pretty awesome that i like toys. but they are also very open minded
07/30/2011
ac0313 ac0313
I like toys and was pleased to find out my girl had a collection. We enjoy using them together far more than while alone...
07/30/2011
arewehavingfun? arewehavingfun?
Quote:
Originally posted by MusMusculus
I agree with the "all men are different" comment.
For example i love toys, and majority of my guy friends say that they use toys in their relationships with their girls.
BUT i also know guys (and girls) who look down upon toys, they ...
Nice comment, MusMusculus.
10/06/2011
Nympho88 Nympho88
I have been with a man that was offended by me bringing toys up. He thought that I meant he was good enough and that was my way of telling him he was bad in bed. Then on the other hand my bf now is all for using them as much as possible. It just depends on the man and how secure he is with himself i believe. I try to make sure i have toys the benefit him as well not just me. Thats a good way to ease them into the thought of using them with you.
01/26/2012
SMichelle SMichelle
All men are different.

My ex was completely offended by sex toys. I had quite a collection at the time, and ended up throwing them all out to try and satisfy him. What a waste. In the end, neither of us were very happy.

The guy that I am sort of seeing now loves toys, and encourages me to buy new ones all the time.
01/26/2012
MR Chickhabit MR Chickhabit
i would be turned ON if i found out you had a decent collection of sex toy, this means that you know your body (or are at least TRYING to) and have fewer hang ups than the average lady.
01/26/2012
Shellz31 Shellz31
I agree with everyone else - it depends entirely on the guy. All my guy friends think it's hot that I have so many. But there would be some guys who don't like toys cause they may feel like they aren't enough.
Personally, I don't think I could put up with a guy who was jealous of toys cause they aren't going anywhere!
01/26/2012
squire squire
I doubt that you'd have a problem with most men, when it comes to owning em, as long as you were up front. A woman who is sexually confident and comfortable is usually exciting to males, and as long as it's not framed as you preferring your toys to him you shouldn't have many complainers. Hell, ask em to use them with you so they can know how well they can please you. I will say, too, that this often times gets easier with age as men become less worried and prideful about their "manhood" and more relationally focused.
01/26/2012
Curiouscat Curiouscat
My guys fine with me having toys. As long as I love him more, which I do. I think sometimes he may be little intimidated. He doesn't use sex toys himself. Even though I’ve been trying to get him some. He always seems disinterested.

Which is fine with me. I was going to get him a fleshlight for V-day but he said to give him sexy pictures of me instead lol! He might cave at some point. He prefers the real thing haha.

No doubt though that some guys would not be into this or think poorly of someone for this. Which is sad. I just make sure I know someone before I tell them about mine.
01/26/2012
voenne voenne
It's a hard thing coming out about, because the response is usually one of the extremes - turned on or turned off. It's not something you'd want to come right out and say in the beginning, but definitely have to be honest! If he likes you less for it, then that's his own insecurity coming through. I know guys get intimidated easily, or they see it as a trait of someone being promiscuous, which guys seem to be very dumb about and don't understand that it is natural for women to want pleasure just as much as they do (and should still be RESPECTED. Ahem.)
01/26/2012
Badass Badass
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Originally posted by Callisto
Is that just from guy-to-guy? I just wonder if a guy found out I own toys if he'll kinda get turned off or turned on. I'm sure it varies but should I hide that fact about me?
I think its guy to guy, my ex LOVED that I was into toys and would even surprise me with one on special occasions. My current boyfriend.. not into it much at all.. I had to talk him into letting me put a vibing cock ring on him!
01/27/2012
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