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Have you ever used an Online Dating Site (Match.com, Eharmony, Etc)?

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Contributor: JustYourAverageGuy JustYourAverageGuy
I was curious how many people have used these sites and their opinions/ experiences with them....
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
I have used Match.com
JustYourAverageGuy , petite-n-sweet , Onanist , Danielle1220 , ninaspinkturtle , BadassFatass , MattBryant , liilii080 , Eden C. , Nissa Nissa , angel142stx , bayosgirl , November , Hot'n'Bothered
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I have used Eharmony
JustYourAverageGuy , petite-n-sweet , Phoenix Fire , Envy , ToyGeek , BadassFatass , Kayla , Mistress M. , Nissa Nissa , swf , SexyStuff , xoxo , November , rom323
14
I have used Chemisty.com
ninaspinkturtle , Eden C. , Nissa Nissa
3
I have used Zoosk
JustYourAverageGuy , Eden C. , Nissa Nissa , angel142stx , PeaceToTheMiddleEast
5
I have used OKCupid
JustYourAverageGuy , Airen Wolf , petite-n-sweet , mllebeauty , Blinker , Darling Jen , sextoygeek , Tart , flamefire , Jessica Elizabeth , sbon , kittychilla , unorthodoxplaid , inbarati , qqqqqqqqqqqq , MattBryant , Kinkypixie , vegan.guy , toxie m , Crystal1 , dhig , Eden C. , Cats Meow , SexyLilPixi , Ontheborderline , GravyCakes , tigerkate , csweatc , ashaxmarie , CoffeeCup , Elaira , LostBoy988 , Nissa Nissa , voenne , joja , bayosgirl , ViVix , AzealiaB , vanilla&chocolate , Kitka
40
I have used Plenty of Fish
petite-n-sweet , Jobthingy , sextoygeek , cherryredhead88 , butterflykisses , Raggedy Andie , SingingStarr , ninaspinkturtle , qqqqqqqqqqqq , BadassFatass , MattBryant , Kinkypixie , Eden C. , ardentnight , Rika , Ontheborderline , GravyCakes , starsNairguitars , tigerkate , salaciousrex , Fuck it. , Nissa Nissa , SexyStuff , Angelica , inmytoybox , ViVix , LivingandLoving , Kitka
28
I have used Adult Friend Finder
Jobthingy , Onanist , Raggedy Andie , ariescatwoman , Danielle1220 , inbarati , ninaspinkturtle , MattBryant , Eden C. , tigerkate , Dreaus
11
I have used another site.
petite-n-sweet , Shellz31 , Tori Rebel , mllebeauty , Penguin , tits only , Tart , Research , ariescatwoman , Adriana Ravenlust , SingingStarr , sasweetheart89 , BluePixi , ninaspinkturtle , qqqqqqqqqqqq , BadassFatass , debsdelight , MattBryant , Kinkypixie , REDRUM , slynch , sexygoddess , cherie2188 , padmeamidala , tigerkate , LostBoy988 , Angelica , inmytoybox , PeaceToTheMiddleEast
29
I have never used an online dating site, but am thinking about it/would in the future
Trashley , clp , Rhazya , Kimbertrees , namelesschaos , the other jo , M121212 , MissMori , Brandonn , Bethy Cassatt , Melan!e
11
I have not used a dating site, and would not in the future
Sir , Chilipepper , kck , Selective Sensualist , twistedheartsx , Trashley , ~LaUr3n~ , Viktor Vysheslav Malkin , Kindred , ToyTimeTim , gone77 , Avant-garde , LikeSunshineDust , Liz2 , Sohotdinosaur , Lady Venus , Bunnycups , Pleasure Piratess , Coralbell , Spring , lamira , removedacnt , Lummox , jdloelo , Kimbertrees , newbern2004 , leatherlover , darthkitt3n , Anne Ardeur , LavenderSkies , null , Porfiriato , popples , Harlequin , ToxicHeart , Dusk , MrRainybowbow , fghjkl , SexyTabby , kinky girlfriend , indiglo , ellejay , Gunsmoke , Purpleladybug , Clitical Jenne , potstickers , Angel deSanguine , *HisMrs* , jankit , Redboxbaby , NaughtyButterfly , PussyGalore , Mr.RightNow , ZapperZepper , DixieDoo , cobiffle , Joie de Cherresse , MaryExy , 0 , Rossie , Orion , thebest , Valentinka , Katelyn , Stephanie Majors , Cherry21 , x203 , Bignuf , Beck , aliceinthehole , Mwar , pootpootpoot , gorgeous , richsam , BlooJay , WD40watcher
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Total votes: 231 (172 voters)
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Contributor: Sir Sir
Never used one, do not plan to. Simply by choice.
09/23/2010
Contributor: JustYourAverageGuy JustYourAverageGuy
I was only on Zoosk for 1 day and didn't like it. Eharmony tends to be for those who are looking for something more serious. Match seems to be just for casual dating (generally) and OKCupid is free, and tends to attract a younger (college aged) crowd...

