We have to have Christmas Dinner with his boss tonight, I am super nervous. His boss is a millionaire, And apparently has several other very wealthy friends accompanying him. Plus My Fiance' entire office, which is relatively small. I came from an upper middle class family and am about to marry into an upper middle- high class family. I'm just very very nervous. What can I do to calm myself and ensure that disaster doesn't hit??
Christmas Dinner with his boss.
12/14/2010
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Millionaires are people too, and I personally don't bother to treat them any differently than I treat anyone else, so just do whatever you'd normally do in this situation and don't think about money.
Originally posted by
D&&JForever
We have to have Christmas Dinner with his boss tonight, I am super nervous. His boss is a millionaire, And apparently has several other very wealthy friends accompanying him. Plus My Fiance' entire office, which is relatively small. I came from
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We have to have Christmas Dinner with his boss tonight, I am super nervous. His boss is a millionaire, And apparently has several other very wealthy friends accompanying him. Plus My Fiance' entire office, which is relatively small. I came from an upper middle class family and am about to marry into an upper middle- high class family. I'm just very very nervous. What can I do to calm myself and ensure that disaster doesn't hit??
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12/14/2010
Don't over (or under) dress, and don't over-glitz. Be tasteful in clothing, jewelry, make-up, hair, and discussions. Give friendly smiles. Follow conversations, you don't really have to initiate them. NEVER monopolize the conversation. Use excellent table manners. Drink moderately or a bit less than that.
Really, I wish you luck.
Really, I wish you luck.
12/14/2010
It would be obvious if your'e "trying" very hard, so don't over do it Just be natural and yourself, that will give the best impression.
12/14/2010
If offered something unusual to eat, simply say no thank you instead of outright turning your nose up at it.
I admit in situations like this (though there have only been two) it's the one thing I have to remind myself the most not to do. I'm terribly picky.
Smile, be polite, engage, don't monopolize and prepare yourself to have him torn from you without a moment's notice to 'talk with the boys' and you're left standing with the other wives.
I admit in situations like this (though there have only been two) it's the one thing I have to remind myself the most not to do. I'm terribly picky.
Smile, be polite, engage, don't monopolize and prepare yourself to have him torn from you without a moment's notice to 'talk with the boys' and you're left standing with the other wives.
12/14/2010
Do not become intoxicated; nerves might make you want to drink more than usual: don't.
Be yourself: people can tell when you're putting on an act.
Relax: it's just dinner.
Be yourself: people can tell when you're putting on an act.
Relax: it's just dinner.
12/14/2010
Smile, and be you...that should, if it's good enough for your guy that is all that matters. Really. J came from nothing and married into my family. My dad is very well off and J was nervous about that. Trust me...wealthy people are just like everyone else. J's mom can't deal with my family because she tries so hard to be like them...J...not so much. His first WOW moment with my dad was when we were on my dad's boat and dad lost the key (it was in his shirt pocket). An hour into looking J said "you ass! It's in your pocket!!" I thought my dad was going to pass out he was laughing so hard. They get along wonderfully now because J treated him like anyone else.
I am sure if you ask him, your guy will tell you to be yourself. When we go to work stuff for J I just stay close (it makes me more comfortable) and it turns out well. Why? Because I know at the end of the night he loves me and nothing else matters.
I am sure if you ask him, your guy will tell you to be yourself. When we go to work stuff for J I just stay close (it makes me more comfortable) and it turns out well. Why? Because I know at the end of the night he loves me and nothing else matters.
12/14/2010
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Be yourself and don't try too hard.
Originally posted by
D&&JForever
We have to have Christmas Dinner with his boss tonight, I am super nervous. His boss is a millionaire, And apparently has several other very wealthy friends accompanying him. Plus My Fiance' entire office, which is relatively small. I came from
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We have to have Christmas Dinner with his boss tonight, I am super nervous. His boss is a millionaire, And apparently has several other very wealthy friends accompanying him. Plus My Fiance' entire office, which is relatively small. I came from an upper middle class family and am about to marry into an upper middle- high class family. I'm just very very nervous. What can I do to calm myself and ensure that disaster doesn't hit??
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Be classy not flashy!
12/14/2010
Well we went to dinner last night, I wore a long skirt black leather, that had a slit up to my knees in the back and a red top that was very fitted but didn't show cleavage. I paired it with a pair of black High heeled boots. My Fiance is a Jeweler so I wore pearls. They are classy but not over done. I smiled a lot, and to my surprise, it all went perfectly. My Nervousness vanished withing minutes of meeting everyone. It was a large group...so I just had to play nice with the ppl who sat close to us. Luckily it was a local officer and his wife, both of them were very nice. I sat at the end of the table and somehow it made me feel more comfortable. My fiance's boss was very nice, he wasn't anything like I had imagined from the various things that I had heard. TY all for your help!
