How do you communicate?

Contributor: Genderfree Genderfree
Consent is really important thing, and I know it's different for everyone. So I was curious: how far does communication go with your partner as far as what you want and how you want it?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
I move their hand to where I want it
40
I tell them what I want
50
I moan when I like what they are doing
40
We talk beforehand
24
We have safewords
8
I use my eyes/body language.
25
Other!!
6
Total votes: 193 (62 voters)
Poll is closed
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Contributor: Trysexual Trysexual
A little bit of everything
02/07/2013
Contributor: Geogeo Geogeo
Quote:
Originally posted by Genderfree
Consent is really important thing, and I know it's different for everyone. So I was curious: how far does communication go with your partner as far as what you want and how you want it?
a little bit of everything
02/07/2013
Contributor: bratcat bratcat
My partner and i always discuss before or during what we woud like/do not like and are very direct with one an other about our sexual fantasies or what makes us uncomfortable. However sometimes if we're too heated and in the moment to actually discuss what we want/dont want we will move one an others hands. Body language is also important and there are certain cues to look for, but like moaning, it's not the best indicator of consent. Safe words are also very important too, specially for those into heavy bdsm or who role play (such as rape fantasies) because you need to know when you're partner has had enough and you've possibly crossed the line, regardless on how well you may know one an other. I didn't choose that as an option for myself as my partner and i only practice very lite bsdm and have previously discussed what is and isn't okay to do.
02/07/2013
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
It depends...a little bit of everything other than safe words. We're never in situations where those are necessary.
02/07/2013
Contributor: shorejen9 shorejen9
We do all of the above.
02/07/2013
Contributor: RonLee RonLee
Same here, pretty much all of the above.
02/07/2013
Contributor: nikki0668 nikki0668
I use a little of all of the above
02/07/2013
Contributor: FLIPxMODE FLIPxMODE
all of that pretty much
02/07/2013
Contributor: Missmarc Missmarc
Quote:
Originally posted by Genderfree
Consent is really important thing, and I know it's different for everyone. So I was curious: how far does communication go with your partner as far as what you want and how you want it?
I do just about all of those.
02/07/2013
Contributor: Genderfree Genderfree
Quote:
Originally posted by bratcat
My partner and i always discuss before or during what we woud like/do not like and are very direct with one an other about our sexual fantasies or what makes us uncomfortable. However sometimes if we're too heated and in the moment to actually ...
That's awesome. Thanks for sharing.
02/07/2013
Contributor: lainebug lainebug
Quote:
Originally posted by Genderfree
Consent is really important thing, and I know it's different for everyone. So I was curious: how far does communication go with your partner as far as what you want and how you want it?
we are very verbal about it all
02/07/2013
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by Genderfree
Consent is really important thing, and I know it's different for everyone. So I was curious: how far does communication go with your partner as far as what you want and how you want it?
All of the above!
02/08/2013
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
We do a lot of non-verbal things - but are getting better at talking about stuff. Often after something new to see if she liked it - and how to do it better.
02/08/2013
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
We like to communicate verbally.
02/08/2013
Contributor: butts butts
A bit of everything, except the "moving their hand" one, that actually annoys me.
02/08/2013
Contributor: A Good Girl A Good Girl
Quote:
Originally posted by Genderfree
Consent is really important thing, and I know it's different for everyone. So I was curious: how far does communication go with your partner as far as what you want and how you want it?
I said other because I do all of these!
02/08/2013
Contributor: big b big b
all
02/09/2013
Contributor: BrittaniMaree BrittaniMaree
show and tell
05/10/2013
Contributor: oneeyedoctopus oneeyedoctopus
All of those.
05/10/2013
Contributor: karenm karenm
I try to do all of them, but non-vebally is always easiest for me.
05/13/2013
Contributor: spiced spiced
All of the above, as well as some "de-briefing" afterwards, especially if we've tried something new.
05/13/2013
Contributor: konicaguy konicaguy
Quote:
Originally posted by Genderfree
Consent is really important thing, and I know it's different for everyone. So I was curious: how far does communication go with your partner as far as what you want and how you want it?
We use several of these things, and in combination with each other.
05/16/2013
Contributor: gwenevieve gwenevieve
Quote:
Originally posted by Genderfree
Consent is really important thing, and I know it's different for everyone. So I was curious: how far does communication go with your partner as far as what you want and how you want it?
little bit of everything, as well!
05/16/2013
Contributor: SecretKinksters SecretKinksters
He can tell when he hits the spot!
05/16/2013
Contributor: Hummingbird Hummingbird
Talking, its always planning it seems now a days.
05/23/2013
Contributor: angel42539 angel42539
I little bit of everything. Although my husband knows exactly what I love.
05/23/2013
Contributor: Beautiful-Disaster Beautiful-Disaster
Almost all of those.. most of the time I tell them what I want.
05/30/2013
Contributor: SydneyScreams SydneyScreams
talking beforehand is always fun foreplay during: telling them, moving them, moaning, etc.
05/30/2013
Contributor: LittleBun91 LittleBun91
talking!
07/11/2013