Recently, I took a chance and met someone that I had been talking to online. We got along very well in person, though things didn't go exactly as planned. His life, at the time, was very chaotic.

When we were parting ways for the last time, he took it upon himself to tell me how much he liked me. The conversation went something like this...

Me: Well, it was nice meeting you. Thank you for showing me around.
He pulls me in for a hug...
Him: I really do like you. You're just as I hoped you would be. I wish you could stay.
Me: Me too.
Him: I will come see you. I will call you or text you tonight.
Me: Okay. Talk to you soon. I hope everything works out okay (with stuff he was struggling with).
Him: Me too.
He leans down for a kiss and then whispers: "I'm just nuts about you"

and then, we walk in opposite directions. I watched as he turned the corner and went out of sight, then I kept walking forward. For some reason, I felt the urge to turn back around after a few steps. I turned around, and he standing back on the corner, watching me. We stood staring at each other for a few minutes before we both walked off.

It has now been well over a week and I have not heard a word from him. I e-mailed him, but no response.

I just can't figure out why he would say all of this and then disappear. less

I keep trying to figure out if I should.

I sent him a few e-mails over the past week. One to tell him that my flight arrived home safely, a second to send him pictures, and a third to ask him if he was okay. All spaced out over a few days. I feel like that's already seeming very desperate.

I want to call him, as I know I'll get an instant response as to what's going on if I do, but I don't want to be a bother, or seem clingy.

Maybe if I wait another 2 weeks before calling, or e-mailing again? less

I keep trying to figure out if I should.

I sent him a few e-mails over the past week. One to tell him that my flight arrived home safely, a second to send him pictures, and a third to ask him if he was okay. All spaced out over a few days. I feel like that's already seeming very desperate.

I want to call him, as I know I'll get an instant response as to what's going on if I do, but I don't want to be a bother, or seem clingy.

Maybe if I wait another 2 weeks before calling, or e-mailing again? less

I keep trying to figure out if I should.

I sent him a few e-mails over the past week. One to tell him that my flight arrived home safely, a second to send him pictures, and a third to ask him if he was okay. All spaced out over a few days. I feel like that's already seeming very desperate.

I want to call him, as I know I'll get an instant response as to what's going on if I do, but I don't want to be a bother, or seem clingy.

Maybe if I wait another 2 weeks before calling, or e-mailing again? less

no, it sounds like something may be wrong. there's nothing irrational or clingy about worrying about someone leaving you that way. i would definitely call. be cool, but call, for sure.

let him know you're worried about him - i mean hell, he could be in the hospital or worse for all you know at this point, having heard nothing at all.

if he doesn't answer i'd leave him an voicemail saying the above. good luck sweet girl. he sounded like a catch.

i bet something bad has come up. call him! less

Recently, I took a chance and met someone that I had been talking to online. We got along very well in person, though things didn't go exactly as planned. His life, at the time, was very chaotic.

When we were parting ways for the last time, he took it upon himself to tell me how much he liked me. The conversation went something like this...

Me: Well, it was nice meeting you. Thank you for showing me around.
He pulls me in for a hug...
Him: I really do like you. You're just as I hoped you would be. I wish you could stay.
Me: Me too.
Him: I will come see you. I will call you or text you tonight.
Me: Okay. Talk to you soon. I hope everything works out okay (with stuff he was struggling with).
Him: Me too.
He leans down for a kiss and then whispers: "I'm just nuts about you"

and then, we walk in opposite directions. I watched as he turned the corner and went out of sight, then I kept walking forward. For some reason, I felt the urge to turn back around after a few steps. I turned around, and he standing back on the corner, watching me. We stood staring at each other for a few minutes before we both walked off.

It has now been well over a week and I have not heard a word from him. I e-mailed him, but no response.

I just can't figure out why he would say all of this and then disappear. less

Agreed.

Don't worry about "clinginess" if you're not comfortable with this kind of silence. I ask the people I care about to let me know if they need some space rather just drop off the face of the earth and let me wallow in uncertainty and concern for them. It strikes me as inconsiderate. That's just me, however.

Define the terms of your relationship. Let him come to you if you're okay with silence. If you're not, call him and find out what's up. less

Recently, I took a chance and met someone that I had been talking to online. We got along very well in person, though things didn't go exactly as planned. His life, at the time, was very chaotic.

When we were parting ways for the last time, he took it upon himself to tell me how much he liked me. The conversation went something like this...

Me: Well, it was nice meeting you. Thank you for showing me around.
He pulls me in for a hug...
Him: I really do like you. You're just as I hoped you would be. I wish you could stay.
Me: Me too.
Him: I will come see you. I will call you or text you tonight.
Me: Okay. Talk to you soon. I hope everything works out okay (with stuff he was struggling with).
Him: Me too.
He leans down for a kiss and then whispers: "I'm just nuts about you"

and then, we walk in opposite directions. I watched as he turned the corner and went out of sight, then I kept walking forward. For some reason, I felt the urge to turn back around after a few steps. I turned around, and he standing back on the corner, watching me. We stood staring at each other for a few minutes before we both walked off.

It has now been well over a week and I have not heard a word from him. I e-mailed him, but no response.

I just can't figure out why he would say all of this and then disappear. less