We've got a poll on the forum now about foreplay and Petra has written her column about it this week, too.

So... what do YOU do when you need more foreplay? How do you communicate that? Are you stuck in the "I've got a headache" rut because you're not getting enough? Or do you talk about it? Does he listen?

Guys... do you pay attention to her need for foreplay? Does she tell you? Are you a god who indulges in it all the time? How do you switch her from off to on?

Let's talk about it! less

We've got a poll on the forum now about foreplay and Petra has written her column about it this week, too.

So... what do YOU do when you need more foreplay? How do you communicate that? Are you stuck in the "I've got a headache" rut because you're not getting enough? Or do you talk about it? Does he listen?

Guys... do you pay attention to her need for foreplay? Does she tell you? Are you a god who indulges in it all the time? How do you switch her from off to on?

Let's talk about it! less

I truly get all the foreplay I need, but I had to train him first. My husband's first wife was the Ice Queen in bed, so now he's in heaven because he has someone who is responsive and loves sex. I've shown him what I like and he's very willing to do whatever it is. In fact, he's become extremely proud of his new-found abillities.

I've had partners before him, however, that thought foreplay was simply a matter of getting undressed. I used to get angry sometimes because I assumed that no man in his right mind would think that such a lack of foreplay was okay, but then I found that with some guys, they really did want to please a woman, but they didn't know how, and if it appeared as though I was as horny as they were, they obviously thought I was ready for instant penetration. When I told them what I liked or asked them to do something in a sexy way, I got what I needed. less

For me, how much foreplay I want changes with the wind and my moods. I think my husband likes more foreplay than I do. Since I prefer intercourse and for us it is never less than 45 minutes and usually over an hour, I feel plenty satisfied with that most times. But there are times I do love foreplay as well. And that can consist of all kinds of things like back rubs, teasing while still fully dressed, to the obvious bedroom type foreplay. But I'm usually the one who stops it when I've had enough teasing and want to get down to business. less

I agree about the "training" thing. Some of my partners have had really rough starts in the foreplay arena. I was making out with my ex-boyfriend on the bed one night. We hadn't had sex yet, or done anything else besides make out. Then, all of a sudden he just took all his clothes off. Just got completely naked. What was he thinking? That I was just going to take all my clothes off too and let him get inside me? No no... I just gave him a handjob because I did like the guy, and didn't want to make him feel uncomfortable. Needless to say there was a "discussion" the next night over dinner, and things played out better during our next encounter.

I think it really helps to bring up the discussion outside the bedroom, that's how I've had the most success. When I've bitched in bed during the act, I've usually ended up with a pissed off partner. less

We've got a poll on the forum now about foreplay and Petra has written her column about it this week, too.

So... what do YOU do when you need more foreplay? How do you communicate that? Are you stuck in the "I've got a headache" rut because you're not getting enough? Or do you talk about it? Does he listen?

Guys... do you pay attention to her need for foreplay? Does she tell you? Are you a god who indulges in it all the time? How do you switch her from off to on?

Let's talk about it! less

We've got a poll on the forum now about foreplay and Petra has written her column about it this week, too.

So... what do YOU do when you need more foreplay? How do you communicate that? Are you stuck in the "I've got a headache" rut because you're not getting enough? Or do you talk about it? Does he listen?

Guys... do you pay attention to her need for foreplay? Does she tell you? Are you a god who indulges in it all the time? How do you switch her from off to on?

Let's talk about it! less

We don't really talk about it, we just read each other's body language to know if we're ready. I love to have multiple orgasms and my husband loves to give me them so most times it's me who makes the first move towards initiating the actual intercourse part of sex. There has been a few times that I've tried to initiate it and my husband has said "not so fast I'm not done with you yet" and then continue with the foreplay. We both love the foreplay as much as we love the sex so there's no complaint from either of us if the other wants more. I think as long as any communication is done in a playful way it makes it sexy and a beneficial part of sex rather then sounding like a complaint or criticism. less