While all did provide good results, I personally felt that Eharmony gave me the best chance for success and they did all the work in matching me up!
09/23/2010
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
Quote:
Originally posted by JustYourAverageGuy
I was curious how many people have used these sites and their opinions/ experiences with them....
Well ok I signed up on OK Cupid to see what the fuss was about but I didn't meet anyone and I didn't lie or spy. Just was curious.
09/23/2010
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
I met my ex-husband online (at a movie forum) - never using the net to find anyone again. Would rather just find them in person so I know if we're compatible right off or not.
09/23/2010
Contributor: Selective Sensualist Selective Sensualist
I had a friend who successfully found someone with whom she was compatible on Eharmony. They are now married.

My husband and I have been together for 17.5 years (14.5 years of marriage) and I am quite comfortable in our relationship. I can't imagine entering the dating scene again because I realize that it has changed dramatically since I left it! I just would not feel comfortable going online with the express purpose of finding someone to date, heaven forbid that I find myself single again (my husband is not just my lover, but also my best friend).

But, if the worst case scenario occurred and I became single again, I may become more comfortable with the idea. Who knows . . .
09/23/2010
Contributor: ~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
Quote:
Originally posted by Sir
Never used one, do not plan to. Simply by choice.
Ditto
09/23/2010
Contributor: Trashley Trashley
I voted for two because I'm in between them. I think using them are a little strange, but I'm young and going into med school. I hear a lot of med students use dating sites because they don't have time to go out, but it may be different since I'm a girl. I can't imagine using one, but I have nothing against it and can't predict the future. Maybe when I'm fifty, it'll be ther norm and I'll dive right in.

As Coke Talk said, "Sure. People can fall in love with someone they meet online. Haven’t you seen all those shitty commercials? It happens all the time.

Quite frankly, when you consider the historical alternatives, the digital love pimps over at eHarmony have put together a rather elegant and streamlined version of a traditional courtship ritual. It only feels unnatural because you’re not used to it.

If you take a moment to stop and look around, you’ll find that our world is full of commonplace extravagances that humans living in any other era would consider bizarre.

You want to talk unnatural? How about ordering processed food off of glossy picture menus at chain restaurant? That shit is way more unnatural than something like eHarmony, but fuck it. You’ll order up some jalapeno poppers at TGI Fridays without giving it a second thought.

All I’m saying is that a picture menu is a picture menu. We live in a culture that likes to look at a product shot and point. It doesn’t matter if it’s a husband or a basket of curly fries. Order up."

I think that sums it up quite nicely.
09/23/2010
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
Quote:
Originally posted by Chilipepper
I met my ex-husband online (at a movie forum) - never using the net to find anyone again. Would rather just find them in person so I know if we're compatible right off or not.
To play devil's advocate...I met Arch online but we were friends for well over a year before we ever heard each other's voices. It can work but I can understand once bitten, twice shy! I don't blame you for saying no thanks.
09/23/2010
Contributor: Midway through Midway through
I don't think dating sites work for one, and honestly, none of my friends have had a good experience out of one. My best friend met a crazy guy on a dating site. So my opinion has formed based off her experiences, holy scary batman. You can be whoever you want online, but in person, may not be who you met online!
09/23/2010
Contributor: petite-n-sweet petite-n-sweet
I met a great (former) guyfriend on plenty of fish.. and a college friend of mine has been dating someone he met on OKCupid for a month now.

Online sites can work if you are honest with yourself and your expectations.

My current guy however was met the good ol' fashioned way. I hit on him while he was in the mall =)
09/23/2010
Contributor: Viktor Vysheslav Malkin Viktor Vysheslav Malkin
Quote:
Originally posted by JustYourAverageGuy
I was curious how many people have used these sites and their opinions/ experiences with them....
Not me, not my thing, and I have no intention of signing up for one
09/23/2010
Contributor: Kindred Kindred
Never used any, but they also all came out way after I was in a committed relationship so there has been no need. Would I in the future if the need arose? Maybe.
09/23/2010
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
Quote:
Originally posted by Midway through
I don't think dating sites work for one, and honestly, none of my friends have had a good experience out of one. My best friend met a crazy guy on a dating site. So my opinion has formed based off her experiences, holy scary batman. You can be ... more
You can be whoever you want online, but in person, may not be who you met online!

Yeah, that's my ex-husband. You say whatever you need them to hear when you have time to edit.
09/23/2010
Contributor: ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
Quote:
Originally posted by Selective Sensualist
I had a friend who successfully found someone with whom she was compatible on Eharmony. They are now married.

