So, there's this guy that I dated several months back that I really liked. I felt so comfortable and happy when I was with him. He was the first guy that I met in awhile that really seemed to like me for me and even better, he never pushed for an immediate sexual relationship. I was kind of on the rebound and I was trying to date him as casually as I could. I explained that, and he understood it. He was fine with just hanging out and talking or watching movies together. He even cooked!
We would always hang out late in the night, he would often be in the middle of passing out when I was there. I would usually be so tired that I would likewise be about to pass out from exhaustion. He would always offer that I could spend the night (non-sexual request), but I would always refuse. Then one night, before I headed over like planned, I told him that I'd spend the night. He never responded. I waited hours and he never texted back. I called him a few times, trying to calm myself so I didn't act like a crazy person. And then I got on AIM. He was logged on. I messaged him and casually asked him "what's up?" He never responded.
A week went by and I was still upset. We had never been official, and I figured that he had probably blown me off. I texted him again and asked if I had done anything to upset him...I get foggy on the rest of the details. I can't remember if I sent anything mean-spirited or angry, but I remember telling him to enjoy his break (we go to the same university).
Today he emailed me the following message:
Hola
It's been a long while! How've you been? It was my own fault for disappearing when we last hung out. I was overwhelmed by so many things and I just kind of retreated into a hole and didn't talk to much of anyone for a while I wanted to get back in touch after a while but I had heard from some friends that you were dating someone, and I kind of figured I'd missed the boat.
Kind of a longshot, but if you feel like talking sometime I'd like that a lot. If you'd rather not, have an awesome break
Note: I am single, but I'm seriously debating what I should do. I'm thinking that I might cautiously begin talking to him, but I am worried because it really hurt when he stopped talking to me.
What would you do if you were in my shoes?
We would always hang out late in the night, he would often be in the middle of passing out when I was there. I would usually be so tired that I would likewise be about to pass out from exhaustion. He would always offer that I could spend the night (non-sexual request), but I would always refuse. Then one night, before I headed over like planned, I told him that I'd spend the night. He never responded. I waited hours and he never texted back. I called him a few times, trying to calm myself so I didn't act like a crazy person. And then I got on AIM. He was logged on. I messaged him and casually asked him "what's up?" He never responded.
A week went by and I was still upset. We had never been official, and I figured that he had probably blown me off. I texted him again and asked if I had done anything to upset him...I get foggy on the rest of the details. I can't remember if I sent anything mean-spirited or angry, but I remember telling him to enjoy his break (we go to the same university).
Today he emailed me the following message:
Hola
It's been a long while! How've you been? It was my own fault for disappearing when we last hung out. I was overwhelmed by so many things and I just kind of retreated into a hole and didn't talk to much of anyone for a while I wanted to get back in touch after a while but I had heard from some friends that you were dating someone, and I kind of figured I'd missed the boat.
Kind of a longshot, but if you feel like talking sometime I'd like that a lot. If you'd rather not, have an awesome break
Note: I am single, but I'm seriously debating what I should do. I'm thinking that I might cautiously begin talking to him, but I am worried because it really hurt when he stopped talking to me.
What would you do if you were in my shoes?
