My opinion is that you should give him all of the time that he needs, even if it is hard for you. If you really care about him, you'll care about his thoughts, feelings, and fears and not pressure him. Imagine if it was the other way around and YOU were a virgin. If a guy was like "Hey, baby. It's okay. It's just sex. It's no big deal." or just pressured you to have sex in general, I'm sure you would feel awful. You would feel bad for rejecting him and depending on how much he brought it up or tried to go through with it, you might not even feel safe. It's the same for him. You should only have sex if you're absolutely ready and if he's having doubts, then I'd say he's not "absolutely ready". If you simply can't wait for him, I'm afraid you'll probably have to break up, but the consent and willingness of both parties is extremely important so if that has to happen because he won't be ready soon enough for you, so be it.

That being said, you might want to sit down with him and have a talk. Tell him that it's okay that he's a virgin and he's new to everything. Tell him that you're inexperienced, too, and that you two can learn together. Make sure he knows that he is in a safe place with you and all that matters is that you do it together, not whether or not it's "perfect". It'll BE perfect because you two are in love (I presume). After that, let it drop. Don't pressure him. Don't bring it up a lot. Don't jump at him or try to do things to "turn him on". Let him come to you at his own pace. It's his choice and he deserves to make it on his own. less

Well, It is important that you're both ready and comfortable. I suggest a -lot- of masturbation for now. But, you should reassure him. Hell, even *teach* him. I'm sure he wants to be more physical with you too, so maybe if you offer up some lessons he'll relax a little. It'll take a bit of patience to get to actual sex, but if you're willing to help him, it'll happen eventually. less