telling your number

No, I don't think it's necessary to tell your date about that. My husband of 19 years doesn't know exactly how many guys I've slept with, and I don't want to know about his history neither; I know most other EFers prefer to spill their life history to their partners, but that's not how I want it.

Nope. None of my current partners know my exact number, and I don't think they need to. I do not want to know their numbers either, as it really doesn't matter to me.

my wife and i told each other our numbers about a year ago...i kinda wish we hadnt though

No, that's something best kept to yourself in my opinion.

I think it is something that you need to be open and honest about in any serious relationship. I do not believe in keeping anything from your partner. They should have the right to know and make the decision if they are ok with it. If they are not, do you really want to be with someone that would not accept the honest you and would you really want to keep a secret from the person you want to spend the rest of your life with?

Nope, I've never told anyone (except for a private poll here on Eden... which still doesn't count, I don't think, LOL)

Anyway, I'm not going to be defined by how many partners I've had, so the "honest me" doesn't have anything to do with how many men I've slept with. Now, if asked, I will not lie, but I would let him know that I don't think that's any of his concern. There's not really a reason for my man to ask me that question anyway, he is perfectly fine that we're together and happy, and has no desire to bring up my past.

IMO that's a question a high school boy asks a girl, or an insecure man asks his woman.

I try to be clear about it. If they are the type of person who would find it reprehensible, I would like to know that upfront so I can quit wasting my time.

I've told people I've dated, but since I've only been with 3 people it's not a very dramatic conversation. My ex just come sup occasionally.

It doesn't really matter. I haven't been with many people, if they ask I'll tell them. I've only been with 3.

Not really. I don't see the point and my number is pretty non-existent for the most part.

its not something expected of anyone, but my wife and i had a conversation before we were married that brought it up and we both know, it didnt change anything

only current or most recent activity interests me. primarily for STDs & STIs info.