So I'm seriously considering becoming single again. I'm having some doubts about my current relationship and while I'd rather not elaborate further at this time, I may cut myself free from a 2 yr relationship in the very near future. And as anyone that's done this knows, the first things that go thru your head are all the awful things - what you'll miss, the things you have no one around for. So to put me in a more realistic sense of mind, what are the great things about being single that I'm just not remembering right now? What would I have to look forward to?
Great things about being single?
03/14/2011
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Well, I am currently in a relationship right now and will be for 3 years come June. I love my relationship and I don't see it ending so my views may be a little bit off because I haven't been single for almost 3 years and because I am not currently single.
The one thing I always enjoyed about being single and was very hard for me to give up was being able to concentrate fully on myself and my needs and wants. Once you are in a serious relationship, it's no longer just about you anymore. At least that is how it is for me because he and I live together. So you will have that ability to focus on yourself for a bit before you get into another relationship again.
Just think it over, I am sure you will make the right choice
The one thing I always enjoyed about being single and was very hard for me to give up was being able to concentrate fully on myself and my needs and wants. Once you are in a serious relationship, it's no longer just about you anymore. At least that is how it is for me because he and I live together. So you will have that ability to focus on yourself for a bit before you get into another relationship again.
Just think it over, I am sure you will make the right choice
03/14/2011
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That's true I guess. We don't live together but he spends a lot of time at my place. I wouldn't have to worry about what he wanted to eat for dinner, etc.
Originally posted by
seaofneptune
Well, I am currently in a relationship right now and will be for 3 years come June. I love my relationship and I don't see it ending so my views may be a little bit off because I haven't been single for almost 3 years and because I am not
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Well, I am currently in a relationship right now and will be for 3 years come June. I love my relationship and I don't see it ending so my views may be a little bit off because I haven't been single for almost 3 years and because I am not currently single.
The one thing I always enjoyed about being single and was very hard for me to give up was being able to concentrate fully on myself and my needs and wants. Once you are in a serious relationship, it's no longer just about you anymore. At least that is how it is for me because he and I live together. So you will have that ability to focus on yourself for a bit before you get into another relationship again.
Just think it over, I am sure you will make the right choice less
The one thing I always enjoyed about being single and was very hard for me to give up was being able to concentrate fully on myself and my needs and wants. Once you are in a serious relationship, it's no longer just about you anymore. At least that is how it is for me because he and I live together. So you will have that ability to focus on yourself for a bit before you get into another relationship again.
Just think it over, I am sure you will make the right choice less
03/14/2011
You have to help me out here guys!!! I need my head pointed in the right direction and all I'm coming up with is 'I won't have anyone to go to the beach with' and 'I'll be home alone Saturday nights'...none of which is helping!
03/14/2011
Clean bathroom. No snoring. No consulting about you going anywhere you want. Cheaper grocery bill. Flirting publicly. Watch what you want on TV. No rearranging schedules.
(Personally, I hate being single so I can't offer anything with enthusiasm.)
(Personally, I hate being single so I can't offer anything with enthusiasm.)
03/14/2011
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I know. And I just remember telling you that it gets better and now I couldn't pound that thought into my head if I had a sledgehammer. I HATE this. HATE. HATE. HATE!
Originally posted by
Chilipepper
Clean bathroom. No snoring. No consulting about you going anywhere you want. Cheaper grocery bill. Flirting publicly. Watch what you want on TV. No rearranging schedules.
(Personally, I hate being single so I can't offer anything with enthusiasm.)
(Personally, I hate being single so I can't offer anything with enthusiasm.)
But I had forgotten that no one else will be using my bathroom....THAT I like.
03/14/2011
My favorite part of being singe is that I get t o do whatever I want whenever I want and don't need to worry about anyone else's schedule. I'm pretty introverted so I like having my space sometimes.
03/14/2011
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*hugs* It'll get better, but you have to go through Hell first.
Originally posted by
Tori Rebel
I know. And I just remember telling you that it gets better and now I couldn't pound that thought into my head if I had a sledgehammer. I HATE this. HATE. HATE. HATE!
But I had forgotten that no one else will be using my bathroom....THAT I like.
But I had forgotten that no one else will be using my bathroom....THAT I like.
03/14/2011
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I know. I was just hoping the ex-husband would be the last time I was going to have to do this!!! Grrr.
Originally posted by
Chilipepper
*hugs* It'll get better, but you have to go through Hell first.
03/14/2011
All of your money can be spent on you! You never have to clean up after anyone. You don't have to worry if your actions will negatively affect another person. You can do what you want, say what you want, talk to who you want and dress how you want. You get to be selfish and there's nothing wrong with it! Being single is awesome. You get to work on all your personal issues, spend time with your friends and meet new people.
It's way better than being in an unfulfilling relationship. Breakups suck, but they are worth it. You have to do what's right for you.
It's way better than being in an unfulfilling relationship. Breakups suck, but they are worth it. You have to do what's right for you.
03/14/2011
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Those are actually all great points I hadn't realized. My money going entirely toward me (not toward stuff we agree on) especially....weekly nail appointment, here I come...
Originally posted by
Lucidity
All of your money can be spent on you! You never have to clean up after anyone. You don't have to worry if your actions will negatively affect another person. You can do what you want, say what you want, talk to who you want and dress how you
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All of your money can be spent on you! You never have to clean up after anyone. You don't have to worry if your actions will negatively affect another person. You can do what you want, say what you want, talk to who you want and dress how you want. You get to be selfish and there's nothing wrong with it! Being single is awesome. You get to work on all your personal issues, spend time with your friends and meet new people.
