Our friend found out the religion of a guy she was on a second date with, and she just was not interested in anything more about this dude she had seemed "smitten" with a day before. So..every broken off further dating after finding out someones religion or nationality? Why? Do you regret it?
Ever broken off further dates after finding out what religion or nationality your new "friend" was?
07/14/2011
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No but I understand where she's coming from. Religion can be a pretty big factor for a lot of people especially when dealing with more orthodox sects of the monotheistic religions.
Originally posted by
Bignuf
Our friend found out the religion of a guy she was on a second date with, and she just was not interested in anything more about this dude she had seemed "smitten" with a day before. So..every broken off further dating after finding out
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Our friend found out the religion of a guy she was on a second date with, and she just was not interested in anything more about this dude she had seemed "smitten" with a day before. So..every broken off further dating after finding out someones religion or nationality? Why? Do you regret it?
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07/14/2011
Yes, and I have. I didn't think it was fair to continue the relationship when I knew I would never convert to Judaism. It wasn't that he asked me to, but I could see it coming a mile away from his very, stereotypical Jewish mother.
07/14/2011
I wouldn't break it off because of someone's nationality or religion. Their behavior would determine that. If someone tried to shove their religious beliefs down my throat, that would be it. If someone used "but it's my culture" as an excuse to either do or not do something, I'd ditch that, too.
I prefer freer thinking people. But simply someone being part of a nationality or religion wouldn't usually make a difference. As long as I wasn't expected to behave differently than I normally do.
I prefer freer thinking people. But simply someone being part of a nationality or religion wouldn't usually make a difference. As long as I wasn't expected to behave differently than I normally do.
07/14/2011
No, but I knew things would never work out. I just let the relationship run its course because although I loved him, there were lots of reasons we weren't compatible. That he believed in Jesus was only one of them, but it wasn't an instant dealbreaker.
07/14/2011
it has been along time since dating. But I would not go out with someone if they had different life morals then I. Religion is important also, but having the same morals takes so many problems out of the relationship.
07/14/2011
No, If the date's going well, and the religon discussion didn't come up until after you start seeing the person then it really shouldn't matter.
07/14/2011
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That's pretty ridiculous of you to do that. Did you ever discus it with him, or did you just jump to conclusions?
Originally posted by
Ansley
Yes, and I have. I didn't think it was fair to continue the relationship when I knew I would never convert to Judaism. It wasn't that he asked me to, but I could see it coming a mile away from his very, stereotypical Jewish mother.
07/14/2011
someone's nationality has never been an issue for me; i'm pretty open. i'm open to much all religions; if someone forces their views on me (be it religion, politics, etc) then i'm going to break it off. but i like to hear about differing points of views and it always gives a fresh eye to hear a new perspective
07/15/2011
Very early on in my relationship I discussed my (now) wife's views on religion to make sure that we wouldn't have some crazy argument later on in life. She believes in god but does not go to church, although she has a few extremely religious family members. I do not believe in any god and refuse to go to church again. I understand that religion is very important to many people and would never ask anyone to change their beliefs. I only ask that they respect my decision to have nothing to do with religion equally.
07/15/2011
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No and I probably wouldn't unless the guy (or girl) was proselytizing during dinner! I really hate people who can't accept that a person can be totally happy and not need spiritual counseling if they don't ask for it.
Originally posted by
Bignuf
Our friend found out the religion of a guy she was on a second date with, and she just was not interested in anything more about this dude she had seemed "smitten" with a day before. So..every broken off further dating after finding out
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Our friend found out the religion of a guy she was on a second date with, and she just was not interested in anything more about this dude she had seemed "smitten" with a day before. So..every broken off further dating after finding out someones religion or nationality? Why? Do you regret it?
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As for nationality? I wouldn't care about that either...
07/15/2011
In the past I did stop calling girls because they professed their undying love for (deity's name removed). At the time, I was die-hard Agnostic or maybe even Atheist. I almost dumped on girlfriend on the spot when I found out she told a friend "I'll make him a Christian, no matter what!" I did end up dumping her less than a year later because she had a personality so malleable that I didn't even know her until it was too late (I'd given up already).
