I ask this because my birthday is coming up soon on mothers day and its the first with this bf..his birthday was last month and i went all out for him so I would be really upset if he forgot mine.I keep having to tell him what day it is so im worried that he will forget.Any man I have ever been with has never made my birthday a special day..never brought me out,bought me anything or anything and I told myself Im not gona be in another relationship where I mean so little to them that they cant even buy me something on my birthday.Im in love with my boyfriend but vowed if he forgets then im breaking up with him..not that i would want to but I dont wanna be where i mean nothing to someone again.Is this terrible that I think this?Should I say thing to him or just see if he forgets?I just dont want to be where im the only one giving..AGAIN!
Has your partner ever forgot your birthday?
I ask this because my birthday is coming up soon on mothers day and its the first with this bf..his birthday was last month and i went all out for him so I would be really upset if he forgot mine.I keep having to tell him what day it is so im worried that he will forget.Any man I have ever been with has never made my birthday a special day..never brought me out,bought me anything or anything and I told myself Im not gona be in another relationship where I mean so little to them that they cant even buy me something on my birthday.Im in love with my boyfriend but vowed if he forgets then im breaking up with him..not that i would want to but I dont wanna be where i mean nothing to someone again.Is this terrible that I think this?Should I say thing to him or just see if he forgets?I just dont want to be where im the only one giving..AGAIN!
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Remind him the day of, and don't pussy-foot around if you want something special - some are complete morons about "taking a hint".
And just because they don't pay attention to the calendar doesn't mean they're worth throwing over. I'm sure he has lots of other qualities that made you like him before you found out about his memory-for-dates problem.
I did forget our anniversary once! My Man was acting all weird one night, and then he decided to go out (we usually buy each other gifts the day of or the day before the day) and when my daughter said, "Daddy, why are you going out and why are you upset?" He said, "Ask your Mama why I'm going out on (said day before our anniversary) and why I have to go out to do something now." OMG, it hit me like a ton of bricks. Our anniversary was tomorrow!
We had a good laugh about it. I'm not a sentimental person and it was funny that "the wife" was the one to forget the anniversary.
We usually just get each other little reminders and have a nice dinner, lately, because of the economy, we will have some take out. We used to go to Morton's Steakhouse or some other "fancy" restaurant for our anniversary or our birthdays, but now we'll get sushi for my birthday and or our anniversary (which are close to each other) and get.... Gyros for his birthday. Which is on Halloween, and he has not had a problem letting the kids go out and do Halloween stuff on his birthday. "It's a big day, Halloween. I'm not going to make them stay home because I'm having an other birthday. Let them have a good time." So usually it's just we two, and a bag of Gyros and fries. We usually round the kids up before they go out so they can give him his presents. But, neither of us want expensive gifts, so it's usually things like a new shirt, or an interesting book or a magazine subscription. For me, he usually gets a box of nice candy (Fanny May) and some flowers to put in a vase and maybe some costume jewelry. Then, we nearly always have some really great sex.
If he forgot, it wouldn't be a big deal. I would remind him and say he owned me one. It's not a reason to break up. Now, if he ALWAYS forgot, never got me anything, made up excuses "Valentines Day is a HallMark holiday and I'm not going to play that." etc, I would take it as an effort to get out of doing anything for me. ONE forget is one thing, never caring is something else.
My husband has never forgotten my birthday, though he once forgot our anniversary.
He did remember it once...but I had to mention it to him several times over the course of a month or so beforehand. So he's one out of seven at the moment. He gets another shot at it next month, but I don't hold out hopes for it.
So yeah, obviously, not something to end a relationship over.