It's way better than being in an unfulfilling relationship. Breakups suck, but they are worth it. You have to do what's right for you. less
It's way better than being in an unfulfilling relationship. Breakups suck, but they are worth it. You have to do what's right for you. less
He's actually not unfulfilling, but it's just one of those life getting in the way things. We'll see what happens but I'm trying not to hang on too hard right now.
03/14/2011
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Sometimes it happens. Sometimes relationships just run their course.
Originally posted by
Tori Rebel
Those are actually all great points I hadn't realized. My money going entirely toward me (not toward stuff we agree on) especially....weekly nail appointment, here I come...
He's actually not unfulfilling, but it's just one of ... more
He's actually not unfulfilling, but it's just one of ... more
Those are actually all great points I hadn't realized. My money going entirely toward me (not toward stuff we agree on) especially....weekly nail appointment, here I come...
He's actually not unfulfilling, but it's just one of those life getting in the way things. We'll see what happens but I'm trying not to hang on too hard right now. less
He's actually not unfulfilling, but it's just one of those life getting in the way things. We'll see what happens but I'm trying not to hang on too hard right now. less
Whatever happens, I'm sure you'll make the right decision and be a happier person in the end. Lucky for you you've got a killer support group to help you through it all
But seriously, having all your money all to yourself is sooooo nice!!
03/14/2011
If you live together you wont have to pick up after someone else. If you don't you wont have to try and figure out schedules just so you can see each other.
If you don't have an open relationship you can finally have sex with anyone you've got a crush on and want to.
You can go out and get hit on and not have to worry about what he might say or think - and you can actually take the number if you want!
No more waiting to see what he's doing before you make plans (not that you do), you can do what you want, when you want, with whom you want. No questions asked.
No relationship = no stupid fights!!
You can go on vacation with your friends and not worry about what he's doing back home or say you can't go because a.) he doesn't want you to. b.)you don't want to go alone c.) your money is "our" money.
Flirting with hotties, nuff said.
Hope that helps!!
If you don't have an open relationship you can finally have sex with anyone you've got a crush on and want to.
You can go out and get hit on and not have to worry about what he might say or think - and you can actually take the number if you want!
No more waiting to see what he's doing before you make plans (not that you do), you can do what you want, when you want, with whom you want. No questions asked.
No relationship = no stupid fights!!
You can go on vacation with your friends and not worry about what he's doing back home or say you can't go because a.) he doesn't want you to. b.)you don't want to go alone c.) your money is "our" money.
Flirting with hotties, nuff said.
Hope that helps!!
03/14/2011
I hope you don't mind a GUY chiming in, I think that being single offers a few benefits. You can focus on self improvement: career, fitness, education etc. You don't have to listen to daily BS about his job, friends or family. No irritating habits to deal with. Your time and money are your own. You can join your friends for anything, anywhere, anytime. Take a class. Take a trip. Take up a new hobby. Sleep where, when and with whom you please. Less stress. You can get reacquainted with friends, family or YOURSELF. Regain your independence. Eat, drink, wear, listen to, watch, read whatever you want, w/o considering anyone else. Live spontaneously. You never have to explain your behavior or that of your friends. Life is much less complicated. You can start with a clean slate and plan out what you want your life to be. Decide on what you value in a relationship and consider that, when choosing your next partner. Being single is the ultimate freedom...it allows you the opportunity to reshape, reorganize and prioritize what is important to you. I don't know you, but I have read some of your reviews and posts. You seem like a down to earth, balanced person with a great sense of humor.(I'm not proposing!) From what I can see, the only way you'll be flying solo at the beach or on Saturday nights is by choice. Sorry for rambling! Best of luck.
03/15/2011
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I definitely appreciate a male POV. And you pointed out my career and I did just get a promotion so this is a great time to throw all of my energy at it - I'll do better with the work and be distracted from him.
Originally posted by
bobowaxer
I hope you don't mind a GUY chiming in, I think that being single offers a few benefits. You can focus on self improvement: career, fitness, education etc. You don't have to listen to daily BS about his job, friends or family. No irritating
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I hope you don't mind a GUY chiming in, I think that being single offers a few benefits. You can focus on self improvement: career, fitness, education etc. You don't have to listen to daily BS about his job, friends or family. No irritating habits to deal with. Your time and money are your own. You can join your friends for anything, anywhere, anytime. Take a class. Take a trip. Take up a new hobby. Sleep where, when and with whom you please. Less stress. You can get reacquainted with friends, family or YOURSELF. Regain your independence. Eat, drink, wear, listen to, watch, read whatever you want, w/o considering anyone else. Live spontaneously. You never have to explain your behavior or that of your friends. Life is much less complicated. You can start with a clean slate and plan out what you want your life to be. Decide on what you value in a relationship and consider that, when choosing your next partner. Being single is the ultimate freedom...it allows you the opportunity to reshape, reorganize and prioritize what is important to you. I don't know you, but I have read some of your reviews and posts. You seem like a down to earth, balanced person with a great sense of humor.(I'm not proposing!) From what I can see, the only way you'll be flying solo at the beach or on Saturday nights is by choice. Sorry for rambling! Best of luck.
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And I think as far as a clean slate goes, I'm going to start the Jillian Michaels 30 day shred - between that and work I should be too exhausted to worry about anything else!
Thank you so much bobwaxer, you're very sweet.
03/15/2011
*sigh*
No matter how much I think about the great things about being single, I still just want HIM. And he doesn't want me anymore, after two years of not a single fight, nothing.
No matter how much I think about the great things about being single, I still just want HIM. And he doesn't want me anymore, after two years of not a single fight, nothing.
03/15/2011
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