I'm very guilty of receiving & not returning the favor. DH is very good at giving message & spoils me with many (without me asking). Unfortunately he is the one that really needs them. I have to make a better effort to help him out.

I could go on for pages - but I'll try to be more concise. I start with a deep muscle massage of her groin - there are 6 or seven muscles that all get connected to skeleton there and the massage is very relaxing.

I then move on to massaging her outer vulva and ass cheeks - this time using a Shea & Cocoa butter massage cream. For something different I will use a silk scarf, a string of pearls (they drive her crazy), a small feather duster - sometimes with a little honey powder if I'm going to do oral on her. All aimed at inner vulva and clitoral stimulation.

By the time I get through with all that - she's begging for something inside 'to fill the void'. When she wants to squirt we get out the PureWand, if she wants something large we have the O2 Revolution or Aria's Vibrating Bigboy - or one of the dozens of other toys in our collection.

After a few orgasms - she's ready for me - and believe me I'm ready to go!

I like receiving messages, but I prefer to give them. My wife absolutely loves them, and its a pretty sure fire way to get her into the mood.