I think the biggest problem, for me, is when nationality and religion are too intermixed.
I think the biggest problem, for me, is when nationality and religion are too intermixed.
07/15/2011
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I wouldn't call it ridiculous. Some forms of Judaism require the spouse to convert before a wedding. It's very common. Sapphire had no desire to convert. It's one of those "It's part of my culture." things that I, also, can't get on board with. But, some people do have strong Faith and it's best to let them know it isn't going to work if you can't share that faith.
Originally posted by
UnknownGirl
That's pretty ridiculous of you to do that. Did you ever discus it with him, or did you just jump to conclusions?
Sapphire did the right thing for her by getting out before it became an issue.
07/15/2011
Based on nationality? No, that has never mattered to me.
Based on religion? I haven't to date, but I would end a relationship over it. While I completely respect everyone's right to their own faith and belief systems, I want to be with someone who believes in the same things that I do. I wouldn't change my faith for a partner and would not ever ask or expect them to do it either, but know I don't want to be with someone that does not believe in the same afterlife, etc. that I do. And if I were a person that wanted to have kids (which I'm not), that would be a whole additional reason to stay within my faith because I'd want my children raised in my religion.
Based on religion? I haven't to date, but I would end a relationship over it. While I completely respect everyone's right to their own faith and belief systems, I want to be with someone who believes in the same things that I do. I wouldn't change my faith for a partner and would not ever ask or expect them to do it either, but know I don't want to be with someone that does not believe in the same afterlife, etc. that I do. And if I were a person that wanted to have kids (which I'm not), that would be a whole additional reason to stay within my faith because I'd want my children raised in my religion.
07/15/2011
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Excuse me? You could have lead with your question and kept your judgment to yourself. You don't know me or the situation. Now that you've insulted me, I've no desire to answer your question at all.
Originally posted by
UnknownGirl
That's pretty ridiculous of you to do that. Did you ever discus it with him, or did you just jump to conclusions?
07/15/2011
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Thank you.
Originally posted by
P'Gell
I wouldn't call it ridiculous. Some forms of Judaism require the spouse to convert before a wedding. It's very common. Sapphire had no desire to convert. It's one of those "It's part of my culture." things that I, also,
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I wouldn't call it ridiculous. Some forms of Judaism require the spouse to convert before a wedding. It's very common. Sapphire had no desire to convert. It's one of those "It's part of my culture." things that I, also, can't get on board with. But, some people do have strong Faith and it's best to let them know it isn't going to work if you can't share that faith.
Sapphire did the right thing for her by getting out before it became an issue. less
Sapphire did the right thing for her by getting out before it became an issue. less
Considering his mother took me shopping to pick out my dress, shoes and purse for his brother's engagement party, so I didn't clash with the other guests... yeah I knew this was all going to eventually be an issue. The first time I met his father was at Passover dinner where it was pretty much expected I participate. I was not warned and I was not told about any of the customs. I felt so out of place and there were other issues he had going on aside from the religious beliefs at hand. Like oh I don't know, almost 32 with no steady job, severe OCD and he lived with four roommates. HA! NO THANK YOU.
I could have corrected the other stuff, but I don't play around with religion.
07/15/2011
I can understand wanting to have the same views as your partner. If you decide to get married and children then you have to decide who gets what religion and views, it is easier to pick some one similar to yourself. I am glad I did we both agree NO chruch, No religion, Home school after elementary school, and mom should be home with kids and them not at daycare. Just our views on somethings, Not bashing on anyone was intended this was just some examples. If you agree on things like this relationship will be easier, if you do not then you have more to fight about adding more issues to the relationship.
07/29/2011
It would depend on their religion and such. I guess it would depend on how we looked into the future.
07/29/2011
I did due to religious difference. I do kind of regret it. I know that a forever relationship wouldn't have grown out of it, but why not have some fun and make a new friend?
07/29/2011
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