Im just curious as Ive known a few people who do this... I don't think I ever could, but the few people I know swear by it..
Have you been in an open relationship before?
08/02/2011
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I haven't and am not a person that would be comfortable in one. I did have an ex-fiancee' that must have thought we were, however.
08/02/2011
I don't think I would be comfortable in one.
08/02/2011
No way I could handle the drama or divided loyalties.
08/02/2011
never have, and do not care too.
08/04/2011
Yes, but still with restrictions. My ex and I were sharing our future, but we allowed each other any short term trysts along the way. No divided loyalties, really.
08/07/2011
Of course they swear by it, it works for them. And those it didn't work for will most likely tell you to run for the hills if the suggestion is made.
Been there, done that. I don't and will never trust anyone enough to allow them to get close to what my man and I share. It's just that simple. The open relationship was with him and someone we both thought we knew extremely well. To call it a clusterfuck is putting it mildly. It's also not a joke when I say that I am definitely emotionally scarred because of the experience.
Been there, done that. I don't and will never trust anyone enough to allow them to get close to what my man and I share. It's just that simple. The open relationship was with him and someone we both thought we knew extremely well. To call it a clusterfuck is putting it mildly. It's also not a joke when I say that I am definitely emotionally scarred because of the experience.
08/07/2011
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Up until recently I was in an open relationship, I'd say it was for about 10 years, maybe more? I'm 23 (it started with the cute "lets hold hands" relationships) and up until my current relationship I very much enjoyed it. There were no issues with jealousy because in these relationships you learn to manage your time, and everyone was happy. But, my current boyfriend doesn't like to share, which is fine by me, because I am very happy with the way things are
Originally posted by
Breas
Im just curious as Ive known a few people who do this... I don't think I ever could, but the few people I know swear by it..
08/17/2011
No I haven't and not sure I could but I find the subject interesting
08/17/2011
Never. I don't believe in it.
08/17/2011
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I love my open relationships! It was hard work to get here but this is a great place to be.
Originally posted by
Breas
Im just curious as Ive known a few people who do this... I don't think I ever could, but the few people I know swear by it..
08/17/2011
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LOL there can be some pretty awful drama, No doubt!
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Gunsmoke
No way I could handle the drama or divided loyalties.
08/17/2011
not for me.
08/17/2011
Not one that I was aware of at the time! Lol. My partner and I don't go for that at all. Were in a totally (TOTALLY) monogamous relationship, by our own choice.
08/31/2011
Nope, that type of relationship wouldn't work for me.
08/31/2011
Also been there, done that. Relationship involved myself, my boyfriend and a girlfriend. It got kinda weird as my girlfriend fell in love with me and wanted us to live together, including her boyfriend who was actually a cover for her sexual identity (poor guy). We never did live together but the drama and the emotions were overwhelming, esp. when I said, I will always have a man in my life.
I was totally drained, exhausted and frustrated by the experience.
Will I ever be with a women again? Probably....but no way with all this drama and intensity.
I was totally drained, exhausted and frustrated by the experience.
Will I ever be with a women again? Probably....but no way with all this drama and intensity.
08/31/2011
It's been a while, but yes. I also dated a married couple once and there was a degree of openness there.
08/31/2011
No, an open relationship is not something I would be comfortable with. I need that one on one loyalty.
08/31/2011
No. I wouldn't feel comfortable in an open relationship.
09/02/2011
I was in a poly relationship with a married couple. It worked out okay at the time but didn't last, and it wasn't something I would have carried on long term. It was very enjoyable at the time as the wife and I were good friends, and she was a very femme/caretaking kind which I love.
I highly doubt I'd do it again, but like I've learned through the years...never say never!
I highly doubt I'd do it again, but like I've learned through the years...never say never!
09/02/2011
I've been doing open relationships for the past few years and it's definitely what's right for me at this point in my life and I'm very very happy with it.
09/03/2011
Worst experience of my life. Never again.
09/03/2011
no and dont want too
09/03/2011
i've had a couple and i'm a little bit too much on the jealous side and kind of lazy (it takes hard working people to do that!). but i know some very happy people who have open relationships so it works out differently for everyone.
09/03/2011
I'm not in an open relationship and haven't been in one. I'm not sure how I'd feel if I were in one tbh.
09/03/2011
I was in a polyamorous relationship for about 6 months, but it just did not work out. I personally am not too comfortable with being in an open relationship.
09/03/2011
I think it depends, I'm not the jealous type, but still....
I'm not sure.
I'm not sure.
09/04/2011
Many years ago I was, with that particular partner it felt right.
I'm now in a monogamous relationship that's working quite well for both of us.
I'm now in a monogamous relationship that's working quite well for both of us.
09/04/2011
The majority of my relationships have been open, and my partners and I felt comfortable and loved, and everything worked fine as long as everyone was honest with him/herself, and each other.
There was one man who got his feelings hurt, and I'm still not sure whether I should blame myself or not---he told me that he was okay with everything, repeatedly, but I could see that he was trying to fool himself. I let him be his own judge about when to leave, but he definitely tried to convince himself that he was okay for much longer than was necessary, and he wound up quite hurt. I feel really badly about the whole situation with him.
But for the other partners over the years---basically if you have the capacity to be honest with yourself, and you are a)not instinctively very jealous and b)able to discuss and work through any jealousy that does crop up in spite of your usual nature---lovely and enjoyable.
There was one man who got his feelings hurt, and I'm still not sure whether I should blame myself or not---he told me that he was okay with everything, repeatedly, but I could see that he was trying to fool himself. I let him be his own judge about when to leave, but he definitely tried to convince himself that he was okay for much longer than was necessary, and he wound up quite hurt. I feel really badly about the whole situation with him.
But for the other partners over the years---basically if you have the capacity to be honest with yourself, and you are a)not instinctively very jealous and b)able to discuss and work through any jealousy that does crop up in spite of your usual nature---lovely and enjoyable.
09/04/2011
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me and my fiance both have commitment issues so were in a open relationship on mutual decision
Originally posted by
Breas
Im just curious as Ive known a few people who do this... I don't think I ever could, but the few people I know swear by it..
09/19/2011
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