Where do you prefer to go when you hook up with someone you don't know well? - Created by softcoeur on Aug 28, 2010: EdenFantasys Forum

softcoeur

I read the "Safe place to meet sex partners" discussion with interest but am curious what people prefer, or feel is safer, when they actually meet someone they want to hook up with. Your place, or theirs, or someplace else?

How well do you need to know someone before you let them know where you live? What do you consider before you bring someone home? What do you worry about when you go to someone else's place and you don't know them that well?

Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):

Your place

Fanny , Persephone's Addiction , K-smith , bobowaxer , Sohotdinosaur , xoflxokcxo

6 (25%)

Their place

deltalima , Trashley , redhotsinglemama

3 (12%)

Neither (please explain)

Pleasure Piratess , Airen Wolf , ~LaUr3n~ , Sir , Liz , SarahSarah , kck , mrs.mckrakn , Jenniae09 , Darling Jen , sixfootsex , LittleBird , Evenlei , SadoMas , potstickers

15 (62%)

Total votes: 24

Poll is closed

08/28/2010

deltalima

I would say their place in case anything happens and you don't want them to know where you live but that can go the other way too. If you end up in a bad situation and you are alone. However, I'll only let people know where I live after at least 3 months of dating. Even then, I have to think it through carefully.

08/28/2010

Pleasure Piratess

I would meet in a hotel.. you don't want them to know where u live, and u don't want all the cards in their favor if all doesn't go well. At least a motel there are people around to go to for help.

08/28/2010

Airen Wolf

(EF Review Program Mentor)

I meet initially with a potential playmate at a restaurant where I am well known and with one of my partners in tow. If it goes well I might meet them at a more discreet restaurant or a nice well lit bar for one single drink. Usually a partner is watching from a car just to be safe. If that goes well then we will make a reservation at a hotel and meet there...again usually with Sigel since he's the one that actually likes to swing. I have three young children so I don't want any lines being blurred with people I have no intention of having in their lives meeting them.
It can take upwards of three years for outsiders to get my address let alone meet the kids. We are VERY selective about that.

08/28/2010

~LaUr3n~

It has been a long time since I have hooked up (even just kissing) with someone I didn't know for a long time. When it did happen, it was usually a friend of a good friend and so it would be at that trusted friends house, not mine, or his. Really, that is the safest way and the only way I preferred it. That way if you want to leave, you can't be held there and if you want him to leave, you don't have to call the cops to get him out of your place.

I have never invited a guy I didn't know well back to my place. That would be the last place I would do something.

08/28/2010

Fanny

I don't think I'd be hooking up with someone that i wouldn't feel safe having them know where i live! I feel more comfortable in my own bed and in my own room than in someone elses!

08/28/2010

Liz

Neither-- after college, I gave up hooking up with people I don't know (and now I'm in a monogamous, permanent relationship, so it's irrelevant). Just too many variables, too many things that could go wrong, and too much aftermath for me.

08/28/2010

SarahSarah

If I were going to hook up with a random stranger, I would do it at a hotel. I dont want them to know where I live incase their a psychopath. Also, if they are a psychopath I dont want to be trapped in their house if they try to murder me and then hide me in their basement for years and do experiments on me. I would never randomly hook up with someone. I find it gross.

09/12/2010

Blinker

When I hooked up, I would go to their office after hours, their place or get a hotel room. I used fake names half of the time and had a stash of morning after pills. Luckily my dumb ass never caught an STD. I never used a condom.

09/12/2010

P'Gell

I haven't hooked up with anyone in a very long time. I'm in a monogamous relationship and have been for years. But, when I was in college, a dorm is a perfect place, because you have privacy if you want it, and the walls are so thin that if something unspeakable were to happen, someone would hear you scream for help.

I always felt safe in the dorms. The only drawback is stick-in-the-mud roommates. Lost a good time more than once because of a roommate who rarely went out for long and was very judgmental.

09/13/2010

Trashley

I like going to their place, because it's like they don't know where you live and you can leave anytime you like! I like leaving. Like, oh brb getting a glass of water ::bounce:: haha :]

09/15/2010

K-smith

Being a male, It's going to be up to the woman where we go. I'm comfortable with my house or her house, or anywhere she may want. Because I'm comfortable with it, i would allow her to chose. Personally I would want my house, because that's where I live, it's my comfort zone.

10/13/2010

LittleBird

Coffee shop is my go to. Get to know them in an environment that is un-sexy and see if you still like them, or would like to pursue them as a friend, lover, SO, etc. It's too intimate at a club, play party, your room, her room, his room. Just don't go there until you know them better.

03/24/2011