My husband and I have been together for 17.5 years (14.5 years of marriage) and I am quite comfortable in our relationship. I ... more
I feel the same way, after 20 years I would not know were to start. I think it would take quit a while before I was ready start dating again, at that time I might look into online stuff, don't know.
09/23/2010
Contributor: Jobthingy Jobthingy
When i was single POF was my place to go. Not for anything serious, just really to meet and have a date.

Now that i am committed, we use AFF because we are in the lifestyle and meet other couples there.

I actually met my SO online, the Speed Date facebook app to be exact. *giggles*
09/23/2010
Contributor: Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
I used yahoo personals when I was 20 or so just for fun. Never found anything serious, but then again wasn't looking for it. If I was single again now or would be in the future I might consider eharmony if I was having a hard time finding someone but I've never had an issue meeting people in person. And I met my current boyfriend in the oh-so-classy old fashioned way - in a bar. LOL. I bought him a beer
09/23/2010
Contributor: El-Jaro El-Jaro
I used a few, none of them worked. I'm actually anti-eHarmony because they don't match anyone but Christian straight people.
09/23/2010
Contributor: gone77 gone77
I'd set up a profile a couple of sites years ago for shits and giggles, but they generally bored me. I know that conflicts with my vote, but I never really used them. And I highly doubt I ever would.
09/23/2010
Contributor: gone77 gone77
Quote:
Originally posted by El-Jaro
I used a few, none of them worked. I'm actually anti-eHarmony because they don't match anyone but Christian straight people.
The thing with that, though, is pretty much every dating service caters to a specific group of people. So, if I was to be anti any of them because of how exclusive they are, then I'd have to be anti all of them.
09/23/2010
Contributor: mllebeauty mllebeauty
I have made a few good friends on OK Cupid. I like having the opportunity to "meet" people I'm unlikely to run into at Starbucks. Particularly because I don't drink coffee...
09/23/2010
Contributor: Avant-garde Avant-garde
NO thanks I don't want to be thinking I am talking to a really cool girl and it turns out to be a guy.
09/23/2010
Contributor: Blinker Blinker
I got started on OKCupid by a close friend years ago and met my current boyfriend. We've been going strong for over 2 years and encountered each other by chance, both complaining about the snarkiness of others on the site.

The site changed and has become Hater City, a place for hipsters to go and promote their mumblecore philosophies while trying to outwit everyone else. GAH! Good thing it was free so I never wasted a dime
09/23/2010
Contributor: Liz2 Liz2
I don't have the need at present but these services scare me. I have heard the horror stories from some of my girlfriends which would make me think twice prior to going forward.
I go to clubs, a gym, and interact with many people. There are many opportunities if I were interested.
The initial meetings, using services, at coffee shops and other safe places would bore the hell out of me.
10/13/2010
Contributor: sextoygeek sextoygeek
After I broke up with my first boyfriend like five years ago I was lost. I'm not that outgoing, so it's difficult for me to meet people, so I turned to online dating. I started on PlentyofFish and met a guy and we actually dated for a year and a half, things were great just felt out of love. After that I went back to PlentyofFish and then I joined OKCupid as well. I like OKCupid, I've talked to several people and had some good dates, but nothing very long term (last boyfriend was 6 months that I met on OKCupid) but I don't know that I really want something long term and serious right now. You need to be safe when you do it, I'm always very careful and try to get to know someone as much as you can, it can be hard to really know someone. I do get jerks, but those are mostly guys that think I'm just desperate and will hook up with anyone and then turn into assholes when I say no.
10/15/2010
Contributor: Bunnycups Bunnycups
Quote:
Originally posted by Midway through
I don't think dating sites work for one, and honestly, none of my friends have had a good experience out of one. My best friend met a crazy guy on a dating site. So my opinion has formed based off her experiences, holy scary batman. You can be ... more
I totally agree.
10/16/2010
Contributor: Envy Envy
I think I used Eharmony... I could be wrong... but to find friends online. But it never worked, no one was ever interested in contacting me or anything.
10/16/2010
Contributor: cherryredhead88 cherryredhead88
Quote:
Originally posted by JustYourAverageGuy
I was curious how many people have used these sites and their opinions/ experiences with them....
I have been on Plenty of Fish. I actually met quite a few people off of there, none of which worked out of course I took my profile down because I don't feel like dealing with tools anymore, lol
10/16/2010
Contributor: clp clp
I have not used a dating site before, I actually met my sweetheart through omegle.com. Weird, right?
10/16/2010
Contributor: Penguin Penguin
When i was overseas at 19, I used some sort of site, but it wasn't a main stream one since they weren't popular yet. I don't even remember what it was. A lot of the guys used them.
10/16/2010