My question is only what might make it easier for my girlfriend and I to meet another woman who would be willing to be a close friend to both of us, and to get it on with us in a 3-some type of way.

We are not looking for a relationship per se, just to meet someone who we can develop a friendship with based on trust, understanding, and an equal desire to have sex with both of us.

Seems like a tall order when I ask certain people around here....but it really isn't. I have known a lot of people to partake in relations and activities just like this, but that was years ago when I wasn't in this relationship, and now it seems folks have just gotten all kinds of weird. less

First, familiarize yourself with what you're asking for: a unicorn. A mystical, rarely-seen creature. Couples seeking bi women (hot bi babes) to have sex with (especially regular sex in a triad) are common, while women willing to be the third are rare.

In order to have success, you have to be willing to bring something new to the table, something really unique and desirable. Make yourself stand out.

And you may have to lower your standards. You may not be able to get the hottest, youngest, sexiest lady out there. You may not be able to find a woman immediately willing to get into a sexual relationship with both you and your girlfriend. She may want just one of you, at least at first. Sacrifices will probably have to be made. You may have to broaden your horizons and date another couple in a swinging/swapping type of situation. The fact is simply that there aren't a lot of hot bi babes who haven't already been scooped up into whatever kind of relationship(s) they desire.

Which brings me to my last point: whatever girl you do find... do not be possessive of her. You are bringing someone into an already established relationship as a third wheel, and expecting this woman to drop all pursuit of other people (for sex and/or dating) is simply not fair to her. Sadly this is a mistake a lot of unicorn-hunting couples make. The extreme example of this is a couple that seeks another woman to live in their house as a third, please both of them, look after their kids, etc. etc., with no real compensation or freedom to see other people. Pretty much the worst situation ever, but amazingly there are people like that out there. less