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Contributor: Entropy Entropy
How long do you date someone before you feel comfortable enough to have unprotected sex with them?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Under one month
3  (10%)
1 to 6 months
5  (17%)
6 months to a year
1  (3%)
Never
4  (14%)
Other
16  (55%)
Total votes: 29
Poll is closed
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Contributor: chibi1091 chibi1091
I don't really think unprotected sex is okay outside of something with a marriage-level of commitment (not that you HAVE to be married).
01/08/2012
Contributor: Coralbell Coralbell
My boyfriend and I had unprotected sex pretty soon into the relationship... maybe a month or two? He was a virgin before me, and I had only been with one other person who was also a virgin, so there was no risk of STD's.
01/08/2012
Contributor: MeliPixie MeliPixie
Since I've only had one partner all my life, I can't answer this with 100% certainty. The first few times we had sex, we used a condom, and in the two years following it's sort of dwindled down to where we haven't used one in a couple months and before that were several more months of unprotected sex. Most of the time we use withdrawl.
01/08/2012
Contributor: spiceboy spiceboy
After seeing their negative test results?
01/08/2012
Contributor: MrWishyWashy MrWishyWashy
Honesty is the best policy on this one. If you care for someone, even if you have only known the person for a month or less, both of you deserve the truth about any potential problems in the safety department.
01/08/2012
Contributor: KyotoAngel KyotoAngel
Voted 'other' because the only reason I can see for unprotected sex is if you're certain the other person is D/D free and you want to have a baby.
01/10/2012
Contributor: Do-Re-Mi Do-Re-Mi
I put other because right now, for me, I don't want to have a baby so condoms are a must. As far as STDs go, if I was in a commited relationship with someone and we both had been tested then I would feel fine with not using protection.
01/10/2012
Contributor: MelSC MelSC
I would have to know that they were not sleeping around and that they had an STD test and that they were clean.
01/10/2012
Contributor: Chirple Chirple
It really depends.

I don't think I'd EVER have truly unprotected sex with someone of the opposite sex unless we were actively trying to have a family.

Same-sex is different since although you have to think about STDs, you don't have to worry about makin' babies.
01/11/2012
Contributor: ksparkles16 ksparkles16
I probably wouldn't feel comfortable until I was married and wanted to have a family
01/11/2012
Contributor: SMichelle SMichelle
Quote:
Originally posted by spiceboy
After seeing their negative test results?
Yes, this.
01/11/2012
Contributor: quinceykay quinceykay
Unprotected, as in no condoms... Probably after we had been seriously dating for quite a few months and we had each gotten tested negative. But I would still take the pill, unless we were actually trying to start a family.
01/11/2012
Contributor: SexyStuff SexyStuff
Well, 6 months to a year because that is how long it would take me to be interested in sex with them in the first place.
01/15/2012
Contributor: Luca77 Luca77
Definitely marriage or an equal level of commitment.
11/13/2012
Contributor: heather-mooney heather-mooney
Quote:
Originally posted by Entropy
How long do you date someone before you feel comfortable enough to have unprotected sex with them?
i would never have unprotected sex!
11/14/2012
Contributor: tortilla tortilla
lots of factors come into play to make that decision
11/14/2012
Contributor: Pink Lily Pink Lily
There are a lot of factors to that decision. Time really doesn't matter to me if I don't feel comfortable, or if I do. It's really about how the relationship is progressing.
11/16/2012
Contributor: timelady timelady
I'm trying to figure this out now myself (before I even have sex). Maybe I'm thinking of this the wrong way, but I see unprotected sex as having two factors: the risk of STDs and the possibility of getting pregnant.

I am a virgin, so there's no way I have anything, but my guy is not. If he gets tested for STDs and has nothing and I'm on the pill (to cover the pregnancy aspect of the situation) would a condom still be necessary? Granted, I'm aware the pill doesn't always prevent pregnancy but, theoretically?
11/19/2012
Contributor: Cat E. Cat E.
Condoms only for me!
11/19/2012