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At what point do you decide that living together is what's right for the two of you?
It is best to live together when you know that you can be loving and still yearning for one another even in the worst of times.
Like if your other is really sick; bed ridden and miserable, needing total care. Would you be by their side if say they throw up on themselves or the floor, clean it up and help them change, bathe them and nurture them back to health.
Or for instance if one or the other is in a bad accident and can't move about or has limited or no use of their hands. Could you dress them, feed them, wipe their behinds for them after using the toilet?
Co-habitation isn't all just about dreamy eyed, fall over your own feet puppy love. It is also about the possibility of seeing the other at their absolute worst, or them seeing you in your worst that should be considered as well.
I never thought about anything like that before my first marriage; in hind-sight I know it would have served. I also never considered it with my current relationship, but seeing the things that we have weathered for each other....lost work, no income, childbirth, awful sickness, my broken back....it makes all the difference and shows me what I thought was love before was not strong enough because they who I was with before could not have weathered half as much as the one I am with now.