12/15/2010
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Yay!!! Success!
Originally posted by
D&&JForever
Well we went to dinner last night, I wore a long skirt black leather, that had a slit up to my knees in the back and a red top that was very fitted but didn't show cleavage. I paired it with a pair of black High heeled boots. My Fiance is a
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more
Well we went to dinner last night, I wore a long skirt black leather, that had a slit up to my knees in the back and a red top that was very fitted but didn't show cleavage. I paired it with a pair of black High heeled boots. My Fiance is a Jeweler so I wore pearls. They are classy but not over done. I smiled a lot, and to my surprise, it all went perfectly. My Nervousness vanished withing minutes of meeting everyone. It was a large group...so I just had to play nice with the ppl who sat close to us. Luckily it was a local officer and his wife, both of them were very nice. I sat at the end of the table and somehow it made me feel more comfortable. My fiance's boss was very nice, he wasn't anything like I had imagined from the various things that I had heard. TY all for your help!
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12/15/2010
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YAY!!!!
Originally posted by
D&&JForever
Well we went to dinner last night, I wore a long skirt black leather, that had a slit up to my knees in the back and a red top that was very fitted but didn't show cleavage. I paired it with a pair of black High heeled boots. My Fiance is a
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more
Well we went to dinner last night, I wore a long skirt black leather, that had a slit up to my knees in the back and a red top that was very fitted but didn't show cleavage. I paired it with a pair of black High heeled boots. My Fiance is a Jeweler so I wore pearls. They are classy but not over done. I smiled a lot, and to my surprise, it all went perfectly. My Nervousness vanished withing minutes of meeting everyone. It was a large group...so I just had to play nice with the ppl who sat close to us. Luckily it was a local officer and his wife, both of them were very nice. I sat at the end of the table and somehow it made me feel more comfortable. My fiance's boss was very nice, he wasn't anything like I had imagined from the various things that I had heard. TY all for your help!
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12/15/2010
Glad it went well!
12/15/2010
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I've gotta agree.
Originally posted by
Chilipepper
Don't over (or under) dress, and don't over-glitz. Be tasteful in clothing, jewelry, make-up, hair, and discussions. Give friendly smiles. Follow conversations, you don't really have to initiate them. NEVER monopolize the conversation.
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Don't over (or under) dress, and don't over-glitz. Be tasteful in clothing, jewelry, make-up, hair, and discussions. Give friendly smiles. Follow conversations, you don't really have to initiate them. NEVER monopolize the conversation. Use excellent table manners. Drink moderately or a bit less than that.
Really, I wish you luck. less
Really, I wish you luck. less
I was dating this guy and he was really well off, very gorgeous and brilliant family. I come from a single mom home, and my mom raised me in jeans and tennis shoes and I was near dying when he told me about this dinner. How could he do this to me?
He took me out, bought me a gorgeous cocktail dress, and some shoes. He was very patient with the fact that I was scared.
At the dinner, I just smiled and nodded. I just made sure not to giggle too loud or say something stupid. I was afraid.
Finally, I sat down on the couch while the men smoked in another room, and struck it up with another woman. She too, was bored and didn't like all this stuffiness. After a few martinis, she said she really liked me and was glad I was so down to the earth. We exchanged names, and I discovered she was my boyfriend's boss' wife.
I almost dropped my glass, but it was all cool. When they came back, she told her husband how delightful and a breath of fresh air I was.
Be yourself but snazzy.
Don't talk about shit you don't know.
Honestly just don't ever this, LOL
12/15/2010
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I am glad it went so well
Originally posted by
D&&JForever
Well we went to dinner last night, I wore a long skirt black leather, that had a slit up to my knees in the back and a red top that was very fitted but didn't show cleavage. I paired it with a pair of black High heeled boots. My Fiance is a
...
more
Well we went to dinner last night, I wore a long skirt black leather, that had a slit up to my knees in the back and a red top that was very fitted but didn't show cleavage. I paired it with a pair of black High heeled boots. My Fiance is a Jeweler so I wore pearls. They are classy but not over done. I smiled a lot, and to my surprise, it all went perfectly. My Nervousness vanished withing minutes of meeting everyone. It was a large group...so I just had to play nice with the ppl who sat close to us. Luckily it was a local officer and his wife, both of them were very nice. I sat at the end of the table and somehow it made me feel more comfortable. My fiance's boss was very nice, he wasn't anything like I had imagined from the various things that I had heard. TY all for your help!
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12/15/2010
I'm very glad to hear that everything went well!
12/16/2010
I was an officer in the army, so we had to entertain "big wigs" all the time. My wife just studied a lot of stuff for dinner etiquit and listened to what people were saying, then chimed in when she thought she could intelligently add to the conversation. We were lucky that most situations like this called for the other officers to bring their wifes with them, that a way they could talk to each other.
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